Today we come to interpret a person's marriage, this person is the famous official title of chess in the history of Chinese Go, Nie Weiping's chess is magnificent, talented, belongs to the level of the Kaizong founding school, although he is very accomplished in Go, but his personal emotional life is full of twists and turns.
Nie Weiping
In the impression of many people, Nie Weiping is a scumbag of feelings, because in the first half he abandoned his wife and son, the middle half began to give up chaotically, and the second half was completely useless. But if we look closely at the details of his married life, we will feel that he is not such a person.
Today, based on the information at hand, I will reinterpret a completely different marriage story of Nie Weiping.
Nie Weiping's family and Hideyuki Fujisawa
Let's talk about the ordinary version of Nie Weiping's three marriages, let's briefly describe it: in 1979, he married his first wife, Kong Xiangming, and the two had a son, named Nie Weiping, called Nie Yunqi, which means a horse in the clouds, later renamed Kong Lingwen, and was forced to divorce in 1991.
Nie Weiping immediately married his second wife, Wang Jing, because three months later their son Nie Yunqing was born, the name was Wang Jing's brother Wang Gang, in 2000 Nie Weiping and Wang Jing lived for nine years, peacefully separated.
A photo of Wang Jing when she was young
In April 2001, Nie Weiping met Xiaolan, a beautiful female manager in his dojo branch, nie Weiping took the initiative to pursue, and two months later, Nie Weiping and LanLia established a romantic relationship. The two later had a daughter, Nie Yunfei, who has lived ever since. From the perspective of time, Nie Weiping has almost achieved seamless docking, some people may be curious, although Nie Weiping is not ugly, but it is not in line with handsomeness, how can he be so feminine?
But don't be convinced, some people just have peach blossom luck than ordinary people.
Kong Lingwen
This is Nie Weiping's approximate marriage journey. But what I want to tell you is that his love road is actually more bumpy.
First of all, Nie Weiping's first love was not Kong Xiangming, his first love was one of his classmates surnamed Zhang, the daughter of a lieutenant general. This person will still have heavyweight scenes in the future, and now he will not press the table for the time being. Nie Weiping's first marriage partner was not Kong Xiangming. His first marriage was Koga, the daughter of a provincial governor.
In the process of Nie Weiping learning chess, Nie Weiping and Xiao He fought fiercely, Nie Weiping had the best impression of her, and soon reached the point of talking about marriage, Nie Weiping once told Luo Jianwen, I may hand it over to her in this life. Both sides have met each other's parents, and the parents of both sides are also very satisfied, and the marriage between the two is almost a certainty, foolproof. But the weather is unpredictable, and one thing has derailed everything from the booked track.
Like Nie Weiping, Xiaohe likes to play cards, which is a common hobby of the two, but Xiaohe is particularly strong in personality.
In 1976, in Anhui to participate in the national competition, Nie Weiping and XiaoHe partnered, because there was a fierce conflict between the two people playing cards, after calming down, Nie Weiping realized that the character defects of both sides, they were too strong and strong, did not know how to be humble, and would definitely not be happy to live together in the future, so Nie Weiping rationally chose to break up with her.
At that time, Nie Weiping had just returned from Japan, and the Japanese chess circles pursued him as "Nie Whirlwind".
After the breakup, Xiaohe went to Canada and stayed there to get married and have children.
In 1968, the sixteen-year-old Nie Weiping had a vague and understanding good feeling for a female classmate, this was qingshi's first love, the girl's surname was Zhang, and then the girl did not quit to become a female soldier, Nie Weiping even took the only five yuan of money, pickpocketed the train to the girl's army to find someone, the army was in Qingdao, the teenager Nie Weiping was quite dissatisfied with the girl's resignation, but when they met, there was nothing to say, the girl said: We should still look down on our feelings, focus on work and revolution. Nie Weiping and the girl broke up unhappily,
But Nie Weiping did not have a dead heart and kept writing letters to the girl. The girl returned only one photo.
Nie Weiping later became a Heilongjiang Zhiqing and went to the icy northeast, and this relationship was sealed in his heart. This woman surnamed Zhang is an important role in our new version, she runs through almost the entire marriage process of Nie Weiping, and almost subverts all normal order. