#长相普通的女生为什么会有很多男生追 #
Have you ever seen girls in your life who aren't very pretty, aren't in perfect shape, and almost no one notices them even when they're standing in the crowd?
However, behind them, there are often many suitors; when they encounter difficulties, there is always the opposite sex who will help; they are even pursued more times than those beautiful girls.
Many people may wonder, don't they all say that boys like beautiful and good-looking girls, why some girls who are mediocre-looking, or even not good-looking, can always get the favor of the opposite sex?
This problem can be roughly divided into two parts:
First, ordinary-looking girls themselves have a low sense of need, think that they are not good at chatting, and their souls are not interesting enough. Beautiful women will think that they have the right to choose, and there are better quality raider objects, bringing strong insecurity to boys.
There are two kinds of beauty for girls, one is external and the other is internal, the latter is more important. But most people see beautiful girls, and the first thought in their hearts is: Wow! So pretty! However, their subconscious will say to them: such a beautiful girl must have a lot of people chasing, so beautiful must already have an object, so beautiful must be in good condition... In turn, many boys will give up the pursuit, in short, the colored heart has no color guts.
In fact, what is more common in life is a small beauty of about 5 points, to say a cruel word, to talk about marriage and marry a step, are ordinary girls. For the sake of the face, we must work harder, because the value of the face can only bring empty praise, no practical use.
Second, boys believe that ordinary-looking girls have a high success rate and are safe, reliable and stable. At the first sight of ordinary looks, you will choose to pay attention to her inner, pay more attention to each other's adaptation, and have a strong desire to conquer.
Assuming that you are a person who is not very good at chatting, in the process of taking off the order, if you choose too many suitors around the object, it will cause a lot of pressure on yourself, and the desire to close it in time is also normal. If you are attracted to a person of the opposite sex the first time you see him/her, then it is possible that you are impressed by the temperament and appearance of the other party. And if you have a long-term relationship with a certain person of the opposite sex and have a good feeling, then it means that the other party impresses you, it must be something other than appearance.
Therefore, after getting along for a period of time, some boys will think that the beauty of 7 or 8 points is in line with the standard of their partner's appearance, but it does not meet the personality standard, so in the next love, they will pay more attention to personality matching and dilute the needs of appearance.
Seeing this, you may already have an answer in your heart, right?
The answer is: appearance is not a determinant of a person's attractiveness, and many things other than appearance can make a person exude a different charm.
In fact, in the adult world, no one is stupid: most of us know that among the characteristics of the partners we really love, "ordinary looks" are the least worth mentioning.
So what kind of girls can get the pursuit of others more?
From a psychological point of view, it is necessary to have the following three characteristics:
1. Empathy
Empathetic and empathetic girls can often feel each other's emotions and can roughly guess what he thinks. Because of this, they know how to respect others and how to maintain their self-esteem.
Second, focus and seriously
It is often said that serious women are the most beautiful. A girl who is very focused and serious about something shows that her heart has goals and pursuits, and she also has strict requirements for herself, and strives to do the best in things. Serious girls will give people a sense of solidity and reliability, let people be more assured of interacting with her, get along, can give their partners more sense of security, and can also bring more positive energy to the people around them.
Third, emotional self-control
A girl who can control her emotions often has stronger self-control, they are more mature, and they know how to effectively solve resources with methods other than emotions. Interacting with girls who have good emotional self-control, you will feel that falling in love is not a draining thing, but will feel more happy and secure, and can be better healed from this relationship.
In fact, emotional things where a physical appearance can stop, of course, it is not something that can be determined. A girl with three views, even if she doesn't look so pretty, they are also full of attraction, where is the reason not to look forward to getting along?