If it weren't for the news of "sending women a thousand roses along the way", the Internet would have almost forgotten Aunt Sue.
Last December, the 56-year-old middle-aged woman "escaped from a repressed family" to take a road trip, and once became a representative image of brave women.
Later, there were rumors that she had gone back to take care of her sick husband, and Aunt Sue came out to clarify that she was still on the road.
This is the last impression of most netizens on this matter.
There are exceptions, however. Since receiving attention last year, Aunt Su has been taking videos while traveling.
And now in the comment area of her video, there are many female netizens who come to talk about home and write "diaries" every day.
Some people complain that children are difficult to manage, husbands ignore the family, and some people talk about relatives and the pressure of life.
This "56-year-old woman who ran away from home", her comment section has become an "emotional tree hole" for countless ordinary women.
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When the comments section becomes a "grievance conference"
Click into Aunt Sue's account, the homepage is still a video from last year.
The picture is said to have been recorded with the help of the media during an interview, the mirror is very professional, and the text is obviously carefully crafted.
I want to take a leave of absence from life, not to be his wife, not to be a child, not to revolve around three meals a day...
I showed it to a friend, who said it was not as touching as the interview she had when she was fired: "It's a bit like a copy of a junior high school student's essay." ”
But in the comment area, it is another scene, and many people have said that they have "talked about the heart".
Among them, there are many women in their forties and fifties, who will call Aunt Su "sister" in messages, and the younger ones are also in their thirties.
I was deeply impressed by a netizen who used a rose as an avatar, and the ID name was "XX Baby".
She said: "I have to cry when I see this passage, and I don't want to be her mother, but I can only do this now." ”
I probably looked through the other videos and found that Aunt Sue now doesn't mention husband, family, escape, and depression much now.
The pictures are all about daily travel, such as how to cook at the camp and how to use electricity.
I rarely respond to comments. Those in the comments section are often talking to themselves.
But there are still people coming every day, like writing a letter that I don't know who to read.
A female netizen who has been married for 14 years said that she was "going crazy".
For more than ten years after the birth of the child, she was circling around the stove and the family. The husband was particularly picky and even had to manage the shape of the pepper.
"Sometimes I get angry inexplicably, and I feel like a crazy person, really like a psychopath."
In the end, I don't know who I am asking: "But the child is still young, and I really don't know what to do?" ”
Another netizen "XX Piao", the daughter has gone to college, but the elderly at home are sick and need to be taken care of.
She said in the message, "After retiring, I also want to drive like this, but I always feel unsafe and can't find anyone who can go with me." ”
There is also a reply below, saying that as long as you stay healthy, you can go with your husband in the future.
She scoffed: "Then I'd rather not go out with him than stay at home." ”
It's not just complaining.
In those purely everyday videos, many people are asking about Aunt Sue's experience with self-driving tours.
Not every one of them will get a reply, but it won't stop their enthusiasm.
See Aunt Su go to the gas station, ask how much oil money is a month, if it is not convenient to charge if it is to drive an electric car;
When she entered the mountain, she was worried about how to solve her mobile phone traffic and signal problems;
Every day there are tents, so "What about the bath?" Is it convenient to go to the toilet in the field? ”
Once Aunt Su said in the video that mosquitoes in the wild are particularly poisonous, and everyone simply discussed mosquito repellent experience in the comment area.
Sometimes pay attention to fans who are earlier, and they will also give answers to latecomers.
For example, about the issue of expenses - "Sister Su responded that the monthly expenditure is about 3,000 yuan, and she also has a pension herself."
Then the following heated discussion about what to do if you don't have a pension, and how much you spent on your last trip.
Looking at it makes you have an illusion, as if these people are all on the road.
Or maybe they wish they were on their way.
Although some people joke that the comment area is like a text version of "Old Lady Uncle", whether it is complaining, talking or small talk, it is actually just a "by-product".
For example, netizen "XXX Sunset", at the bottom of Aunt Su's fried mushroom video, discussed with people how to identify poisonous mushrooms, and later talked about recipes and talked about how troublesome it is to cook for children.
In the end, I was a little annoyed to see it, and I thought that this person was telling strangers everything.
But the sentence she left in the comment area at the beginning, in fact, these trivial things have nothing to do with it, and they are not even "poured out".
It's more about saying it to yourself – "Wait, sooner or later I'm going to live this life".
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"Send your kids to college,
I'm going on a road trip too."
"When my kids are older/retired/paid off their debts, I'm going to go out alone."
This is the sentence that appears most often in Aunt Sue's video comment section.
You can read two things from inside, one is envy.
Second, this envy belongs to the future, and there are conditions and time limits.
The reason why Aunt Su attracted so much attention last year, in addition to the difference in the "running away from home" thing, also stemmed from the "mother's job theory".
She said she "sent her daughter's child to kindergarten and fulfilled all the responsibilities of motherhood before she had a chance to come out."
Aunt Su, 56, came out, but they seemed to be still in the "crossing" in the comment area.
That's why they have promised this kind of long or short life check.
In fact, young friends in their 20s around them will also have "retirement dreams", and they will travel the world when they have saved enough money.
But it's more like expressing a yearning for some kind of life. And unlike here, the end of any conversation is to pour out bitterness.
