In the past two days, the pianist Li Yundi collapsed, and the grudge between Wang Lihong and Li Yundi was also pulled out.
Because the "CP" that was fried at that time was unclear, Wang Lihong was once very troubled, and the rumors stopped after Wang Lihong got married.
As we all know, Wang Lihong's position in the music world was very important, he was a handsome and charming type man, and he was a powerful singer.
The gossip girlfriend is also stubble after stubble, first there is the first love girlfriend, then Zhang Huimei, Xiao Yaxuan, Shu Qi, and finally the choice of wife Li Lianglei.
When Li Lianglei's identity was first exposed, Wang Lihong's evaluation of her was high education and high IQ.
Li Lianglei appeared as Wang Lihong's fiancée, and fans criticized her, feeling that she was not worthy of her own love beans.
As a vegetarian, Although Li Lianglei is not as good as a female artist in the entertainment industry, she also looks like a beautiful woman.
Maybe everyone thinks that Wang Lihong will also find a more suitable one who is also engaged in music.
A male star with a huge aura with a vegetarian, it is difficult to calm!
Wang Lihong was born in a family of scholars, and the family also had high requirements for his other half.
At the beginning, Shu Qi was the girlfriend who was opposed by her family, and Li Lianglei was a family friend of Wang Lihong's family.
The two families know the roots, and it can also be regarded as a marriage promoted by the order of their parents.
After Li Lianglei and Wang Lihong got married, they "changed their surnames", and he hoped that his children and wives would follow his surnames.
So Li Lianglei changed to "Wang Lianglei", and then gave birth to 3 children within 5 years, and a highly educated girl married into the rich husband and godson.
In order to spoil his wife, Wang Lihong bought 400 million mansions to give to Li Lianglei, after all, everyone is from the Wang family.
It is said that after Li Lianglei married Wang Lihong, she was also particularly insecure.
After all, he is handsome and sought-after, so he has to keep having children and use "changing his surname" in exchange for his approval.
This is beyond reproach, which husband sent his wife hundreds of millions of mansions, "changing the surname" has become a trivial matter.
After all, Liang Luoshi's birth of three children for Li Zekai was not recognized.
Wang Lihong also gave the third son a nickname "Wang Yi", hoping that he would be an upright person.
Netizens laughed: "None of them is curved."
After several years of marriage, Wang Lihong and Li Lianglei have passed on the marriage change, but in fact, the two people are still a normal couple, but they are relatively low-key.
After marriage, Wang Lihong also did not have any scandals, and he could be regarded as a good man who cared for the family.
Some people say that Li Lianglei is too selfless, and in order to love Wang Lihong, the surname is not wanted.
Still having children, what is the significance of a high degree?
Is it just an admission ticket to marry a tycoon?
Don't say it, that's the truth.
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Humanity overrides love
Wang Lihong's family is a family of scholars, starting from his grandfather, he is a heavy minister of the late Qing Dynasty.
The next grandparents are all graduates of various prestigious universities.
Now the members of the family are all doctors, lawyers, engineers, including himself is also a veteran musician.
Therefore, the family will have some requirements for Wang Lihong's selection of objects, which is not difficult to understand why Shu Qi has not been favored.
Wang Lihong's family is not short of money, they value fame.
Li Lianglei is a Colombian master and meets the entry requirements of Wang Lihong's family.
When in love, men can be with the girls they like, as long as they are happy and happy.
Entering a marriage is often a trade-off, and after having money, it is the reputation of the entire family that is considered.
Individual and family mate selection criteria are different.
When a family is large and deeply rooted, they don't choose a woman with an unknown background or a tainted experience.
In the years when Taiwanese idol dramas rose, it seemed that they were all overbearing presidents, and business tycoons rushed to ask for a girl with no culture, ordinary looks and simple minds as wives.
As a result, girls are overwashed by love in a period of time, rely too much on love, and do not like school.
In the case of general family conditions, girls drop out of school very early and are not thinking about future planning.
Then he married early and longed to rely on his other half.
The view of feelings over the past decade and the present has turned a world around.
Rich people prefer to join forces with rich people, and ordinary families are also eager to find upwards, which is actually human nature.
It's just a delusion created by idol dramas for a while, so it won't be popular for long.
