Wen | Purple Leaf Girl
How do you see the relationship between men and women?
Anyi, an author of online literature, once wrote a very realistic quotation in his own work "This Biting Love":
"Love at first sight, obviously it is a matter of seeing the color, and it is a long-term love, but it is a trade-off between the pros and cons, and even the white head to the old age is just a habit."
The feelings of men and women, to say that it is a little explicit, but the opposite sex attracts "food color also", for a worse skin bag, love, how much can stand the test?
Therefore, judging whether a relationship is worth paying, do not be moved by the promise of three words and two words, easily entrust your life to the other party; the promise that cannot be fulfilled is ultimately a blank check; men and women who fall in love, get married and get pregnant, need to be cautious, because once a choice is made, sometimes it is difficult to receive.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="7" >01 three months pregnant, 21-year-old rural sister was "abandoned" by her boyfriend</h1>
If you're a woman, can you accept your boyfriend proposing to you the idea of "getting pregnant first and getting married later"?
21-year-old Zhou Ting (pseudonym), from a poor mountainous area, rural origin, she is simple and kind, can bear hardships, because the cultural level is not high, has been in the vegetable market to help others work and make money.
Five months ago, Zhou Ting met 26-year-old Yi Kai (pseudonym) at a friend party, Yi Kai worked decently, was a regular worker in a certain unit, and when they first met, Yi Kai had some good feelings for the young and beautiful Zhou Ting.
Within a few days, the two flashed into love and became lovers, lovers in the hot love period, only advantages in their eyes, Zhou Ting and Yi Kai, the same.
Two months later, the relationship between the two, everything to talk about, Yi Kai told Zhou Ting, he once talked about a three-year relationship, because the ex-girlfriend has not been able to conceive a child, the parents do not agree to get married, forced to choose to break up, so, Zhou Ting wants to marry Yi Kai, Zhou Ting must first get pregnant, before she can get married.
In the face of her boyfriend Yi Kai's request, Zhou Ting gladly accepted, she believed that her boyfriend Yi Kai, worthy of her lifelong trust, the two fell in love at the end of the second month, Zhou Ting was very lucky, she was pregnant with her boyfriend Yi Kai's child.
However, when she told her boyfriend the good news of her pregnancy, the boyfriend was only happy for a while, and then he became ruthless.
The promise of getting pregnant first and then getting married, the boyfriend not only did not keep it, but also often slapped him and punched and kicked her.
When I met Zhou Ting, she was already 3 months pregnant, and strangely, Zhou Ting, who was 3 months pregnant, not only had no one around to take care of her, but lived alone in a hotel, and her face looked yellow.
In this regard, Zhou Ting immediately confided in us:
"Now that I'm pregnant, my boyfriend is now ignoring me, not caring about the child, and then, not recognizing the child, and telling me to see me once, hit me once, and have beaten me four or five times."
It is said that children are the crystallization of love, and it was Yi Kai who originally put forward the request of "getting pregnant first and then getting married", and now, many times beating his girlfriend Zhou Ting, who is 3 months pregnant, what is the contradiction between the two? Can't solve it?
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="48" >02 The man insisted on a fetus: afraid of giving birth to a neuropathy</h1>
In order to find out the reason, we asked Zhou Ting to ask Yi Kai out to meet, on the phone, Yi Kai did not care about the departing Zhou Ting, and the tone was cold and ruthless, but finally agreed to come out to meet.
About ten minutes later, we met Yi Kai himself, and at the same time, Yi Kai's mother also came to the scene.
As soon as the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law met, they began to quarrel.
Yi Kai's mother revealed that Zhou Ting and her son Yi Kai fell in love, from the beginning, Zhou Ting cheated on Yi Kai's whole family, claiming that before Yi Kai, Zhou Ting had talked about love twice, miscarried twice, Yi Kai's mother believed that this daughter-in-law, treating feelings too casually, this is against her son Yi Kai marrying Zhou Ting.
