Author Morris and Gossini jointly produced "Lucky Luke" is a book about "Lucky Luke", a Western cowboy who draws his gun faster than his own shadow, wandering in the desolate West, hoeing the strong and helping the weak, and doing heroic and righteous adventures. Like all heroes, his integrity and bravery, combined with his superb marksmanship and humorous and funny conversation, have fascinated half a century's children with this hero.
This comic, from 1964 to the present, has been published more than 90 copies, translated into more than 30 languages, and has sold hundreds of millions of copies. We can even see that this comic has even been made into animation, TV series and many movies, of which the movie "Lucky Luke's Daisy Town" has a Douban score of 8.4 points. The two authors also won many top French comic awards such as the "Saint-Michel Prize" and the "René Gossini Prize" for this comic.
The comic tells the story of a highly skilled outlaw, Billy Boy, known as "the most terrible plague in the country", who comes to a place called the cowardly town, and the people of the town are afraid of him and dare not resist at all. And "Lucky Luke" came to the town, helped the citizens subdue Billy Boy, successfully sent him to prison, and taught the people of the town that with courage, they can defeat the most powerful outlaws, and from then on, the people of the cowardly town are no longer timid.
After reading this story, I couldn't help but think of my own children. "Mom, I can't draw this, it's too hard. I will only draw simple. "Mom, I don't dare." "Mom, I won't." Sometimes I even wonder, why don't you even try it, just say no?
I can't help but wonder, why are children afraid? As a parent, why do you always cheer for your children and encourage them not to be afraid, but to no avail?
I suddenly found that the child was like a citizen of a timid town, and lucky Luke, like a father with high educational skills, not only helped the "children" solve the difficulties, but also let them no longer be afraid of the difficulties (outlaws). I pored over the whole story and discovered that the whole "Billy Kid Incident" was actually a journey of mental maturity for the cowardly citizens, who, led by Luke, learned to bravely face difficulties.
How exactly did he do it?
In this article, I will take "education" as the main line, talk about the psychological characteristics of cowards that I learned from the citizens of the cowardly town, and the ways I learned from lucky Luke to help children overcome difficulties.
< h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > stuck in the habit of escaping challenges is one of the basic characteristics of human nature. </h1>
The people of the cowardly town can be said to have reached the pinnacle of patience with this notorious man. In the cowardly town, the tavern inside does not sell alcohol, sells hot chocolate, only because Billy Boy asked to sell only this; Billy Boy walked slowly to the bank, the counter took the initiative to welcome him and said: "My safe has been opened for you", Billy Boy did not even hold a gun in his hand, just simply posed as a shooting! Before it was over, Billy The Boy was extremely arrogant and insatiable, and he said calmly, "No, I'm going to wait for the people in line to save their money." "And the people who saved the money obediently saved the money."
Billy the Boy was going to rob the public carriage, so he went up to the grass, leisurely clutching a small piece of grass, and when the carriage arrived, he shouted softly "robbery", and the man who was on the horse immediately said obeying the order, and I was glad to do so, Mr. Billy.
Billy robs the carriage
Why are the people of Cowardly Town so timid? Their response was: "I'd rather have empty pockets than a belly full of bullets". What does that mean? In fact, the challenge to Billy Kid is too difficult, I give up! Much like our kids!
In "The Road Few People Walk", it is explained that "why people always choose to escape from reality easily": life is painful, and human nature is to pursue happiness. In the face of difficulties, people will feel pain, want to end it as soon as possible, look for temporary happiness, and escape is the best way.
You know, self-imposed, evasive challenges can be said to be one of the basic characteristics of human nature.
However, we must tell the child that difficulty is like billy the boy in the story, you indulge, he is lawless, the more you escape, the more arrogant it is.
Now we understand that children choose to escape because they are afraid of pain. As a parent, finding out the cause of their pain can effectively help them relieve pain. Is he afraid that his parents will say that he is not performing well? Afraid of seeing ghosts when you sleep at night? Or are you afraid of jumping rope and feeling humiliated and laughed at?
Finding this reason is the first step to helping your child.
The people of the town put up with Billy The Kid because they were afraid
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > to overcome difficulties, first of all, to face difficulties. </h1>
Luke needs witnesses to testify against Billy Kid in order to legally arrest him. But the citizens were so afraid of Billy Kid that no one dared to testify. Luke threatened a citizen to testify, and the citizen, who had not yet spoken in court, realized that he was suing Billy Boy, immediately fainted, and said nonsense: "Is this a nightmare?" Am I actually testifying against Billy The Kid? ”
Later, Luke plays an outlaw who is even more terrifying than Billy, robbing and shooting everywhere. The townspeople suddenly felt that Billy The Kid seemed less terrifying. They even felt that Billy was "part of a big family, and everyone loved him deeply."
Citizen Billy said, we all love you deeply
Why is there such a big change in citizens? Because in the face of greater difficulties (Luke pretending to be an outlaw), they suddenly find that Billy is less terrible and becomes acceptable. And when they look at Billy Boy positively and objectively, they find that Billy is actually just a child with excellent marksmanship.
The human imagination is endless, and the children's are even more so. The trees outside the window in the dark of the night, they will easily imagine a monster. And when people face difficulties, they will also give full play to their imagination and imagine the difficulties infinitely large, so that they have a reason to fear and escape.