Placing yourself on your partner will make people panic, and So will Wang Lihong's wife.
Dependence on others is the beginning of one's own trepidation.
02
Self-reliance is a sense of security
It is easy for people to rely on, especially the weak side, it is difficult not to rely on the strong side.
I saw a girl on Zhihu, who had planned to take a good-looking academic qualification since high school, and then went on a blind date with a high-quality male during the school year, and received a certificate after graduation.
Because it was the best way she could think of to cross levels.
With her as a country girl, even after graduating from college, she may not be able to make much money.
Later, she was actually admitted to Beijing Normal University and received a certificate near graduation.
Her husband had several houses in Beijing, but she also knew that none of these premarital possessions belonged to her.
But compared to many of their peers, it is easy, and they live a stable life after marriage, do not have to pay off their mortgages, and have more than enough to eat and wear.
In her own words, mixing up a degree is really about getting married.
But it didn't ease her anxiety, because she still had to work her career.
If divorced, she would still have no place to live.
Marrying someone does not mean that girls can sit back and relax from now on.
Either have children one by one and try to be tied to your partner's interests.
Gao Pan is easy to swallow the needle, always worried that everything he has will be lost, and has no control.
How many people in such a position can sit back and relax?
At the end of the day, the essence is a lust for the value of the other half.
But the combination of marriage, it is difficult to distinguish between you and me, so you can only continue to spur yourself to be better.
Whether it is an ordinary girl or a girl who marries into a rich family, no matter what marriage is matched, it is the most important thing for a woman to live well.
We need to have our own interests and hobbies, to enrich our lives, to have an independent spirit and ability to survive.
In this way, even if one day, in the face of family variables, you can still have the courage to withdraw.
Dependence is very sweet at the beginning, boiled frogs in warm water, and over time, it is very bitter.
Because habits are addictive, it's scary.
03
Girls' view of mate selection is very important
Also married into the rich, Wang Lihong sent Li Lianglei 400 million mansions, and single-mindedly became a grandfather, and the love for Li Lianglei was unique.
Liang Luoshi gave birth to three children for Li Zekai, and it took only 4 years from the beginning of the relationship to the breakdown.
In the end, he could only raise the child alone, and Li Zekai's object was constantly changing.
There is an element of luck in this, and it is also related to the man's character.
If a man does not regard the woman as a wife and wants to spend his life with her, it is equivalent to not accepting her and not acknowledging her, and such feelings cannot continue after all.
Having money has no love, no acceptance, and being together is just an outsider who is guarded against.
Having children doesn't tie up a man because they have the money and can give birth everywhere.
Our normal girls do not have access to any big houses, at most, the economic conditions are better.
Therefore, girls must know how to protect themselves, so as not to be cannon fodder.
If the boy does not have a public identity, does not intend to include the girl in life, and only wants to play in love and is not willing to communicate deeply.
He is not in a hurry to get married, he is not willing to be responsible, even if the conditions are good, do not give him a companion.
It's easy for him to pay a little money, eat, and entertain, because playing with different girls earns emotional value.
Just like Wang Sicong, life is accompanied by a variety of different beautiful women.
But girls often rely on his efforts easily, thinking that having fun for everyone is to like, is to love.
In fact, all the sky is crazy, and it is not as sincere as talking about marriage openly.
A friend of mine was cheated on by her seemingly good-standing boyfriend for a year.
When she mentioned it to go back to see her parents, the other party said that it was good to be happy together, and the process was the most important.
My friend retorted to him: "If you had said that the process was the most important and the result was not important, do you think I would pay attention to you?" ”
In the process of communication, boys also spend money, but there is a bottom line in spending money, in short, they will not marry home.
Everyone is not willing to be tied up with people they don't like, and some men are clear in their hearts that there is a difference between the people they want to marry and the women they play with.
What girls have to do is not to fantasize, they know the difference between being treated sincerely and being snubbed, not fantasizing, not greedy, they will not be played.
Not the object of firm choice, no matter how good his conditions are, it has nothing to do with you.
If girls also have a male mind, get what they want, and only want to have a happy love, it is normal.
As long as you can be self-responsible, because all gains are accompanied by losses.
Author | Fei Yu A person who likes to explore himself, with growth as the goal, experience as the road, sincerity as the heart, and live a life of maximum freedom.