In this regard, Zhou Ting, who was sitting on the side, immediately retorted:
"I cheated on you, I've been in love a few times, I've had a few tires, I've told Yi Kai, yi Kai said he didn't mind,"
Subsequently, Yi Kai's mother said again: "The son agrees, does not mean that I agree, the parents meet and agree to not eat, a woman, how can it be so casual?" ”
Seeing Yi Kai's mother, strong words, justifying her son's mistakes, unwilling to be responsible for the child in her belly, Zhou Ting immediately broke out a message.
It turned out that the two were in love, Yi Kai's parents did not mind, after pregnancy, Yi Kai's parents proposed to go to Zhou Ting's rural hometown to see, as a result, after a trip, Yi Kai's parents' attitude changed.
Zhou Ting is a single-parent family, the mother died very early, the father brought her up, in the early years, Zhou Ting's father fell ill with meningitis, because the family was poor, after the illness was branded with sequelae, there are certain defects in language ability, but it does not affect the life of normal people.
After Yi Kai's parents saw Zhou Ting's father, they thought that her father had a brain problem, so they privately told Yi Kai that they were afraid that the child born to Zhou Ting was unhealthy, and like her father, it was a neurosis.
Therefore, after returning home, Yi Kai's parents resolutely let their son break up and asked Zhou Ting to beat up the child in her womb.
Secondly, Zhou Ting also told us a message, Yi Kai's first two girlfriends, both Yi Kai's mother opposed, drove out of the house, one of them is still a single-parent family, pregnant, but also kicked out.
After listening to Zhou Ting's story, Yi Kai's mother said again: "If my son wants to leave, I can't leave in a hurry." ”
In order to prove that her father had no problems, Zhou Ting took everyone to the rural hometown, Zhou Ting's hometown, there is no decent living room, it is purely a tile house to shelter from the wind and rain, Zhou Ting's father, is a low-security household, and he communicates normally, without the slightest problem. However, because I don't have much vocabulary, I can't say a few words.
Subsequently, we learned from Zhou Ting's girlfriend that Zhou Ting is kind, because she lost her mother's love since she was a child, and her father's love is also missing in education, so the first two relationships have been deceived.
When everything was understood, Yi Kai was still unwilling to continue to be with Zhou Ting, and even when Zhou Ting let Yi Kai touch the child in her stomach, Yi Kai was also unwilling and bluntly said that she did not want to see Zhou Ting again.
However, it was Yi Kai who took the initiative to pursue Zhou Ting and took the initiative to ask Zhou Ting to get pregnant, but now, he does not want to see her again, and also asks her to beat up the child, which inevitably makes Zhou Ting feel sad and sad.
In the end, Yi Kai told us that he regretted knowing Zhou Ting, falling in love with Zhou Ting, and getting Zhou Ting pregnant, thinking that his decision was too hasty. He hoped that Zhou Ting could beat the child and was willing to give 20,000 yuan as compensation.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="49" >03 The author's emotional summary</h1>
"When you get pregnant, we will get married" How many men have made such a promise, but is the purpose of our marriage really just to get pregnant and have children?
"Marriage, not for pregnancy" love, after reaching a height, two people together is not easy, pregnant and have children, but after marriage, both sides breed offspring, take on the responsibility of a parent.
Marriage is because of love, pregnancy and childbirth is the embodiment of love after marriage. If a man, married to you, just wants a child, then the love he shows is nothing more than wanting an egg and a womb.
"It is not because love is proven to be married, but to prove this love ... I went to get married. ”
Marriage is not a child's play; pregnancy cannot be sloppy. In dealing with emotional issues, both men and women should be treated with caution, and at the same time, do not make commitments easily, because promises are sometimes really not easy to fulfill, and in the end, people who listen to promises are often hurt the most.
The order of love, marriage, and pregnancy cannot be wrong, first get married and then fall in love, you may break up because of inappropriate personality; first get pregnant and then get married, the man's parents agree, and may also regret it. Do you agree with that?