Today is the 10th day after the divorce, Wang Xiangrong still has not figured out why he and his wife who have been married for seven years have come to this point.
Wang Xiangrong is a child who came out of the countryside. From the time I can remember, my parents quarreled constantly, occasionally escalating into domestic violence, and the young Wang Xiangrong had no other way to think of except to cry and shout "don't fight" on the side.
Although, in those days, fights between husband and wife were a common occurrence. But these still deeply hurt Wang Xiangrong's young heart. He secretly swore countless times that when he got married, he would be good to his wife and not let her suffer a little grievance.
It is said that the lucky people use childhood to heal their lives; the unfortunate people use their lives to heal their childhood. This sentence also applies to Wang Xiangrong.
Suddenly, Wang Xiangrong grew up and had his own wife. Wang Xiangrong also strives to play the role of a husband. Just like the vows I made when I was a child, I must be good to my wife and not let her suffer a little grievance.
However, in the world of life, I am never alone. The environment you are in, the people you are exposed to, the things you encounter. All of this is subtly changing a person. Good or bad, it's all providential.
The of a thousand feet, with the nest of ants collapsing; A hundred feet of room, burned with smoke from a gap.
In this world, there are as many families as there are contradictions. The difference is that couples with three views can resolve contradictions very well; couples with three views that do not match will escalate the contradictions and eventually become irreconcilable.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="44" >01 The contradiction begins to appear</h1>
Because when Wang Xiangrong was very young, his parents quarreled and never avoided him. Therefore, from a very young age, Wang Xiangrong is a person who is very good at observing and observing colors, and to say that it is ugly is to please the personality.
After marriage, Wang Xiangrong was still like this. Always trying to make his wife happy. At first, my wife was really happy, and from time to time she would interact with Wang Xiangrong. Wang Xiangrong was also very happy, and even more happy.
However, I don't know when Wang Xiangrong told his wife jokes and made her happy, his wife always looked at him with a very contemptuous look, and then always said that he was immature. With that effort, it is better to read books and improve yourself.
Slowly, Wang Xiangrong stopped joking with his wife.
Who knows, slowly, the wife's nagging or scorn has more than that. Because the two work in the same company and are in the same office. So not branches or homes; whether someone or no one. When he works hard, the wife says you see who is the husband, clean up the house, things are in order, you are looking at you, except for work, the family does not take care of it at all.
Wang Xiangrong was bitter in his heart, but he did not want to argue with his wife. Slowly, the center of gravity began to tilt towards home. Who knows the wife at home and says: You see who is who is the husband, who works hard, and is appreciated by the leader. Wages are creeping up. The family has already bought two apartments and added a BMW this year. You look at you again, you are not motivated at work, and you can do anything by walking around the house every day. How could I have married you in the first place.
Looking at his wife's face and listening to his wife's chatter, Wang Xiangrong actually had a strange feeling. The person who was in love at the beginning and the person around him now can't overlap.
If you don't accept the difference in individuals, if you don't accept the difference in the trajectory of life, if you always compare the people around you with some good point in others. The three views of you and the people around you will become more and more inconsistent, and you are destined to go farther and farther away from the people around you until you are like a stranger.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="47" >02 The contradiction intensifies</h1>
No matter how loving a couple is, there will be at least a hundred times in their lives that they want to divorce. What's more, Wang Xiangrong couldn't tell whether the pillow people still loved him or not. However, whenever I think of my wife choosing to marry herself when she has nothing. Wang Xiangrong advised himself that if he tried harder, maybe his life would get better.
Wang Xiangrong began to fight desperately. Strive to have a good relationship with your leading colleagues. Wang Xiangrong is a very good person, and there is an inexplicable trait in him, it is easy to mingle with others, coupled with the ability to observe and observe colors cultivated since childhood, well, now people habitually call it emotional intelligence. Wang Xiangrong is like a fish in his work, his colleagues like it, and his leadership is heavy.
However, the world of men has never been inseparable from wine. In particular, the whole circle of people has a good wine atmosphere.
Once or twice, Wang Xiangrong could still shirk it, and after many times, Wang Xiangrong had to force his scalp to socialize. But Wang Xiangrong himself was invincible. Therefore, every time you drink, you will basically get drunk.
When he returned home after drinking, he was bound to be greeted by a number of drops. As for the discomfort of wanting to be taken care of, it is even more bizarre. Every time she came home drunk, my wife always went to bed after she was finished with sarcasm. Even if Wang Xiangrong was uncomfortable, even if Wang Xiangrong fell.
Slowly, Wang Xiangrong's heart also cooled, without warmth and expectation.
I don't know when they started, but the two of them became speechless.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="49" >03 Good to gather and scatter</h1>
Whenever I see my wife's thin body; whenever I think of my wife marrying myself when I have nothing; whenever I see my wife working hard for the family, my body is getting thinner and thinner. Wang Xiangrong always had a feeling of compassion coming from his heart. He wanted to live well with his wife. However, I don't know why, the words that come to the lips are always swallowed back at the moment of saying them. Maybe it was he who thought that when the words of concern came out of his mouth before, the other party always replied to him, "Is it cheating, suddenly so good to her." ”
We never doubt the existence of love in this world; we never doubt that we will meet love; we never doubt that the reason why we chose to get married in the first place was to run to a person for a lifetime.
However, after marriage, chai rice oil and salt, after marriage, endless comparison after marriage, unlimited suppression after marriage. Even if the heart is hot at the beginning, it will slowly cool down. Even under the blazing sun, there is still a piercing meaning.
Wang Xiangrong was tired and no longer liked to be amused, no longer liked to sing, no longer liked to talk.
Work goes on, life goes on. But he felt that his heart was always empty. Looking at the pillow person, I always feel so strange.
Finally, when his wife said to her mother-in-law, who had traveled thousands of miles to take care of her children, "This meal is for pigs", Wang Xiangrong decided not to insist anymore. He decided to let it go.
In fact, it was a very common afternoon, and the two people who came home from work were still playing with their mobile phones as usual. Suddenly, Wang Xiangrong put away his mobile phone, walked over to his wife, and said softly: "Let's get a divorce." ”
The wife put down her mobile phone, raised her head, and looked at Wang Xiangrong. There was no pain in the eyes, no struggle, no joy. Just nodded softly and replied "Okay."
Seven years of conjugal career, this is the end.
In these ten days, Wang Xiangrong always couldn't stop recalling the bits and pieces of the marriage between the two. In addition to complaining, except for accusations, except for anger. It seems that none of them have a deep memory, and the beauty that belongs to the two people alone.
Or, that's it. Wang Xiangrong said.
Somehow, Miyazaki's classic line in "Spirited Away" came to Wang Xiangrong's mind: Life is a train to the grave, there will be many stations on the road, and it is difficult for anyone to accompany him from beginning to end. When your companion is about to get off the bus, you should be grateful even if you don't give up, and then wave goodbye.
Yes, you and I are finally passers-by, may the future time, you can be gentle with the years.
May all couples no longer be burdened by trivial matters, and their hearts will be sunny, and everywhere is beautiful!