<h2>1 What parents think is a good toy is not necessarily correct</h2>
Toys are also divided into "living toys" and "dead toys"? Indeed, there is, and as early as centuries ago in the West, and 100 years ago in the Republic of China, there was already such a clear classification of toys. And everyone usually understands the difference, those high-tech toys, can sound, glow, can also run, can fly, seemingly "living toys", in fact, is "dead toys"; those simplest toys, such as leather balls, building blocks, and even sand and stones that can not be turned into toys, look the most "dead toys", it is precisely "living toys".
Why do you say that, because "dead" and "alive" here refer to the movements and reactions of children when playing with toys. When playing with those electric toys, the child's movements are rigid, and the child's thinking is sluggish, so these toys are "dead toys". And those such as leather ball building blocks toys, children can shoot it, pinch her, swing it, shape it, it will show a kaleidoscopic form, at this time, the child's movements, is flexible, thinking, is the most creative, so these toys, is a "living toy".
With the development of science and technology and the development of business, toys can be described as varied and strange. However, if you follow the division of "dead toys" and "living toys", today's electric toys, image toys, educational toys, natural toys, etc. are classified one by one. You will find that most of the children's play time is controlled by "dead toys".
When the child was young, I was always keen to buy electric toys for the child, the colors were bright, the music was beautiful, and the children played with whatever they had, but the most interested was all kinds of balls. Every time he plays with the ball, the child always makes a cheerful sound in his mouth, and when he can climb, he chases the ball quickly, and the excited saliva flows to the ground; when he is older, he will go by himself, he will run and chase the ball upside down... On the contrary, for those toys that I find beautiful, playful and intellectual, always touch and look at and put aside. Since then, I have gradually discovered some children's interest in toys from these details, and I no longer buy toys indiscriminately.
Later, the children grew up a little. Auntie often takes her and a group of good friends in the community to run around to play, I often see aunts deliberately take children to play in a sandy field specially developed for children in the community, and every time the children play happily. I was very happy because I found that my understanding of toys and games was actually the same as my aunt's behavior from the most simple point of view! I also very much agree with my aunt's saying, "There is no need for many toys, one of the same kind is enough!" There is also an aunt for the child to play with each age of the toy has a choice, this is also where I learn, I often put all the toys in one place, but the aunt always chooses a few pieces to take out, the rest are put away, the aunt said: "Too many toys distract the child's attention, so that she can not focus on playing with a toy, which will affect her later growing up in the learning habits!" There is also the age at which to choose the right toy for this stage can train and guide the child's various functions... These are indeed things that I did not expect.
<h2>2 For children to give toys to judge the "death" of "life and death"</h2>
Below, we will analyze the different toy types in the next set and judge the "life and death" for your reference:
Belongs to: Dead toys
Index: ★★★★★
Including: robots, helicopters, remote control cars, train models, etc
Electric toys
This type of toy has a particularly obvious feature: it is "expensive". It is precisely because of the expensive, parents always tell their children to be careful when playing, do not easily play bad. The second is the danger, most of these toys are metal, plastic products, the use of batteries, will fly and run, easy to hurt people, the need for a specific site, special escort. Finally, it is easy to run out of power and easy to damage. Charge for half a day, can play for half an hour, broken and not easy to repair.
That's it, play carefully, find a place to think hard, adults with hard work, play for a while to stop abruptly, play broken to put on the shelf of toys, actually is the toy store 'mainstream toys'. I think it is mainly because the price is expensive, the packaging is large, when buying, I feel that giving people has face, and when playing, I am vain and ostentatious. Merchants advertise the coordination of the hand brain, in fact, most of the time it is the adults who coordinate the hand brain, and the children are watching from the side.
Due to the complexity of the conditions of play, these toys are rarely played frequently after they are bought. It is often fresh for a few days when it is first bought, and then it is solemnly stored in the box. This kind of electric toy is actually the lowest cost performance of toys.
Index: ★★★
Including: Barbie dolls, Transformers, various dolls, etc
Barbie
Barbie: Can I tell the truth? I really don't like Barbie dolls. In Western culture, "Barbie Girl" is also a controversial term, almost synonymous with "playmate girl". When Barbie launched the voice function, her most representative few words were "Am I enough clothes?" "I want a pizza party!" "Math class is really hard!" "I love shopping!" ”。
Nowadays, many Western parents, who are troubled by their adolescent children, suffer from "Barbie syndrome" - forced weight loss and plastic surgery, and try to turn themselves into the image of Barbie. I think chinese parents should think twice when buying Barbie dolls for their daughters.
Transformers: It's a "Barbie" for boys — but it doesn't affect a child's lifestyle and value orientation like Barbie does. Most Transformers look mighty and unusual, with a complex structure, and come out with a mighty eight sides. I fiddled with it in the toy store and was disappointed to find that there were very few variations. One of the business strategies of Transformers is to collect different versions of different characters. I don't think it's good for kids. Moreover, in Western movies, there are often bridges where children swallow the arm of the Transformer, so please pay attention to safety.
All kinds of dolls: This is a cute type of toy. If the material is safe, the image is cute, and the production is exquisite, it is a toy suitable for children to play. However, because these dolls have no "entertainment" value, at most they are used by girls to sit in a row and live in the house. A not-so-good phenomenon is to design in the big way - now a lot of dolls, often how tall a person is, as if the bigger and more cute. But in the end, it was found that children will be attracted to "big dolls" at the beginning, but in the end, the most favorite dolls are often small and clever, which can be held in their hands.
