There is a beautiful girl, she brought me not only a romantic experience, but more importantly a real emotional experience, after fully returning to work she returned to the city where she worked, we may be difficult to meet again, but no matter how long we can accompany me on the road of life, the happiness and memories she brought to me will always remain in my mind.
Life is not about the number of times you breathe, but the moments that make you shudder! This is a very classic sentence in the movie "National Love Enemy".
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="58" > encounter:</h1>
On a leisurely weekend afternoon, I was strolling down the high street with my friends, and I thought it was a normal afternoon, and she was just an ordinary target. The women's clothing area of a well-known clothing brand, 5 meters away, black trench coat, white bag on the arm, tall figure, a person picking clothes. Looking at it, it made me shudder. "This girl is so beautiful, how good my mother's daughter-in-law should be!" I jokingly said to my friends.
"Too much to drink, huh?" Friends laugh at me!
I picked up my clothes and looked at her carefully, with big, shiny eyes and a very beautiful face. Suddenly, at this time, I felt a sense of tension gradually spreading throughout my body, freeing me from that numb state...
When she walked out of the store, I plucked up the courage to get up and chase after her, slowing down as I approached her. "Hi hello! Wait a minute, I just saw you in the store is very special, I would love to come over and say hello to you! ”
"Hmm!??" (Her puppy-like curious eyes)
"Just a little nervous, hesitated for a few minutes, but I saw you walk out, and I didn't think about it so much and walked out." I don't want to regret thinking about it later, I want to know you and leave a connection, is it okay? I said sincerely and nervously.
At this time, she was also in a good state, and she was more friendly to my approach, and her response was also very good, and our dialogue exchange lasted about two or three minutes, and we learned that her name was "Shi Yu". Gradually I feel that the body becomes comfortable and relaxed, in fact, many times we face our own heart of the opposite sex when they "think too much", may not be disgusted at the beginning, but if you have been in the "dick state", your performance will be unnatural, once this, the girl's natural social radar will immediately detect your lack of confidence, so I draw such a conclusion: the girl's feedback to you is often determined by your own state, if you are comfortable and natural, the other party will also be imperceptible.
What's more interesting is that after we waved goodbye, Shi Yu turned around and smiled and said "thank you", which shows that girls are not excluded from being politely accosted, because everyone wants to be appreciated!
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="59" > first date</h1>
On another weekend afternoon, we were about in a big shopping district. Maybe I care too much about this date, or maybe I care too much about the girl herself, which caused me to clean up at home and dress up for more than 2 hours, and I was late to meet...
"How dare you be late!" Shi Yu said with some sarcasm and a bit of frustration.
"I'm really sorry, it's too traffic jam, I'm running so hard. Take you to eat delicious good or not! Oh yes, you're not a grown-up today. I want to shift the subject.
At this time, I looked at her carefully, the color printed sweatshirt, the delicate makeup, and the famous brand bag, stepping on the small high heels, more charming than the day I met her. I admit that there was a real feeling of excitement at that moment!
She still didn't buy it, and looked at me with an angry little mouth, but it looked cute.
"Don't get angry, I'll take you somewhere." I didn't say anything, and took the initiative to lead it. Because I haven't forgotten that a girl's state is largely determined by your state!
We went to a café that is very similar to a flower shop, first to the café is a good way to get to know each other, after all, no matter how well we talk on WeChat, back to the real world there is also an emotional gap, how to chat in the café? In fact, there are many topics of conversation. From your observations of her, surrounding environmental things, eating, drinking and other topics, it is important to make more statements, less direct questions, guide girls, and don't let boring conversations ruin a good date.
Through the conversation, I learned that Shi Yu is a music teacher, perhaps because of her role model, she is very friendly to people. Pretty girls seem to be like this, since childhood contact makes them good at socializing, friendly but does not mean that they have a good feeling for you, so what can mean that they have a good feeling for you? There are many, such as the way she looks at you, how curious she is about you, and so on.
After chatting for a while in the café, I sat on her side and could tell how she really reacted to me.
When we come out of the coffee shop and we come to the river, multiple transitions can make the other party subconsciously increase the sense of connection with you, and when she recalls her experience with you, there will be a rich sense of picture, resulting in a sense of familiarity that you have known for a long time. This is a famous river in the city, and at night the air is fresh, the moon is empty, and although there are snowflakes, it is not cold. In the moonlight, the figure could be clearly illuminated, and I took her to sit on a stone staircase that did not match her dress, and at night our topic shifted to childhood:
"I used to love it here, because when my grandfather was a child, he always took me to the big river dam when he was alive, and you used to come when you were a child?" I asked her.
"Very little, although it is not far away, but when I was a child, my parents were very strict."
"No, I feel like you're so polite, mom and dad should be very reasonable and enlightened parents," I said again.
"Really, when I was a child, my mother always watched me learn the piano at home and rarely went out." Shi Yu said with a smile.
