There is a saying:
"The matter of love needs a touch of heart at first sight, and it needs to be properly managed for a long time."
When you think about it, it is.
The reason why two people can get along for a long time, the most important thing is that with each other, they can relax and feel comfortable with each other, and they can experience happiness and happiness.
If two people are together, one of them is always in the depths of the water, then no matter how deeply they have loved, they will one day become unsustainable
Love requires two-way happiness to be long-lasting.
As a woman, no matter how much you love someone, don't contact each other in the following three ways, otherwise you will only push each other farther and farther.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > not blindly active</h1>
Someone said:
"Feelings are like seesaws, both sides can be balanced with force, relying on the efforts of only one person, and it will soon end."
Admittedly, a relationship is never one person's efforts to be willing, but two people working together to be as sweet as honey.
If you blindly take the initiative to love someone, then on the one hand, the other party will take your enthusiasm more and more for granted, and then they will become sluggish in their feelings and no longer take you seriously.
On the other hand, you will be uncomfortable and unwilling because you will not be rewarded for your efforts.
Eventually, in this unequal relationship, love will slowly fade, feelings will slowly become cold, and leaving will eventually be indefinite.
Once saw such a story:
After a girl falls in love, she is deeply involved in it, and she will call her boyfriend every night, and she is also actively on various holidays and anniversary dates.
In her heart, she always felt that her boyfriend was too busy and too tired, as long as she arranged everything.
For her initiative, at first, her boyfriend will be grateful, but over time, her initiative has become a habit of her boyfriend.
As long as she didn't contact him, he could disappear for a week or even half a month, and eventually the girl was completely cold, completely disappointed, and a beautiful relationship came to an end.
It is undeniable that a good relationship needs to be active, but it must also be this initiative, and that is also active.
If only the girl takes the initiative, then the man will think that you are cheap and will not care about you more.
Therefore, as a woman, you must know how to take the initiative.
You must understand that if a man really loves you and doesn't have to work so you, he will take the initiative to come to you
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > too clingy</h1>
In life, there are always some women who become a superglue after falling in love, always thinking of tying men to their side.
As long as there is time to pestering men to accompany, when they can't see it, they are more than one phone call after another, and they are eager to make more than a dozen calls an hour.
Maybe in the hearts of these women, they are so clingy to him because they love him.
But they forget that no matter how close the two people are, they are also two independent individuals, and they also need to have their own independent space.
Blindly clinging will eventually only suffocate the other party and make the other party want to escape.
I've seen such a mediation show before.
A couple broke up, and the man complained:
"I was so tired with her, I didn't have any private space, not only did I have to spend time with her after work and holidays, but I also had at least a dozen phone calls a day during work hours!"
Perhaps after listening to such a complaint, many people will say that a man is really in the blessing and does not know the blessing, and there is a woman who loves him like this to complain.
But I don't think so.
After all, no one in the world wants to be tied down, even in the name of love.
There is a sentence in Rodin's Lover:
"I just can't understand whether it's harder to love or harder to endure."
Loving others too full will hurt, and being loved too much by others is also a disaster.
The best love should be comfortable and free.
Just like that, in a short distance, keeping a concern, watching, or accompanying, and then releasing the warm afterglow little by little.
Only in this way can the relationship between each other be more harmonious and happier.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > not aggressive</h1>
"The Vanishing Lover" mentions:
"Love is to compromise with each other and work hard to manage, and those who enter this door, please, do not take chances."
The essence of love is to tolerate, understand, and respect, not to control, manipulate, and possess.
If a woman is always too strong, everything is right, and she must put herself first at any time.
In such a short period of time, men may be accommodating to you, but people will always be tired, if you have been strong, then it will make men feel tired, and eventually it will only make him want to escape.
Meet such a girl.
Not only is she sweet and beautiful, but her family situation is also quite superior, but she fell in love three times and finally ended without a problem.
The reason for this result is only because she is too strong.
In life, not only does the boyfriend slightly make her unhappy, she plays a temper and makes sex; and she never allows rebuttal to what she says, and does not regard the boyfriend as a boyfriend but as an appendage of herself.
In such a situation, the relationship naturally becomes extremely unsmooth.
The most important foundation of love is equality.
No matter which side blindly compromises, it will make the balance of love unbalanced, and the party who finally compromises will be aggrieved, will be uncomfortable, and the feelings will slowly lose their temperature.
Women, if you love a person, you must know more gentleness, more tolerance, and some reasoning, only with softness in the middle, soft in the rigidity, can you make the feelings more and more beautiful.
I have seen such a sentence:
"Love is like a carved ship, see how you appreciate it, and how you control it."
Whoever comes first, we can only keep looking for ways to keep our feelings fresh for a longer time.
The rest of her life is long, may every girl be able to be a little wiser and more rational in her feelings, and do not use the above three ways to contact each other.
So as to make your feelings longer and happier.
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