I now read a lot of articles about confusion and pain. If you also feel lost and feel pain, then please be sure to read this article and see if it can help you. What happens to others is called a story, and what happens to oneself is called an accident. We don't want accidents to happen to us, but a lot of things aren't what we want. What do we do when we do encounter this kind of thing? Is it to complain, to blame, to escape, or to accept? I believe that when you read this article I wrote, you may have the answer you want to find.
I live in a poor peasant family, and when I was young, I had a dream of becoming a driver because I loved cars very much and wanted to drive. But my parents were different, he wanted me to get into a better school, get into the ideal university, and win glory for my family.
Because there are differences in ideals, contradictions are bound to arise. My brother had a car, very broken and broken, in front of the house, and could drive it, but no one went to drive it. I wanted to borrow it and open it, and my brother agreed. It was originally well-intentioned, but it made my brother and my parents turn against each other. Because I was driving, my mother said that it affected my studies and that if something went wrong in my life, my brother was fully responsible. I was caught in the middle, I really didn't know how to say good, my parents were really good to me, I was also very grateful, some times, I was running away from this kind of good for me, because I really didn't need to, at that time, how much I wanted to pursue my ideals, even if I was studying, while learning to drive, I was also willing, if my academic performance was not good, you would not let me drive, I had nothing to say, but I was not allowed to touch the car at all, which was equivalent to completely controlling my freedom, and the mood at that time was really no one to understand for me, Including relatives and friends, they all criticized me a little more and taught me to study well.
Since I graduated from high school and fell off the list, because I did not want to continue my studies and chose to work for support, I became the enemy of my family, because I lost my heart's wishes and ideals. When I see me, I scold, a scolding is a few hours, scolding is a very difficult word, no people who have no breath, people without brains, people who can't support the wall with mud ... These words deeply hurt my self-esteem, resulting in a lack of love in my heart, in the work of the work, always think of others very badly, because I am afraid that my mother's harm to me will appear again in the harm of my colleagues to me, it is because of this psychology that I have inferiority and depression.
Although time has passed a long time, this kind of personality has formed a habit, that kind of harm is deeply buried in my heart, so that my heart feels fear, so I am afraid of dealing with strangers, always have a defensive mentality, so there is a problem with interpersonal communication. Long-term repression leads to unstable personality, easy to produce emotions, controlled by emotions, so it will inexplicably complain, hate yourself, hate others, hate the whole world. The heart is full of hatred, full of hatred, all anger, and communicating with people naturally has no care and love.
As a result, I was older, I had not yet made a girlfriend, and then I introduced an object, every day was a quarrel, he felt that I did not know how to care for and love her, I felt that she only cared about her own considerations, but I considered, just like my mother, are to hurt me. Then I felt fear, helplessness, I wanted to lose my temper, produce this feeling of dissatisfaction, be swayed by emotions, and lose my clear mind.
Later, because I learned the concept of health, I changed my life later. It is the law of cause and effect, working the effect, endlessly, working the cause, a hundred. I am always in the mood, to complain about life, without finding the cause, why the emotion is generated, and what mistakes will be made when the emotion is generated, and what hurts and effects will be followed.
If we don't reflect on our mistakes, we will end up struggling with our mistakes, generating troubles, generating emotions, and then more emotions, greater troubles, and then escalating emotions, escalating our troubles, knowing that we can't control ourselves, losing ourselves, losing everything, staying away from our relatives, rebelling against each other, and even embarking on the road of crime.
I used to always run away from this kind of love that my parents gave me, and I didn't want it, never went to communicate with my parents, said my own inner thoughts in the past, led to pain, continuous expansion, continuous extension, thus producing tragedies and affecting life. If I had talked to my parents about my thoughts more than ten years ago, if I could learn to get off the car with good academic results, I would have been satisfied, my academic performance was not good, and I would never touch the car, at that time, I would definitely study wholeheartedly. It was because my parents didn't let me touch the car, but I resisted and gave up studying, causing my parents to be sad and sad, which is the consequence that I didn't think about for my parents, and my parents didn't go to know the consequences of my true thoughts
Sometimes we really love our loved ones, but if the way we love is wrong, instead of being loved, we get hurt. So to make any choice, you must understand and then make a choice, if you don't understand, you must learn, people's life is inseparable from learning, if you leave learning, do not think, do not admit their mistakes, to face mistakes, and finally there is endless pain.
Like a colleague of mine, a bank found that he could apply for a credit card and I was not eligible to apply, he felt lucky and spent a lot of money, but what about when it came time to pay it back? If you don't know how to protect yourself, then it is likely to become hurt, consider yourself at the same time, you must also consider for others, and work together to achieve a win-win situation for both sides. So when borrowing money, you must think well, whether you can afford to repay the money, if you borrow money easily to repay money, you will make it worse. Banks basically say what are the benefits of borrowing money, and never say what the disadvantages will be if they can't pay back the money. There must be advantages and disadvantages, and it is necessary to seriously understand, to experience, and to make correct judgments