Author ▏ Qinghe
Modern society's requirements for women are getting higher and higher.
Earning money to support the family, beautiful as a flower, husband and son, these are not only, but also have to go to the hall and the kitchen.
Under the shackles of so many rules, being a good wife and mother is obviously no longer what contemporary women aspire to.
Independent women are synonymous with the trend of the times. Independence requires at least financial freedom first, and having a job is indispensable.
In the workplace, women always have some disadvantages compared to men. Chinese women are generally less likely to express themselves, which is related to our five-thousand-year tradition and family education.
It is undeniable that the opportunity will never come if you cannot express yourself at any time.
So how do you learn to express yourself?
When you have a strong business level but still not appreciated by the leadership?
When you have already received the project and the customer is reluctant to sign it?
Do you always feel that what you say is incompatible with the personalities around you, and you can't fit into this group?
Envy the lecturers who talk on the stage, but in fact, compared with them, we just lack one thing ▬▬ eloquence
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Thomas, an American human scientist, said, "Being able to talk is the shortcut to fame." ”
If women want to win favor in the workplace and life, then good eloquence is essential, language is an art, perhaps some women's faces are very ordinary, but their sweet language, it is easy for others to pay attention to them.
Friend Xiaomin is a shopping guide of a shoe store, she is very good at using her sweet language to praise others, and many customers have become friends,
A girl came to Xiaomin's shop, took a fancy to a pair of shoes, picked it up and tried it on, but still wanted to shop a few more, just wanted to put the shoes back first, then Xiaomin stepped forward, helped the girl take off the shoes and the two were very close.
Xiao Min looked at the girl's face closely and said, "Your skin is so delicate, very fair, what brand of skin care products do you use, it is really good." There was sincere admiration in his eyes.
The girl listened to Xiao Min praise herself so much, and also blushed shyly, because she saw that this was a sincere compliment, as if a friend was chatting with herself, so that the relationship between the two of them suddenly faded, she changed the habit of visiting a few more stores in the past, decisively bought at this place, and also designated Xiao Min to recommend her.
Sincere praise for others, they can all feel, praise for others is the embodiment of respect for others.
Psychology says that everyone will see themselves as "center" to varying degrees, pay special attention to themselves, and want to attract the attention of others.
Therefore, we can express words of sincere praise generously, so that we can pull into relationships more. But praise others also depends on their personality, in others are more serious and sensitive period do not praise too much, but will make others think that you are very frivolous and hypocritical.
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An elegant woman will not be rude in front of others, "hello", "thank you", "sorry" and so on, such words are not to feel that they have been useless for a long time.
Occasionally when you see new friends, you will say hello, and when you step on someone else, you will say sorry.
But the two words of thank you feel that they are used the least, they will not say thank you to their parents and relatives, they rarely say thank you to friends and girlfriends, and they always feel that the two words of thank you are awkward.
But only such polite language can show your inner connotation and upbringing.
Xiaoyu went to work on the first day of work today, it was raining outside, she did not take an umbrella to drench a soup chicken, just entered the company gate and said, "What the fuck is the ghost weather", this is not big or small just floated into the ears of several colleagues who are close to each other, some people frowned, some people turned around and left.
When the light rain finally waited for the elevator, many people in the elevator said loudly to the man near the elevator button, "You help me press the 18th floor", the man was stunned for a while and pressed down.
There were several people in the back who asked the man to press the elevator, but everyone else added two words of thanks. The people in the elevator had a worse impression of the light rain.
The little rain in the story is not only not polite, but also always speaks rudely, which is not good for parents at home, let alone in the company's workplace.
Sincerely express your gratitude, have the courage to take responsibility and learn to say sorry, as long as you say it sincerely, the other party will feel your sincerity.
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You can guess who is the ideal marriage object for men in the dream of the Red Chamber?
The answer is Shi Xiangyun.
This cheerful and lively and occasionally spoiled woman can be said to be popular with everyone. But sometimes it seems difficult for women to be humorous, and it is the style of a lady to remain reserved.
In fact, humor is the best quality of a woman, a woman's humor means that she can self-regulate, know how to use her own way to resolve embarrassment and distress.
Self-deprecation is a form of humor. Moderate self-deprecation will win the applause of others.
The famous host Yang Lan, once presided over a party, accidentally fell off the steps when he stepped down, and when such a thing happened on such an occasion, the average person's heart has long been chaotic.
But Yang Lan just calmly got up and said, "Horses have lost their hooves, and people have lost their feet." And I'm going to have a lion rolling hydrangea today, rolling well, right? It seems that the steps of this performance are not so good! But the shows on stage will be wonderful, believe it or not, look at them. ”
This move caused warm applause at the scene, which not only resolved the embarrassment, but also showed his strong eloquence in a self-deprecating way.
Self-deprecation is not a low-profile or simply mocking oneself. It is a kind of seemingly laughing at its own troubles, but it is actually building a sense of security for others, telling others that they will not hurt anyone.
Self-deprecation is good, but it can't be excessive, and constant self-deprecation will hit your self-confidence and give others a sense of disrespect and make others look down on you.
A person's eyes are her present, and her mouth is her future.
Use your mouth and language well to make you successful in life and the workplace.