"You are very similar to a female friend of mine, she is also a girl who studied music, learned piano in the fourth grade, guzheng in the fifth grade, classical dance for eight years, and her academic performance is always among the best, she is one of the best girls I know, once a girl who was so talented and excellent that everyone envied her, and a bland future set and planned by her family." 」 But she said she didn't like life like that, but no one cared what she thought, and she told me that what she really wanted to do was be a backpacker, a round-the-world trip. She thought that one day she must really go on the road and be brave enough to do what she wants to do! I said a lot.
"By the way, if it were you, where would you go?" I asked her.
"I don't know either"
If she doesn't cooperate with you during the conversation, there are probably two situations:
1. You're not attracted to her
2. She's not very expressive
So you can go ahead and confirm her thoughts
"I mean have you ever been to any of the more fun places?" I can tell my friends to go too."
"Haha, the last time we went to Tibet, the temples of Lhasa, the ancient city of Gyantse... Go with you, sunset and sunset, scenery everywhere, buy Tibetan robes, Tibetan ornaments..."
Shi Yu is talking about her travels in Tibet, at this time I don't need to say anything magical, I don't need to interject, I just need to listen quietly, I like this feeling, listening to Shi Yu tell her own experience, stories, feel her emotional state, girls describe their experiences than boys will be richer and more vivid, there is a sense of picture.
The winding procession of monks like a long dragon, the warm gray ancient city at sunset, the white snowy mountain glacier on the journey, and the sightings she saw there made me feel immersed. Everything went well here, she started to open her heart and talk about her life, I just needed to show her appreciation and let her know herself.
My brain listened as I shamelessly thought about the next thing... But my evil thoughts were quickly interrupted by the ringing of her phone, "I'll go back in a moment and go home right away." Shi Yu said to the empress dowager on the other end of her phone.
The emotions that had just been created dissipated in an instant, and I knew that this was a girl with access control, and although I had already thought about the next arrangement, although I knew that our relationship could soon become closer, and despite the slight disappointment in my heart, I could only keep the feeling of the present to the maximum and look forward to the next meeting.
After that, we still had a ride-to-head chat, and I wasn't in a hurry for the next date, basically I would flash people at the high point of emotion.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="60" > date again:</h1>
Because of the good first impression, the second date with Shi Yu is also so deserved. Set up to watch a movie. Before the opening, we chatted on the open-air terrace on the second floor, which was beautiful and overlooked the whole city. Oh, and there's an interesting little episode – the boardwalk, the gap between the roads causes her high heels to often accidentally get stuck, when she is about to fall, I will hold her, at this time the limbs move in too naturally, gradually the people on the open platform go far, she did not stand again, I pulled her to hold her waist...
"I've saved you so many times, why don't you know en tu bao?"
She glanced at me, avoided me, and said to me, "You must be very unreliable for girls all day."
"That's because you don't know me, and besides, you're demonizing me so much, and still chatting with me can only mean two results, either you like me or you like me very much." 」 I laughed.
When I watched the movie, I was completely focused on the movie. Too many people have learned some small tricks, small routines, have been communicating with girls when watching movies, like to focus on girls, and even more hands and feet, and then they are classified by girls into the category of obscene men... And I prefer a feeling of two people like a couple, or that sentence, emotions are contagious, if girls really like you, what you expect will happen naturally! Slowly following the plot I clasped her hand with ten fingers, and in the second half, I supported her head and leaned on my shoulder, and she naturally carried my arm, at this time I was sure that this girl liked me in her heart! When we looked at each other again, my lips involuntarily pressed against her lips, and after only two seconds I felt the temperature of the tip of her tongue, and in an instant, I clearly felt a warm flow from the tip of my tongue to every cell in my body...
On the way to watch the movie, under the tender moonlight late at night, I patted her ass and played with her, walking by the river together, communicating without emotion, without any falsehood, I prefer to use my real self to communicate with the dream lover, because this time makes me feel comfortable inside!
As it is said in "Enemies of the People":
"You can't use something you don't have; so if you're shy, be shy; if you're lively, be lively; she may not want the whole truth, but she wants the real you." ”
I used to try to go one step further with her that night and do something more romantic! But I felt that Shi Yu was a little resistant, so I did not insist any longer, looking forward to the next time. But I know I won't lose her because we already have a solid relationship with each other.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="50" > ending:</h1>
In the following days, Shi Yu took the initiative to make an appointment with me, and I knew that our relationship needed to be established. On that cold afternoon, after learning that her parents were not home, I advocated sending her home and drinking with her! Shi Yu may already know what will happen, but she still needs me to give her a reason to make her feel comfortable!
A few days later, she returned to her work city because of a lot of things, and I continued to be in a state of work, and our contact was not frequent, because we both knew that long-distance relationships did not have the desired outcome. Many things have been blurred in those days, and all I can remember is some scenes that have passed, the river with small snowflakes, the rooftop overlooking the whole city, the dim corridor...
Thinking of these can't help but be a little sad, I don't know the next time I see Shi Yu in what year and month...
These are the best times and the worst times. We are experiencing an era of relatively short-lived love. The reason for the faster and faster separation is because we may not have the patience and time to guard and understand a person anymore.
I have to admit that I am a layman, I am afraid that I will not be able to live the life I want, and that the promise of a lifetime can only be postponed indefinitely...
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