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Today I would like to share with you a thing that almost made my jaw drop, related to every parent, it is worth quietly and seriously watching.
What happened to John Watson, who said, "Give me a dozen babies and I can raise them to be anybody"?
For the first and only time in the history of human development, human infants were studied as subjects, and this person was John Watson, the father of American behaviorist psychology, who once swept the American parenting circle with a series of cruel experiments and scientific conclusions on babies.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="68" > the "Little Albert Experiment" that became famous in World War I</h1>
To test the effects of external stimuli on human behavior, John Watson personally designed the infamous "Little Albert Experiment, in which a baby was just over eight months old."
The first stage of the experiment: put mice, small white rabbits, dogs, monkeys and other cute little animals to little Albert, little Albert did not show fear, but reached out to touch them.
The second stage of the experiment: when little Albert was about to touch the mouse, Watson made a harsh, frightening noise behind him, which made little Albert cry, and so on.
Conclusion of the experiment: Little Albert went from liking plush animals at first to seeing stuffed animals later showing great pain and resistance.
John Watson became famous in world war I, firmly believing that "human behavior can be trained and shaped like machines." So much so that he uttered his astonishing quote:
"Give me a dozen sound babies and bring them into my unique world. I can guarantee that one of them will be chosen at random and trained to be any type of person of my choosing: a doctor, a lawyer, an artist, a merchant, or a beggar or a thief, regardless of his talents, inclinations, abilities, ancestral occupations and races. —John Watson, founder of behaviorism
With the publication of John Watson's experimental paper, his theory quickly became famous in the American parenting circle, because with this "successful experiment", his series of parenting methods such as "cry immunization method", "delayed gratification method", "infant independent sleep method", etc., became a good medicine for American parents to discipline bear children.
As everyone knows, time is the only criterion for testing truth.
The fall of the results of the experiment is a painful price
In 1918, the earliest attempt year for human infants and young children to be tested, starting with Watson, now 100 years later, let's see what happened to the children who were trained by Watson.
01/Little Albert
Online searches say that little Albert died of hydrocephalus when he was only 6 years old, and some say that he lived until the age of 87, but his fear of stuffed animals and objects accompanied him for life.
02/Watson's children
Watson not only made this research public, but also applied it to the parenting of his own children, but, unfortunately, every child has different degrees of depression, among which, after the eldest son's repeated suicide attempts, his life ended at the age of 30, and the daughter's severe depression even affected the third generation.
His sons described Watson as follows: "There is no compassion and emotionally incommunicable person." He unconsciously stripped me and my brother of any kind of emotional foundation. ”
A hundred years ago, how popular John Watson's discovery was, and a hundred years later, how alarming John Watson's claim was, and the star family Ma Yili also mentioned the impact during the first and second births:
It is no exaggeration to say that John Watson's "cry immunization method", "delayed gratification method", "infant independent sleep method", etc., there are still many places in the world that are respected, this kind of parenting method that tries to cut off emotional connection seems cool, scientific and effective, but is it really appropriate for us to treat only 1-2 parenting opportunities in a lifetime and the irreversible growth of children? It's thought-provoking.
Parenting Warning 1: Never use the "Cry Immunization Method" to delay the critical period of attachment relationship building
0-6 months is a critical period for babies to establish attachment relationships with their parents, and the child's first attachment is whether it is mom or dad, or loneliness and autism due to lack of security, which is determined.
We can respond by judging the cry, and for the child, the parent's response is the light. There are newborns at home, you can read my article: There are newborns at home: read crying, easily take a baby
Parenting Warning 2: Never use the "Delayed Gratification Method" to leave your child in isolation
For a weak and slender new life, there is no better love than this except to give him meticulous care, and parents who understand the stage of infant growth and development know that children before the age of 3 have no rules to talk about, because his brain development cannot be understood.
Children after the age of 3, began to enter the rule establishment period, raw and rigid "delayed gratification method", will only make the child more disappointed and frustrated, at this time, do a good job, and do what you say, this is more conducive to establishing a sense of rules for children than delayed gratification.
Parenting Warning 3: Never use the "Baby Independent Sleep Method" to separate your intimate time
Children have the ability to sleep in separate rooms, probably 5-7 years old, and before the age of 5, it is precisely the stage when children need their parents the most.
This is a very rare parent-child intimate time, put together a bed, why not, believe me, when the child grows up, you want him to sleep with you, it will no longer be easy.
Looking at parenting with a long lens, there are no shortcuts to this parenting marathon, some are just "when you need me, I am here, when you don't need me, I watch you go far".
Children are not machines, children have thoughts and emotions, tearing emotions to see training and cultivation, we may not be able to do so. (End)
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