Hu Xing'er, the absolute "desperate sanlang". Not only five years of hugging, but also within 58 days after giving birth, you can quickly adjust your state and put into work.
However, recently her "good man" husband Li Chengde has overturned the car, and the reason for the overturning is actually to bring a baby.
From the "model husband" praised by everyone to the ridiculed "soft rice man of the century", is Li Chengde really a "wife treasure"?
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="7" >01, "Playing with dolls every day, really a century of soft rice men"? </h1>
Recently, Hu Xing'er's husband Li Chengde posted several photos of his son walking in the rain on social platforms.
In the photo, the two little ones have completely inherited the good genes of their parents and mothers. Wearing a yellow raincoat hand in hand, a soft and sticky ball, very cute.
However, such a warm and loving picture was quickly aroused by a comment at the bottom.
"You are really the soft rice man of the century." Take the children to play during the day, and the wife has to go back to the mainland to shoot hard after giving birth to the child. ”
"Century Soft Rice Man", this hat is not lightly buttoned.
It may be because the difference in the painting style presented by Hu Xing'er and his wife to the outside world has a lot to do with it.
Hu Xing'er, who gave birth to three children, has a lively career. Filming, endorsements, running announcements, doing interviews, busy every day.
He can also work hard to balance his work and career, and run back to Hong Kong to spend time with his family whenever he has time.
In contrast, her husband Li Chengde's daily life is a bit single.
Often it is not a baby, or it is on the way to the baby.
In the face of netizens' doubts, Li Bingde Versailles replied:
"I've been doing things with my heart for decades. Now there are several companies, this year's business is good, you can have less time to accompany children, family and children are the most important, I hope you will understand. ”
Subsequently, Hu Xing'er sent a long text to support her husband:
The husband relies on hard work to have today, has achieved financial freedom, and tries to accompany the child when he has time;
Both women and men should be respected as long as they pursue their dreams.
The couple worked together and were very convincing.
The reason is simple: she meets real teammates, not pig teammates.
Li Chengde has a successful career, but he did not take advantage of this as a handshake, but took the initiative to shoulder the responsibility of taking the baby, so that his wife had no scruples to pursue her dreams.
This safety and confidence makes Hu Xing'er live wantonly and flying on the shadow road, and also makes this family of five, every time it appears in the public eye, always looks like a quiet year.
Contrary to their husband and wife, there is nothing in a family that fears the most: a husband who is absent, a mother-in-law who is offside.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="121" >02, behind widowed parenting, those lonely mothers</h1>
During the outbreak of the epidemic in Nanjing, we saw too many touching pictures, and we also saw the coldness and indifference of human nature.
What is even more ironic is that some of the flow reports, like looking at the mirror of the demon, clearly dangling reflect out:
Some families are the husband's free hotel; some marriages are the battlefield of the wife alone.
The action trajectory of the diagnosed cleaning aunt in Nanjing was exposed, revealing the "truth" of how many mothers' lives. In the "repetitive" life, there are only home, training courses, work places, three points and one line.
17 transfers in 11 days, early departure and late return, rain or shine.
Doesn't she have her own leisure time?
Yes.
"On July 17th, 18:30-19:00, go to the surrounding square."
In more than ten days, only half an hour.
Women are weak, but mothers are strong. Judging from her flow trajectory, these more than ten days of widowed parenting and widowhood-style home keeping reflect her normal life.
It can be seen that her husband's absence is unquestionable.
The words in the report are far from describing the complexity, repetition, triviality and chaos of real life. What is even more frightening is that the same tragedy is still playing out repeatedly.
In "Super Parenting", there was a mother who almost went crazy by two children.
She was always angry at the quarrels between her two children, and finally made herself embarrassed.
Under the constant guidance of the nursery, the truth about mom's irritability surfaced:
There are not only two naughty children in the family, but also a husband who cooks porridge on the phone at home after work every day, does not care about anything, and accuses his wife of not doing well enough.
Even more absolutely, there is her husband's "grievances":
"Before she got married, she was a particularly gentle and individualistic woman, but since having her first child, she has become so incomprehensible."
Getting married, it seems, is not to marry a husband, but to raise a son. The consumption of women in such "child-added" marriages is no less than that of widowhood and widowhood.
There are even "sons and husbands" who have a virtuous wife at home, travel east and west, and are dashing alone.
Recently, the trajectory of a confirmed man in Yantai, Shandong Province, is indignant.
Dare to derail in front of the people of the whole country, he really dares!
According to the circulation report, the man spent only two days with his wife and sick daughter during the nine-day trip.
The remaining 7 days, together with his friend "Wang Mou", eat together, live together, and visit the photo studio.
Angry netizens directly scolded: what "friend Wang", it is clear that "there is a home outside the home".
Wang's identity, we can not assert, but it is undeniable that the husband's absence in the marriage.
What is even more frightening is that the widowed family is not only a torment to the mother, but also a "spiritual destruction" of the child.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="122" >03, dad is useless, what will happen to the child? </h1>
"Widowed parenting" is not only a torment for women, but also a huge hidden danger for children:
• It is easy to lose your child's self-confidence
Fathers play an important role in the growth of their children, the embodiment of courage and strength. The absence of the father for a long time will cause the child to become inferior.
This oppression will come from the incomprehension of peers, or the ridicule and strange eyes. Either way is enough to make the child physically and mentally exhausted and fall into the psychological vortex of inferiority.
• Misleading the child's self-positioning
In the process of children's growth, the lack of father's role will make the child lack the necessary growth reference object, and the lack of father makes the child's growth object only female.
Children's behavior and thinking patterns are easy to imitate the mother, especially boys, over time the child will become more and more feminine, serious will become people often called "girly".
• Easy to cause family disharmony
In "widowed parenting", mothers will become physically and mentally exhausted, emotionally irritable and complaining.
Children who grow up in such an environment are prone to become inferior and sensitive or irritable and timid and unconfident.
With the opening of the national three-child policy, many women have made it clear: no birth.
The reason is not "old age, pregnancy is uncomfortable, childbirth pain", but "husband can't point fingers, dare not give birth".
And those women who dare to have three children, in addition to abundant material conditions, the most important reason is that in the long years of bittersweet companionship, they do not have to fight alone, do not have to be humiliated.
The men around them carefully accompany, accept and understand, share together, and move forward side by side.
The family is the harbor of husband and wife, marriage is the practice of both parties, and children are the common responsibility.
Not being a cloud spouse, raising children is not a sentiment, but a common duty and responsibility.
Only by moving forward hand in hand is the best companionship and the best "body teaching" for children.