Someone said: "Not everyone can achieve fame, and some of us are destined to find the meaning of life in the bits and pieces of daily life." ”
Nostalgia is a way of pursuit, youth is easy to pass away, but with people who spend their youth together, it seems that they can also feel the breath of youth, which may be the reason why many people like to participate in classmates' gatherings.
It is really beneficial for everyone to get together, remember their youth, understand each other's current situation, and help each other with resources, but there is a very real problem, that is, the power of circles.
If the circle of life is different, even if you get everyone together, it may make some people feel embarrassed, and even leave a psychological shadow on the class reunion, and never want to participate in it again.
Wang Jun is like this, he received a call from the old class leader some time ago, let him participate in the high school classmate party, he was busy at work, he had never participated before, this time just happened to be his cousin married, he decided to go to the class reunion by the way.
As a result, when he arrived at the location and saw the 4 phenomena in the corner of the restaurant, he decided to quit the group of classmates.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="48" > phenomenon one, jokes have no boundaries</h1>
The meeting place is in the large private room of a restaurant, which can accommodate more than 50 people to dine at the same time.
Wang Jun arrived a little early, he casually found a corner to sit down, Sun Meimei came early, she was lively and cheerful, sitting next to Wang Jun, the two did not talk a few words, they came in 2 male classmates, had to hug Sun Meimei, let Sun Meimei dodge back and forth.
This made Wang Jun very disgusted, everyone is an adult, but also have a family, treat each other with courtesy, forced to set almost, it seems too greasy.
The male classmate said: "The classmates are all real feelings, but you think too much." After saying that, he turned around and went to another corner, talking and laughing with a female classmate, holding the other's hand.
Wang Jun believes that classmates can joke with each other, but having a ruler and playing with a degree is a respect for others and a manifestation of a person's cultivation.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="49" > phenomenon two, climb high and step low</h1>
After more than ten years, the gap between classmates is quite large.
Some students open a company as the boss, some students do small business, there are also classmates as grassroots employees, one of them is a classmate who works in the Education Bureau, surrounded by everyone, asking about some ways to educate children, and to contact the phone, hoping that when their children have things, they can have one more way to solve the problem.
Another classmate who opened a company was also surrounded by several people, and he said it in a dangling voice, and the people around him frequently nodded their heads, and kept touting and praising each other's ability.
In stark contrast, a few students dressed in plain clothes came in, and none of them greeted each other, not even the people at the door.
This may be the power of the circle, people at the higher level of the circle, with some upward angle, to the life is not as good as their own, but disdainful.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="50" > phenomenon three, show yourself off</h1>
Liu Kun was Wang Jun's former tablemate, and the two played well when they were in high school.
Because the family is very similar, Liu Kun also grew up with his grandparents, the two have good food will share with each other, this time to meet, feel still very kind, Liu Kun asked him how he lived, and asked him if he was divorced?
This made Wang Jun feel unhappy, before he could pass, Liu Kun said to himself: "I have not mixed well in recent years, this year only earned more than 3 million, the ex-wife came to ask for money, said to buy a house for the child, I just bought a set for her a few years ago, she is also too greedy, the current wife is not careful, I think BMW is not good, I have to change the big run, I am too stressed ..."
Wang Jun can see it, where is the complaint, it is clear that it is showing off, and then look at the room, several people are gathered in a small circle, those who love to show off, are surrounded by a few people who listen, he does not understand, what is the meaning of showing off among classmates? Isn't it good for everyone to communicate sincerely?
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="51" > phenomenon four, pounds and pounds</h1>
At this gathering, the old squad leader said well in advance, and the cost was AA system.
At the beginning of the party, a male classmate ordered 5 bottles of Sea Blue, the class leader asked the female classmates what to drink, everyone said to drink, so they asked for 2 large bottles of juice.
Vice President Sun Lin spoke: "I put the words ahead, when AA, I only pay for meals, and I don't pay for wine." ”
As soon as her words came out, several female classmates echoed, indicating that it was reasonable, and a male classmate was unwilling: "A bottle of wine is only a few dollars to be shared, so don't come to dinner." ”
For a time, the table scrambled, Wang Jun could understand the idea of the female classmates, but also felt that the male classmates drank by themselves, more should also be, he was very strange, a few students who showed off their good business before the meal, why didn't they talk at this time?
After eating, Wang Jun took the initiative to give his share of the money to the old class leader, and then withdrew from the classmate group, he saw clearly, the passage of time, are no longer the original teenagers, the class reunion has become a chasing fame and fortune of the Shuluo field, has long changed the taste.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="47" >What kind of people are susceptible to cold reception at class reunions? </h1>
The first is people who work in general.
Such people often have a personality and do not like to talk too much to people, which is easy to be ignored.
Some people think that such people do not like to participate in classmates' gatherings, in fact, on the contrary, they are the most active part of the people, because they are not good at refusing, as long as someone organizes, they will participate on time.
At the time of the party, the sense of existence of this part of the people is very low, no one takes the initiative to talk to them, the classmates will automatically divide into a small circle, many people like to go to the high than their own people.
Second, introverted people.
They are generally very thoughtful, but do not like to express.
If you meet like-minded people, there will be a lot to say, and at class reunions, many people like to show themselves, where there is time to listen to you.
As a result, they would sit quietly in the corner, not commenting or participating in other people's chats, mostly quietly listening to people, and when the party was over, they would go their separate ways.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="40" > written at the end:</h1>
Everyone has their own group of classmates, which is a memory of youth, how to deal with the relationship between classmates, but not what many people are good at.
A good class reunion can enhance each other's feelings, and a bad party makes people want to escape every minute and never want to participate.
In psychology, there is a "key theory", which means that people interact with each other, and they have resonance with each other sincerely, and the same is true for classmates, everyone has not met for several years, listen more, and appreciate each other can often bring feelings closer.
If you meet people who love to compare and talk indiscriminately, such a classmate party does not go, the heart you participate in is to contact feelings, if the words do not speculate more than half a sentence, it is really better to find a few confidant classmates to get together, both less than comparison, but also enhance feelings, why not enjoy it?
In the end, the past time has passed, sometimes it is better to see each other than to miss, and it is most comfortable to stay in your own circle.
Today's topic: Do you like to attend class reunions?