<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="1" > At that time, when talking about this marriage show, i thought of a bunch of headlines, "Ding! Your first aid guide to prevent losing your loved ones, please check it out! "Divorce variety shows can be so sweet", "Who is not looking for sugar in the glass ballast", "The emotional crit of five flavors in love", "Interpreting the divorce model in the East Asian context", "Today is also a day of fear of marriage, Oye". </h1>
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="3">01、Goodbye, my love. Hi，my lover.</h1>
Although "Goodbye Lover" is a divorce variety show, he is more like a marriage first aid guide for you and me, which can remind yourself of three provinces every day.
This "divorce reality show" variety show, which is full of true feelings, although it is borrowed from the form of foreign fierce variety shows, the story is indeed smooth, and there are details and true feelings and contradictions and conflicts, so it makes tears frequent in watching. The three couples are already, are in the process, and will divorce the couple, this time to a trip to the United States xinjiang caravan trip, the overall picture is fresh and beautiful. After all, between the sensitive genre types, there will be no big stars to support the scene, so the protagonist will have a lot less star shelves and baggage. The relatively real reactions given by the characters in front of the camera make it easier for people who have had similar experiences and experienced intimate relationships to resonate.
Get married/divorced, come on, hurt each other! Unlike family affection, in life, love is usually an intimate relationship that everyone chooses independently. When I was young, I felt that love was the most precious, and it was not enough to have love. But, no, of course not, whether married or not, in the partnership, mutual giving is the key to going on. Like someone said that some people in life eat some food is not good? Isn't it good, can eating and eating sugar be the same?
For these three couples, it can't be said that no one has ever loved, even if it is the pair of matching and hard-mouthed ex-husbands and ex-wives. However, people who have loved each other, why can't they communicate well?
Yes, it just can't. Especially for the people you care about the most!
The general idea is: We've been together for so long, we've been through so much, as familiar as the left and right hands, how can you not understand me? Even if it is not a roundworm in the stomach, it must be the tip of the heart. How can you not know, do not understand, do not support? Shouldn't you always be kind, gentle, funny, and friendly to me? clams?
Why？Tell me why, if you love me! Or you...
02, the world is so big, there will always be an urge to look again
Uncle Lolita combination, very interesting two people, the man is a father low taste, conservative and pragmatic husband, the woman is a dream girl heart, let go of the self-type wife. Maybe this is a combination of many people's envy, but everyone's attitude towards them is very clear in the early days, basically: hurry up, leave early and be good.
Female anxiety, male avoidance, one cautious and one messy, one outward uncle and one inner Lolita. The woman is emotionally rich but illogical, accustomed to dependence and wants to break free of the shackles, so as to find herself. The man is blunt and extremely rational, and he does not know how high the mountain is when he reaches the edge of the cliff.
A person's growth is inseparable from the immersion of the original family, and everyone is loving others in the way of being loved (over). In the process of growing up with each other, each faced a fork in the road of growth, and the growth of both sides was unbalanced, so a protracted tug-of-war game was launched, and finally let them love and hate. Probably like most people, two people walking and stumbling, and complaining for a lifetime. Of course, there is also a kind of person who does not necessarily need a partner and is not willing to maintain an intimate relationship. For everything, they like to talk about their own reasoning, but when they can't talk about others, they are not logical, unwilling to transpose and unwilling to think. You ask how it is possible to be reasonable with a lover, and ask him why he doesn't talk about feelings? Because he didn't know how to talk about it.
In the last episode two guys talk to themselves in the car, if he, if I weigh it up. It's so hard to change, no one wants to give in again, it's better for me to look at it again, it's better that I have fulfilled you. He certainly knew what she wanted, but he didn't want to give. So I have fulfilled your dashing and adventure, and fulfilled my blue sea and blue sky.
Then again, when a person falls in love with someone, he is like this. So in your eyes his strengths yesterday may turn into today's weaknesses. Accompanying you through a long period of time, even if you have paid so much youth for so many years, are you living a life, and others are living a month? Where there is a loss in the relationship. Also, a person's growth needs, why ask the other party for it? If a person loves someone, what cannot be given? You can't always want both, and you want, and you can't want ah!
03, small flames can be extinguished, can also be burned
Love and kill combination, the woman's fashionable foreign school, funny and witty, belongs to the mature and calm and general modern women, self-consistent and powerful, and the performance in the show is basically zero bad reviews. The man is humorous and active, will create atmosphere, but likes to escape, when he encounters fatigue and depression, he cannot relieve himself, and needs to rely on others to appease himself or use external things (drinking) to please himself. However, the two of them are in love, and they are very sweet!
