7 years ago, the "derailment door" that changed the fate of two people has not yet passed.
Author:Jia Ming (Columnist of Fushu)
She came back anyway.
A few days ago, Yao Di, who had disappeared for more than a year, suddenly announced that she was the female number one of the new drama.
But apparently, netizens are not willing to share her good news.
The two consecutive top praise microblogs are accusations:
"Anyone can be an artist this year."
"Don't you have to apply for a comeback?"
"It's so faceless."
7 years ago, the "derailment door" that changed the fate of two people has not yet passed.
"After 7 years of cheating, they are not doing well"
7 years ago, Ma Yili was resting at home after giving birth to her second child, and the news of the article's derailment came out.
Subsequently, the article apologized overnight, and Ma Yili issued the famous sentence "Do it and cherish it".
And the Yao Di sandwiched in the middle suddenly became the "little three" referred to by thousands of people. Originally at the peak of her career, she has since plummeted, and few people have looked for her to shoot dramas.
After starring in several tepid TV series, she gradually disappeared. Once the top stream, now the heat is not as hot as the fourth-tier stars.
What's even more frightening is that no matter what she plays from now on, as long as people see her, they can think of a word: little three.
Over the years, netizens have changed from session to session. The fans who chased her at the beginning have long been married and started a family and quit Weibo, but the people who scolded her have never been less.
Last year, she was also scolded for quitting Weibo.
And the male protagonist article?
After the infidelity, he appeased his wife while saving the role of "good husband". He and Ma Yili appeared in various shopping malls and accompanied their daughter shopping together.
Still at the birthday party, he knelt down and proposed to Ma Yili again.
Unfortunately, 5 years later, the two divorced.
Not only love, but his career is not going well.
Over the years, he has made many dramas, but they have not been cut or delayed. Some TV series have not passed the approval even for 3 years.
Some time ago, some netizens broke the article that now rely on opening bars to make a living, and also released a group photo.
The 37-year-old article, after some struggle, seems to have confessed.
It was a typical extramarital affair ending.
The affair is discovered, the love family falls apart, and the person who made the mistake has no chance to repent.
In 19 years, Li Xiaolu was exposed to the "overnight stay at the door" incident.
Since then, her acting career has basically stopped. No drama, no endorsement, about the same as being removed from the film and television circle.
And her cheating partner, Pgone?
He was once a beautiful person, but now he has also been completely banned and disappeared.
It is difficult to say that when the two were together, PGONE did not love Li Xiaolu at all. It's just that this love is more fragile than paper paste.
Because men also care about their feathers, once their reputation is damaged, they will quickly turn from love to hate.
Therefore, most of the exposed extramarital affairs end in a lose-lose situation: Xiao San loses his man, and the man loses his reputation.
It's a lose-lose game.
The so-called "love" after marriage is often just an illusion
There is also a situation in extramarital affairs, that is, the man swears to die and divorce the original partner.
Because they feel that they have met true love.
This is called: what is not obtained, is always in turmoil.
A reader told me one thing. Her girlfriend's mother, Aunt Hao, married Uncle Wang when she was young.
In the first twenty years of their marriage, both of them were very affectionate, and Aunt Hao also gave birth to a son and a daughter. It's just that this happiness ended when my son was fifteen years old.
Uncle Wang gradually began not to go home, and at first, Aunt Hao did not let go of bad thoughts. Until one day, Uncle Wang really couldn't hold back, and took the initiative to showdown, saying that he had an affair and wanted to divorce.
The aunt cried and made trouble, but the more this happened, the more Uncle Wang felt that Xiao San was considerate and gentle. It is not indispensable, even the daughter is not wanted.
After the divorce, he couldn't wait to marry Xiao San.
What about later? I asked the reader.
Later, less than a year after marriage, Xiao San slowly "showed its original form". Started not cooking, started not doing housework. The two often quarrel over trivial matters.
The uncle couldn't stand it and didn't go home at first. Unexpectedly, Xiao San ran to find his parents. His mother was furious and went to the hospital.
As a daughter-in-law, Xiao San did not go to see it once.
Uncle Wang hated her so much that she had ruined the whole family.
But in fact, it was never the men themselves who destroyed this home?
The red rose that was once dreamed of has finally become a trace of mosquito blood on the wall.
In fact, most marriages are slowly flattening after marriage. The guy who used to dress up every time they meet is now starting to burp and fart in front of you.
Lovers, slowly become brothers.
At this time, the wildflowers on the side of the road are particularly attractive. You look at each other and think you've found a soul mate for the rest of your life.
As everyone knows, when the passion subsides, most of the rest are chicken feathers.
Gu Jia in "Thirty Only" can be called a model of a perfect wife. Regardless of career or life, help Xu Huanshan to keep it in order.
Xu Huanshan gradually felt depressed about Gu Jia's rules and regulations. Lin Youyou appeared and completely released his nature.
Gu Jia did not let him eat dinner, Lin You had this; Gu Jia did not let him play football, Lin You had this can.
Lin Youyou has a favorite blue fireworks. He knew the fireworks were at risk of exploding and continued to store them. Eventually, he went to jail for a fireworks explosion.