Some people said that they forwarded the video of not being his wife, the child to their husbands, only to be questioned what do you mean;
Someone below said that she is a stay-at-home mother who has to look at her face every time she reaches out for money.
A 56-year-old female netizen like Aunt Su said that if she really went on a road trip, "her son and daughter-in-law would not agree."
"Like you, after taking your son and grandson, I don't know when it will be a head."
Someone said before that Aunt Sue compared it to a realistic version of the "end of the road".
It was two women living in a mediocre life, releasing their wild selves on a road escape.
The one that was even more desperate among the two was the blond-haired Selma.
From the beginning of the housewife who only promised to promise, to the end, she became a cruel person who dared to blow up the car, dared to rush the cliff, and was lawless.
When she yelled dirty words at her husband's phone and decided to continue running away with her girlfriend, many viewers felt handsome.
But Aunt Sue is not the selma, not even the "gentle version".
Helping your daughter take her child to kindergarten and then go out again – it's not actually an escape, it's more like "retiring" from family life.
But for many people, this is already the closest thing to reality, and it can be called a "rebellious dream".
So they hope to one day become Aunt Sue, and even dismantle all the elements of her body -
"After retirement, you must have your own income, but also be healthy, be able to drive, and learn to understand those electronic products, and there is no one to help you on the road."
I also saw a very cute big sister in the comment area, carefully studying how to take a driver's license.
I don't know why she learned from electric tricycles and rides them happily every day.
I just had a little confidence in learning to drive, and suddenly got lost on the street one day, and quickly felt that I was "not that piece of material at all."
There are also people who have the same disease with her: "After getting married, I am completely out of touch with society, and I feel lost when I go out alone." ”
The more the two people talked, the more anxious they became, and they saw that they were about to turn into a grievance conference.
A sister who has taken a driver's license for three years came out and made a final decision: "There is navigation to be afraid of anything, driving this thing is practice can make skill." ”
Then everyone became elated again. It was as if she was getting a little closer to the days that Aunt Su was living now.
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They will become
Next "Aunt Sue"?
But that's all for later.
Before that, they still planned to "fulfill the duties of their wives and mothers" like Aunt Sue.
I clicked into the homepage of many people out of curiosity, and found that their depression and complaints in Aunt Sue often disappeared without a trace after returning to their "home field".
For example, a netizen named "XXX Girl" said in the comment area that he was "tied to the family by a fledgling child".
But her daily videos are quite ghostly, pretending to "pull the erhu" with her thighs, and also with the action of shaking her head and shaking her head.
Dancing with friends when traveling to scenic spots, the little sister next to her is still a little shy, but she twists her crotch very hard.
There is also a second-born mother who has been married for more than ten years, that is, the one who said that she should look at her face when reaching for money.
The homepage is no different from the young "baby crazy" friends around me: take photos with the baby, take pictures of the baby's various cute looks.
I also like to study all kinds of food, make dumplings, make mooncakes, and add fancy love filters.
Something like this.
Just below a video of the two babies fighting, she can see a little unhappiness in the interaction with her friends complaining about "being a mediator a dozen times a day".
Saying that she felt that Aunt Su was a middle-aged sister who was a role model, she used special effects to make a "big diamond ring" for herself.
I also added a sentence at the bottom: "It seems that my hand is suitable for wearing a diamond ring."
There are friends at the bottom who joke "let your family XX send one".
She also said, "I can't afford to sell him, and he doesn't have the heart," with a little disdain.
I don't know if Aunt Sue's "escape" magnified the unsatisfactory feelings in her life, or whether they were just used to hiding those emotions.
Or they have already accepted endless responsibilities and accepted their "unfreedom."
There is a comment in the comment area that says "Just like a chick, it is useless for others to knock on your shell outside, you have to knock out the shell that is trapped by yourself."
But perhaps for many people, the outside of the egg is just a dream, and the inside of the egg is life.
When Aunt Su was on fire, the thing that just "fake Jin Dong deceived the middle-aged and elderly" was also pulled out.
At that time, someone always mentioned "Auntie's Postmodern Life" to set off how "sober in the world" Aunt Sue was.
Both young and middle-aged people feel that the aunt played by Szchenkova is very pitiful - never get emotional satisfaction, and will be cheated by a seemingly emotional man for money.
But the aunt at least went out, and more people who were feeling "trapped" did not.
Some people don't feel like Aunt Su can't go on, they just think that "it's a good idea";
Or go out and find that there is another kind of hardship, or live a familiar life.
Some people also say that when they really "have no worries" day, they probably can't play.
Few people can be Aunt Sue — but that doesn't mean that their talk, complaints, and rhetoric in the comments section is meaningless.
It's like I've been seeing the same person leaving a message under a lot of different videos.
Her avatar is a purple wildflower, and her messages are almost always short sentences, never complaining about her life.
I clicked on her homepage, which often posted a baby less than half a year old, who looked like a new grandmother. And in the overwhelming video of The Baby, there is a Vlog of Aunt Sue.
That video was about how to find a campground, and the number of likes could only be regarded as the mid-level level.
She forwarded the video to her homepage and rewrote the introduction.
The introduction has only six words - "Me ten years later".