The problem between the two is relatively simple, and there is not such a deep contradiction, if they are looking for contradictions for the sake of contradictions, they can believe it. The attachment style and communication mode of the two people are harmonious, and they have long been connected by flesh and blood into a community of destiny. Although there are a few times the man's performance is really unsatisfactory, but no matter how difficult it is to understand, there are points that can be understood, and the most important thing is that no matter how a person is, the other party is accepted, the two people are willing, and the sourness of love is just that.
For these two, love is still greater than all at this moment, so it is perfect for each other to be willing to take another step back and then move forward together.
04, how can I say I don't love you
Stubborn to strong combination, the couple is separated and then fall in love. The man is a typical Chinese straight man, stubborn and good-looking, with thick lines and straight lines. The woman's temperament is fresh, the expression is subtle and euphemistic, and she is too sober to see things.
In the opening chapter, both of them say that there is no love at all in this marriage, only indifference and alienation. What？ Is it because the definition of "love" is too narrow? So how can the two self-disciplined people choose their lovers casually, and who doesn't want who or what, even if it is love at first sight, it is love.
Throughout the whole text, their words and actual actions are always torn apart, these two are good actors, but they are not as good as a show in temperament. So at first this pair was too confusing, the two were emotionally stable, clear-headed, and decent. It is amazing that the woman always adopts a confusing way of communication at the beginning, and later understands that it all originated from the past. It's just that the previous one didn't have the patience to listen, hoping that everything would be simple and clear, and one gradually chose not to say it after the expression was fruitless. In addition, many times there will be embarrassment of trying to express but not reaching the intention, so I always feel that the other party does not understand himself and the misunderstanding is deepening, and even let the feelings hurt the bones. Over time, non-communication became why are you so inexplicable?
In the plot, as long as one party shows a little expectation, the other party will immediately pour cold water. One side is constantly asking for evidence of love, and the other side is constantly running away and ignoring and dodging. Perhaps the woman is considering that a handful of age, saying I love you is not sour, it is better to pretend to be a buddy to take good care of the children to get along well. The man is thinking, do you love me or not? Because, only if you say you love me, can I put down my baggage and embrace you. It can be seen that both of them have passed the age of youth and vigor, and they will also look forward and backward when they speak, so as not to misunderstand each other or bring burdens, so both sides have chosen to be duplicitous.
In the show, as long as the woman is around, the man's eyes have never left her. He said he didn't care, but his body was honest. If you want to always pay attention to the other party's words and deeds, smile and smile, such a full concentration can be done once or twice, and it is not easy to act all the time. The embodiment of their love is those intimate and natural body movements when traveling alone, those delicate and warm moments. For example, the man stood on the cliff and shouted at the woman, hoping that she would live as he liked, and the woman burst into tears; for example, in the last episode, when the man walked to the woman to clothe her, the woman covered her face and cried, turned around and pounced on the hug in the man's arms.
Love is the hand that wants to touch and withdraw, and love is also a hand that is desperate to stretch out.
05, goodbye to the past, hello later!
The truth has its own strength, aside from the self-regulation consciousness of everyone in front of the camera in the program, the process control of the program group, the event preparation, the editing effect, etc., we have seen the life and way of getting along with the three couples, although it cannot be fully understood, but it is also partially true in front of everyone, which is a good interpretation of the authorities' fans and bystanders. So that many viewers can see the fragments of their past feelings, so they have soberly commented or accused the guests of their practices or choices, including themselves.
In marriage, it is not a seven-year itch now, it has become a one-year itch. Teacher Li Yinhe once said that there are three levels of love, the highest level of passionate love, the probability of encountering is very small. So what a precious thing he is. Perhaps until you reach a certain age and have experienced many people and things, you can see that the relationship between people is fluid, and you can calmly understand the existence of this complexity, so as to cherish the person around you more.
"Goodbye Lover" ends.
Several scenes are quite dramatic, making people suspect that there is a script, and some parts are tearful and emotional. The scenery along the way is magnificent, and the human heart under the lens magnifier is so subtle.
Of course, this is still a drama, a variety show, a story.
Not everyone can read everyone, and no one knows what others have experienced. Although unhappy marriages have their own misfortunes, in fact, beautiful marriages also have their own beauty. There are so many people in the world, we meet and love each other, so it is not easy. Well, let's keep it simple, the way of loving others is simpler.
Love is a very difficult and very worthwhile thing, and hopefully we all have the ability to love. If you are fortunate enough to meet someone you fall in love with, share each other's honor and disgrace, and live and die together, you warm me, I warm you, we have feelings and righteousness, as each other is the ordinary fireworks in the world. True to the heart, the authorities and bystanders are all.
By the way, honey, we're going to Xinjiang to see
Arrange on!
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