At this time, Lin Youyou was gone, leaving only Gu Jia to clean up the mess.
Do not deny that after marriage may meet the heartthrob again.
But then what? Likes have a shelf life, and new people will become old people.
Those feelings that are combined by the novelty will eventually end because the freshness fades.
Stolen feelings really can't last.
The undeserved brilliance in life must eventually be repaid with loneliness
Men aside, women who are junior three usually have two reasons: for money or love.
But the most common ending is two empty. Because those old men were never vegetarians.
Economist Lang Xianping taught Xiao San a lesson: without that skill, don't want to lie down and make money.
In 2012, Lang Xianping and a flight attendant surnamed Miao met and lived with Miss Miao when they had a wife. He bought two expensive houses in Shanghai and a valuable luxury car, all in Miss Miao's name.
Later, the two broke up, and he took Miss Miao to court. He even called his original wife and demanded that the other party return the purchase price on the grounds that the house and the car were common property in the marriage.
Not only that, he also sued the shell company whose legal representative was Xiao San, so that Miss Miao was saddled with more than 9 million yuan in debt for no reason.
There are not many examples of men like this who have fallen out with Xiao San and gone to his wife to deal with Xiao San, at least there are many around me.
In fact, for many couples, what keeps them married is not love, but the interests of both parties.
The wife who has accompanied the man for many years has already formed a community of interests with him. Their friends, social circles, and networking resources are all deeply tied together. Neither wants to leave the other.
The love that is happy at first sight is still unable to withstand the family affection that people have been getting along for decades.
Teacher Luo Xiang once told a classic case.
There was a little girl in Beijing who became a small third who was the boss of a state-owned enterprise. After the two were better for a year, the boss dumped Xiao San.
Xiao San found this boss and said that you should pay me 400,000 youth loss fees, otherwise I would go to the door of your unit to make trouble.
As a result, the boss did not do two things and directly called the police. The court sentenced the stewardess to 4 years in prison for extortion.
This case is actually very similar to the Wu Xiubo case three years ago. After the breakup, Xiao San was not willing, and as a result, the money did not arrive, and he also put himself in it.
Why is this sentenced?
Teacher Luo Xiang explained: "The law should advocate the values of goodness, and the behavior of the third child to ask for money should be condemned. ”
Zweig writes: "All the gifts of fate have long been secretly priced. ”
The world is fair. If you enjoy the blessings you shouldn't enjoy, you will end up eating suffering that you don't need to eat.
Those undeserved brilliance in life, in the end, must be repaid with loneliness.
There is no perfect marriage, only a perfect partner
There are couples in their 90s who have been married for many years and the two rarely quarrel.
Someone asked what was the secret of their happy marriage.
The old woman replied, "Before marriage, I made a list of ten mistakes, and as long as he made them, forgive him. ”
Someone next to me asked, is that uncle rarely makes mistakes?
The old woman smiled and said, "How could it be, it's just that I forgot what those 10 mistakes were." As long as he makes a mistake, I should be one of the 10. ”
In just a few words, the truth of marriage was told.
What really sustains marriage is never love, but tolerance and understanding.
Because the splendor is so bland, even the strongest love has a dull day. Just like the person who once wanted to be a conjoined baby with you, now there is no chat record for several days.
If you can't tolerate each other's shortcomings at that time, it is really difficult to continue to go.
Just like Li Ao, at first he said that Hu Yinmeng was a fairy in his heart. Soon after getting married, he regretted it:
"One day I pushed open the bathroom door and saw that the beard on the toilet was red with constipation, and the expression was vicious, which was really unbearable."
After the passion receded, he dreamed of Hu Yin, and all that was left was boredom.
A truly long-term marriage should not be just a lonely impulse, but should have the responsibility of taking care of each other;
Is no matter what you look like, he will like it;
It is that even if you see a lot of scenery along the road, you still insist on walking with you to the end.
Fu Seoul said a passage that is appropriate to put here:
"There are so many couples in the world, not every couple is kind and loving. Most ordinary people's marriages are partnerships, and there are many emotions that overcome difficulties together. ”
yes. The person who can always firmly accompany you is the rest of your life.
Saw a picture the other day.
Fifty years later, at the same time, in the same place, with the same person.
The person who loves you the most is still around.
Perhaps, than those couples kissing on the street, this kind of old man who supports each other in the deep alley is more worthy of envy.
Some people say that love is extreme, either strange or lifelong.
It's easy to fall in love, it's hard to stay together.
The best love is not that I had you when I was young, but that I can be a companion for the rest of my life when I am old.
When I was eighty years old, I still had the love of eighteen years old in my eyes;
It is to turn this expectation of loving one person with one person in one lifetime into reality.
In this life, with this one person, it is enough.
Give it a thumbs up, may you fall in love with your significant other until you are old.
About the author: Jia Ming, columnist of Fushu, and 5 million people to upgrade the cognition of life, the new book "Good Life" is selling, the source of this article: Franklin Book Club, unauthorized, may not be reprinted