I like a passage: "Born to be a human being, it is destined to be lonely, you must get used to anyone's hot and cold, but also look down on anyone's gradual drifting away." Pondering how much friendship stays at the school stage or stays at the work stage, and today's contact information has become a small compliment of the occasional circle of friends.
Each has a different life trajectory, busy with work and busy children, WeChat is only occupied by most of the people who sell goods, all year round can not see half a bit of dynamics, open the address book do not know who to send a message greeting, the WeChat group established in the early years did not have anyone to talk in it. There are fewer and fewer people to contact, and in addition to the small circle that they are busy with every day, few people are disturbed. Sometimes I also want to find someone to talk to, but I don't know who to call when I pick up the phone, and I'm not sure if the friend on the other end of the phone is busy or has time to listen to you. Slowly, your life is like a straight electrocardiogram, from one end to the other.
Zhang Jiajia once said: "The comfortable relationship between people and people is to speak at any time."
In this life, you will meet many people, nod their heads or talk to many people, but there are very few people who can chat with you.
In the morning, a voice phone call came, I grabbed the mobile phone, it was a good friend Li Jia called, it was originally a call to solve a small problem in life, but the more we talked, the more energetic, a phone call accompanied me to do housework, lunch, lasted more than two hours, the last call came in, only to cut off the voice conversation.
Every time I call with these tantrumed friends of mine, it is like two people living on different islands for a long time, rarely meeting people who talk, and when they meet hard, they are eager to pour out all their brains.
Every chat deeply feels the change of each other, a kind of growth born of upward mobility, and with the increase of age, the perspective of looking at things has also changed.
Her husband belongs to the weekday work is very busy, only on weekends two people can see each other, belongs to the weekend couple.
On weekdays, friends take their children every day to clean up the housework, a person is busy, children's dance classes, children's illness need to be taken care of. So as soon as her husband came home, she mostly sprinkled all of her resentment this week on her husband, arranged for her husband to be busy with housework, and pushed all the sets she usually did to her husband.
She began to stubbornly believe that her unhappiness with her children was caused by her husband's absence, and her hardships must also be experienced by her husband, so even if it is a short weekend together, she cannot avoid quarrels.
Maybe it was the accumulation of years, or maybe it was after her husband ran before and after her parents fell ill, she had a new understanding of this man.
Looking at the husband who can sleep soundly at home for an hour every time, I realize that it is not easy for my husband to work outside. She jokingly said: "Usually you also have a place to sleep in the unit, how can you go home and sleep for so long?" The husband replied: "Only when I go home is the most down-to-earth, the most peaceful, the most peaceful sleep, and the most relaxed body and spirit." ”
Yes, running around, only the steps home are the clearest, the warmest, there are family waiting for you, there is the other half who understands you.
Later, the good friend's thinking changed, from complaining to empathetic communication, every time he went home, he did housework in advance, took the initiative to help his husband wash and cook, so that his husband felt the warmth of home. Husbands go home without heavy chores, when they get home, they enjoy it, who doesn't want to go home?
Since then, the husband is also willing to go to the kitchen to make a delicious meal for the mothers and daughters, treat their stomachs, and bring care to their families.
My friend told me that she had attended several family gatherings, and friends who had not seen her many times praised her skin for getting better and her complexion was rosy.
She secretly said to me: If this woman's face becomes more and more glamorous, there must be a husband and a happy family behind her, which I deeply understand.
On this phone call, we talked about family, talked about children, talked about the future development direction, talked about the perception of life, and talked about the years we have walked together.
True confidants and friends are nothing to talk about, happy together when happy, sad to carry together, everything in words, no estrangement, no distance, heart and heart, love than sincerity.
In this fast-paced era, everyone is very busy, many times, we do not want to talk, but do not dare to speak, others have not been there, how can we feel empathy.
Therefore, the person who can talk to you at any time and cook porridge on the phone must understand you and care about you, they may not be around, but in their hearts.
What we seek in our lives is nothing more than someone to worry about, someone to tolerate, a plain life, a simple happiness.
Life is too short, may we all find, the person who can talk, hand in hand to live the rest of their lives.