Just like a child's injection, the needle has not yet been shot, it begins to scream, so big needle tube, thin and long needle pricked, must be very painful!
And when you really face the difficulties, calm down and observe the suffering, you will find that the difficulties will become very afraid of you, he is no longer majestic, it is defeated like a mountain! Just like Billy Kid is "pampered" by others, he feels like he's going crazy, yelling and yelling incessantly trying to remind everyone: "I'm an outlaw, I'm not a righteous person, don't insult me anymore!" "I'm Billy The Kid, and I'm worse than drought, mobs, and locusts!"
Bravely accept the difficulties, face the difficulties just like you will find that the monsters outside the window are not so painful, at least, it is much easier than falling. You will find that when you are brave enough to challenge, even the difficulties are afraid of you!
Citizens are no longer afraid of Billy
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > how did Luke gain the courage to overcome difficulties? </h1>
Luke found that it was useless to desperately encourage the citizens to be brave, but he risked his life and gave interesting guidance, but he was supported by everyone. Luke's whole rescue process was actually not smooth. Everyone doesn't help him, they are saving their lives. He tried to threaten the citizens to help him, but the citizens escaped. He has taken Billy Kid to the police station, and the people at the police station even spend their own salaries to seriously buy vegetables for Billy Kid to cook!
Later, Luke decides that he is going to defeat Billy The Kid. Prove to the people of Coward town that Billy Kid isn't invincible. He's going to pretend to be an outlaw who is more powerful than Billy Boy and make Billy Boy bow down to him. He even asked some citizens to help him act, pretending that the bank was emptied, pretending that the carriage and bus were completely looted, and the citizens found it very interesting, they were very cooperative this time, "I still made an appointment to be robbed by someone else for the first time!" In the process, citizens discovered that Billy was really not terrible.
In the end, Luke succeeds, and Billy surrenders because the citizens are not afraid of him, and the citizens bravely stand up to testify against Billy Boy and successfully put him in jail. When a new villain comes to the cowardly town, the citizens are no longer afraid, and bravely drive the villain out of the town, very easy!
Cowardly towns are no longer timid
What have we learned from Luke as parents?
1, we found that when the child is afraid, desperately cheer him up, shouting for him not to be afraid, it is useless. The more you make him brave, the more stressed and anxious he becomes, but the more difficult it feels suddenly magnified, just as when the citizens just know that someone wants them to stand up and testify against Billy The Boy, their first reaction is to flee in a panic.
2, we have to face difficulties with our children. We all know that when someone is willing to accompany you, you will feel at ease and can calm down and think. Children do not dare to try more difficult paintings, we can say "Mom will not, I also feel that I can't draw well, but I want to try, let's work together", or when tutoring homework, "This problem is more difficult, the mother does not know how to do it, or we check the data to study it?" "Seeing that the mother is working hard, the child feels that the mother is also giving, and he will feel that he is not alone and can continue to move forward."
3) We can also do everything we can to make challenging suffering more interesting. I remember that Peppa Pig had an episode called "Blackout". One night there was a sudden power outage in the house, and Page and George were terrified, thinking that monsters could appear at any moment. Mother Pig told them that blackouts are not terrible, and darkness is not terrible, because some things can only be done at this time, for example, adventure with a flashlight! When the children heard it, they immediately became happy, grabbed the flashlight and began to explore!
The difficulty is not terrible, and sometimes if you look at it from another angle, it will feel much easier. Either fail or learn, it's the choice.
Luke was encouraging everyone
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Don't say that children, even adults, tend to avoid when facing difficulties. As mentioned above, avoiding difficulties is one of human natures. But man is not an animal who acts arbitrarily with his nature, and history tells us that we must transcend our nature in order to live better. We obviously live in a cave, why should we live in a house? We obviously hunt well, why livestock?
Develop second nature, get out of the safe zone, in order to achieve a better self. What's the difference between that and a monkey?
Of course, violating nature is painful and difficult, and facing it, facing it squarely, examining it objectively, trying to challenge, and looking back, we will find that these difficulties are simply vulnerable.
The people of Coward town bravely testify against Billy The Kid
For children, they are still young, more immature in mind, and need the help of their parents. But many parents evade responsibility, believing that the child can solve it by himself, and if he can't do it, the child is to blame himself, not the parent's responsibility. But as mentioned in "The Road Few People Walk", this type of parent belongs to the "personality disorder", and naturally avoids their responsibilities, in fact, to escape difficulties.
Personality disorder is a personality disorder. People with personality disorders emphasize "I can't", "I can't", "I can't do it", and they lack the ability to judge and take responsibility.
As their children grow, parents should be ready to help. It's long and hard work, and parents need to be sensitive, understand their children's needs, invest time and energy, and even if they suffer pain, they have to give more love and take responsibility. When children face difficulties, we face difficulties with children, challenge difficulties together, and soon, children can accumulate successful experience and gain the confidence to defeat difficulties, which is the wealth of children's lives.
Half a century of children have dreamed of being brave and upright, hoeing the weak Luke. And as parents, why don't we want to be the "lucky Luke" of our children?
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