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In recent years, there have been more and more talent shows of various types, and many people have stepped into the entertainment industry.
But after a draft, a few people have successfully debuted, and more people can only end up lonely.
What will the "idols" who have failed to do?
Cai Zhengjie, born in 2000, debuted as a member of the Odyssey group in 17 years.
In 18 years, he participated in "Children of Tomorrow" and became a trainee of "Creation Camp" in 19 years.
During the "Creation Camp" period, Cai Zhengjie was known as the "façade bearer" of the team because of his outstanding appearance, and he also accumulated millions of fans on social platforms.
However, he eventually failed to make his debut, and gradually "did not find this person" in the entertainment industry.
A few days ago, some netizens were visiting a clothing brand store and found that Cai Zhengjie was working as a cashier in the store.
According to reports, the brand store is located in Sanlitun, Beijing, and has high requirements for the appearance of cashiers, with an hourly salary of about 80 yuan.
Recently, also caused a hot discussion, there is also the Japanese player Shinshiro Munwaki of this year's "Creation Camp".
For the sake of the artist's dream, he went to China as a trainee, but unfortunately he could not reach the end.
After elimination, he returned to Japan to resume his old business - food delivery.
From the highly anticipated idol to the ordinary people who returned to the ordinary, 21-year-old Cai Zhengjie and 27-year-old Menwaki Shingang gradually drifted away from their companions who once chased their dreams together.
Their experience reminds me of a conceptual thumb rule of economics:
In contemporary society, in many fields, if you do not become a minority "thumbs up", it is difficult to have a living space.
The truth in the workplace is that first-class talents win all, second- and third-rate talents have no living space, and you are either outstanding or out.
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Writer Li Shanglong wrote an article mentioning that he participated in an English speech contest during his college years.
After entering the arena, the judges walked in and said: This year's format has changed.
Before that, the competition logic was very simple, at the end of the speech, the judges and guests began to score, judging according to the score, and everyone did not know their ranking before the score.
But that time, the rules of the game all changed. In front of the judges, there were only two lights, one called passing and the other called leaving. There are no intermediate options, no pending options, either outstanding or out.
After that game, he watched many TV shows closely, almost all of them like this, either selected or eliminated.
The audience looked simple, the judges were difficult to choose, and although the forms varied, the overall trend became the same: Yes or no? I want you or I don't want you.
He once asked a TV person why it is so cruel, and it is not okay to make it more comfortable to make it a while. Do you have to be so cruel that people can't get off the stage?
The TV man replied with a sentence that he would never forget: "Isn't life so cruel?" ”
Yes, the cruelty of life lies in this, you think you have mastered the rules, and when you are about to have a bright future, the rules may be completely overturned overnight.
Just like the 48-year-old former executive of a foreign company who wrote a letter to the mayor of Shanghai a while ago.
In the first 20 years of the workplace, he has been very good at mixing in foreign companies, believing that he is fluent in English and has excellent management ability and business ability.
But as soon as he lost his job, he found that he could no longer find a suitable job in society.
Unable to find a job for two years, he attributed the reason to the "discrimination" of older youth by enterprises, who were "empty of skills and ambitions but had no way to serve the country."
After that, the government intervened to introduce him to the job, and after interviewing a number of companies, he chose to join a private enterprise as the vice president of the marketing department.
He thought it was a big deal for everyone, but after another 1 month of employment, he quit his job and left because he didn't like the atmosphere of the company.
The slightly "childish" reason for leaving also makes people understand why he has been unemployed for 2 years.
Luo Zhenyu once said: "You like the quiet years, but in fact, the reality is that the river is rushing."
Real life will not bargain with anyone, and people who can't recognize reality will be eliminated sooner or later.
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Writer Divine Nap before engaged in pension work, researched a large number of elderly people's lives,
She found that whether a person is doing well in old age is closely related to whether or not to plan ahead.
Many of the elderly who have planned to solve the problem of old-age care by themselves since they are young are accustomed to solving problems by themselves.
Even when they are old enough to really need help, they will plan very well in advance. For example, group with friends to carefully choose a pension community or institution early, and make economic plans as soon as possible.
Even if they run to their children, they will make detailed plans. For example, buying a house where your children are staying, adapting to local life when you are still healthy, and making various preparations for going to the pension institution where your children are staying in the future.
It is precisely because of the conscious perennial maintenance of independent problem-solving ability, so in this part of the elderly, many of the age can take care of themselves.
And those who have made up their minds to raise children and prevent the elderly, many of them have given up their spiritual independence when their legs and feet can move, waiting for their children to solve everything for themselves, and the content of daily life is to complain that their children do not go home to accompany them.
In the early days, they often behaved extremely willfully, refusing to migrate to their children's locations, and constantly asking their children to "go home and see" often.
When they are too old to move, they will agree to go to their children's pension, but they may not even be able to take the transportation.
And this kind of people who do not understand planning generally enter the stage of being inseparable from people earlier, and the decline of intelligence and physical strength occurs earlier.
The divine nap lamented, "Different attitudes towards life will lead to huge differences in the quality of life of the elderly."
This is true for retirement, and it is also true for individual careers.
According to the current speed of social evolution, even if it does not reach the "vicissitudes of the sea", it can still talk about "drastic changes in the situation".
People who know how to plan ahead and plan ahead, even if the waves come, they have enough ability to fight back.
On the other hand, those who are confused at work, when a monk hits a day's clock, do not say that they become "thumbs", may not even be "little thumbs", and it is easy to be eliminated.
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2 tips for you who want to make great strides in the cruel workplace:
(1) Cultivate the habit of thinking about reasonable risk-taking
P&G once circulated an unwritten rule that if an employee did not make a mistake for three months, he would not only not be praised, but would be regarded as an unqualified employee.
In this regard, Chairman Bai Bo explained: This proves that in these three months, he has done nothing.
We don't know the truth of the rumors, but many people fail less because they stop in their comfort zone.
For example, after graduation, some young people find relatively stable institutions, stable incomes, relatively unsaturated jobs, so it is easy to relax their self-requirements, and after five or ten years, they will suddenly find that society has undergone tremendous changes.
If there is an unexpected unemployment at this time, then the career will encounter huge challenges and it will be difficult to adapt.
In a sense, the continuous control of small failures is actually to avoid the big failures that have a significant impact.
Conforming to the crowd, not taking risks, seemingly no risks, is actually the biggest risk.
Life is a marathon, the sooner failures and mistakes are made and controlled within a certain range, then the more likely it is to run smoothly to the end, rather than falling on the big heels in the middle and back and never getting up again.
(2) Investment career reserve account
In modern society, fewer and fewer people will work in an organization until retirement, and it is inevitable to encounter various career changes.
A career is like saving, knowing how to accumulate a lot of things in order to prepare for unforeseen needs.
American writer Jon Arkaff once proposed a formula for career reserve:
Career Reserve Account = (Connections + Skills + Character) × diligent
The addition term in this formula has 3 factors, the network represents who you are, the skill represents what you will do, the character represents what kind of person you are, and the multiplication term factor is diligent and will multiply the 3 factors.
If you want to be competitive in the workplace, these 4 factors are best to go hand in hand, without obvious shortcomings. Otherwise, the short board factor will significantly affect the play of other long board factors.
Learn to invest in career reserve accounts early in order to prepare for career crises early.
Tagore said: "There are some things that cannot wait. If you have to fight or gain the best position in the market, you can't help but charge, run and stride forward. ”
In modern society, people who do not covet the comfort of the moment and always focus their eyes on higher places can always maintain a place in an uncertain world.
Encourage you.