<h2>3 For children to give toys to judge the "life and death" of the "live" chapter</h2>
Belongs to: living toys
Index: ★★★★
Includes: bricks (Lego), Rubik's Cube, Tangram, Leather Ball, Crayons, Scissors, etc
building block
First of all, I exclude electronic products with the title of "learning machine". I just wonder why those low-end high-priced products that should have been eliminated long ago are still sold in major shopping malls and bookstores - what era is it now, if children really need to use the screen to learn, please download a beautiful APP, that is the future trend! When everyone has driven a car, how can we still let our children learn to drive a bullock cart? I didn't bother to analyze the uneducated patchwork on the learning machine!
Educational toys have a very good play value, yes, because of its simple structure, low cost, small profits, is not the type of toy manufacturers are keen to promote.
Building blocks: Building blocks are toys that belong to the "originator level", which can be said to be the ancestor of all toys. The biggest benefit of this toy is that it is complex to make it simple. A small box of building blocks can be used to make beds, tables, bridges, houses, and even towers and cities. This is a representative of toys that stimulate the imagination and develop creativity. Lego toys, in fact, are upgraded bricks, which are easier to connect each object - but this increased functionality sometimes limits more possibilities.
Leather Ball: This is almost the most popular and popular toy for children in the world! No matter in which country, anywhere, as long as you give your child a leather ball, your child will have fun all day! Why do kids love balls so much? This round guy is actually a very intimate playmate. You shoot it lightly, it beats you a little softer, you shoot it the point, it is a little more lively, you can run far with it, you can also press it under you. In short, the results of each time you play with it are different!
Rubik's Cubes, Tangrams, etc.: Small, cute and simple toys. This toy is not creative, but it is very exercised in the child's inductive ability and ability to find the law. I'm not in favor of teaching children the game strategy right up the line – you should let the kids learn from scratch and find the rules by playing blindly – like a maze, you can take the kid out easily, but it deprives the kid of the fun of finding his own path, and also hinders the kid's ability to learn on his own. I often see that many adults even hold their children's hands to color the pictures they have already drawn! Many parents have asked me why their children do not have self-confidence – I think, if parents do not let go of their children's hands, they scold their children in their ears "this is not right, it should be like this"... So, how can children develop their own self-confidence?!
Crayons: Yes. Crayons are toys that can draw, not tools for learning to draw! I don't know if parents can understand this sentence. When crayons are toys, there are no rules for learning, which is a child's toy. Because it is a toy, let the child draw it casually, no matter how childish and outrageous he draws, do not interfere. This is the child's way of understanding the world, expressing things, and a process that he himself experiences. Parents should not do it, but say "This picture is like ah!" "This should be drawn like this"; parents only need to encourage their children to draw and respect their children's drawings very much. Please collect your child's drawings and put them in your child's favorite pictures in a frame and hang them on the wall!
Scissors: Like crayons, give your child the freedom to play and cut whatever he wants. Many parents are worried about safety and can choose children's scissors. But I've found that it's easy for children to learn to use normal scissors safely.
Including: sand, mud, stones, branches, leaves, insects, etc
I often wonder whether the commercial society is human development or degeneration. We exhausted our time and energy, desperately trying to gain a foothold in the big city, and finally, we wanted to breathe clean air, step on the verdant grass, grasp a piece of wet dirt with the palm of our hand, poke the beetles in the trees with the branches... All became a luxury dream. Our children had to go to the mall and play in a small artificial bunker of 15 square meters for 40 yuan an hour; they never stepped barefoot in the field, did not catch loach in the mud pond, did not kick small pebbles all the way home after school... Is this progression of civilization, or is it a regression?
Sand, mud: What was once the best and cheapest children's toy in the world has now become a luxury. Regarding the benefits of children playing with sand, authoritative scientific research institutions have proved that children who play with sand are the most creative and imaginative, and the development of intelligence can be described as the first of all play. This is the most varied and thought-provoking form of play, and parents can understand it with a little thought. How many grains of sand can a child grasp with his hands - is it a thousand? Yes, even the most expensive LEGO bricks are only a few hundred, a few thousand! Children play with sand, and every little game is to control hundreds of millions of grains of sand and create any shape or object. This is unmatched by any other toy, and if there is a leaderboard in the toy world, Sand Is undisputedly at the top of the list!
Stones, branches: Many parents overlook that children's perspective is much lower than that of adults. Therefore, they can often find magical things that adults will ignore: a beautiful stone, a piece of red glass, a branch that can make a magic wand, a green bead that comes from nowhere... Parents usually respond, "Dirty, don't pick up things on the ground!" "Danger, be careful of scratching the hand" The child's thoughts at this time are not on the same channel as the parents at all, he is discovering a world through a small thing. However, if a parent educates for a long time, the child will lose one of the most precious qualities in his life: curiosity! As for what kind of life a person can achieve if he still maintains a strong curiosity after he becomes an adult, I will not expand on it, there are too many great man stories to tell.
Insects: How sad it is for our children to learn about animals from books. The most common example is when a child sees the real Tianniu and says, "No, the Tianniu in the book is much bigger than this" - yes, the Tianniu in the book occupies half a page, but is it not much bigger than the real Tianniu?! Our children, there are no Boy Scouts to participate, no real summer camps, and rarely go to the wild with their parents to camp and spread wilderness, and now, even the right to play insects in the park is almost rare - to be in a plastic fish pond, take a small net to catch goldfish, it is a wild experience - even in such a place, you can see a lot of parents, help their children to fish!
Conclusion of this article: The essence of play is to be happy. When parents add any learning and exercise purposes to their children's fun, it is not fun. In many cases, we pursue the "goal" too much, and in the pursuit of the goal, we pay too much attention to the "form"; therefore, in the process, we are easily misled by the dazzling things, thinking that complexity can get more; in fact, sometimes the simplest method is used, the easier it is to achieve the goal. Doing things is so, so is the education of children.