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Before starting a formal relationship, people are so cautious, both nervous about going into marriage and afraid that it will break up accidentally. And "premarital problems" are almost the most dangerous moments in it.
But only by asking for exits can the crisis have a chance to be lifted. Read these stories and think about what that question you must ask. Hope you have the opportunity to ask the exit, and also wish you get the answer you want.
What questions do you have to ask each other before you get married?
Author: Readers of the New World
1. Do you mind if I'm a girl who sells adult products?
- Lace
In my spare time, I run an adult products store called Please Miao. My major makes people feel very serious, but many boys will say when they hear my side job: Ah, it is such a girl. What is this like? Is it something you don't like? I hope the other half doesn't mind my interest. Many things are better than confessing after marriage, but showdown before marriage.
2. Do you like women?
- Dear l
not...... Current issues with same-sex wives.
3. Can I unload the probe?
--Lin Ai Sauce
My current partner met on the Probe, and the two of them are very compatible in every way, but he doesn't know how to accept it. I gave up the dating app for him, but I found that he still had contact with the girl on it. I don't want that to be the case until I get married.
4. Can you accept that I am a poor person?
——babygirl
Her parents were both returnees, and when they were young, they lived a superior life and were carefree and silly princesses. Later, the family changed, Mom's factory closed, Dad had an affair and divorced, and everything changed.
I think this is the most indescribable scar. He tried to confess to his classmates, but was ridiculed in person. When I thought I had taken care of everything, I realized that the ridicule with adult politeness behind my back was the most terrible ridicule. From then on, I didn't dare to say or do it, and I only dared to perform in front of everyone as the cute little princess of the past. The future one I love, when I tell you I'm a poor man, then I'm really in love with you.
5. If I can't let go of the fact that you once cheated, do you think we still have to get married?
- Seven
He cheated and talked, with people nearby, old classmates, ex-girlfriends. I forgave, and then there was constant suspicion, questioning, and quarreling, and many times I felt very tired to break up, and finally I was saved. Obviously feel that he does not have the patience he had before, but the wrong person is him, the person who forgives is me, why was it I who was tortured in the end? I wonder if we've been like this, do we still want to stick with it. Forgiveness is easy, forgetting is hard.
6. Would you marry someone who is a liar?
——Sherlock
I lied a lot of panic, some of them deliberately, for example, I said that my family lives in the city and is very rich, and some of them are sprinkled casually, such as I didn't wear makeup today.
7. Would you like me to marry without buying a house in Beijing?
--Little Prince
My girlfriend and I are now facing this problem, she is very stable and the income is not high, I do business uncertainty is very large, my parents do not want me to be so tired in Beijing, she has no reason to give up the Beijing hukou and I go to other cities, really tangled!
8. Do you still have people you can't forget?
——beiny
He's getting married, and the bride isn't me. I have loved him since I became an adult, and I have experienced a period of ambiguity and a period of intense love. When I have problems, he is a tall man who is very tall, which is reassuring.
I don't know which day it will start, and we talk less and less. The platform period I thought had become a couple who couldn't even argue, and they were so peacefully separated. Others seemed to be friends who could still drink and chat after the breakup, and I thought it was a period of peace for both parties, but in less than three months, he had a new girlfriend and coaxed her every day.
I began to panic, realizing that the man I had thought I would marry had left completely. But he never said anything, or as a friend next to him. I asked him the other day, do I sit at the family and friend table or the ex-girlfriend table at your wedding? He said that you had to open a table, you are not the same as others. I instantly cried into a fool. Ask him, I'm going to rob the marriage, will you follow me? He replied to my WeChat after a long time: I can't put you down the most, you have to live well. So, am I someone you can't forget?
9. If you are forced to come out, can you still be with me without hesitation?
- Big Garnet
I'm a girl, and my partner is a girl. Have stable feelings, decide to travel abroad if there is a future, and get married, giving each other a sense of ceremony. Although it has no legal effect in China, I still hope to give her a future. But coming out is a long one, and with it comes opposition and incomprehension, and I would hope that even if she encounters this, she will be able to hold on to the relationship.
10. Is it because we have to buy a house that we are in a hurry to get a license?
- Viola
The agent told us that it was best to get a marriage license before signing the contract. Because he is not a Hangzhou hukou (I am a Hangzhou collective hukou), if the policy changes when applying for a real estate certificate, he will not be able to sign his name. With only 5 days to spare, we hastily decided to do everything in one day next Wednesday, including getting the permit. At that moment, it felt like everything came so quickly that it completely destroyed the beautiful illusion in my heart. Can't help but ask, are you in a hurry to get a license from me in order to buy a house? He grinned back, yes.
11. Do you mind doing property justice?
--Xiaoyu
I have seen too many divorces, and I don't want to lose my wife and fold the soldiers.
After reading, think:
What were the problems you didn't solve before you got married/fell in love, and what happened later?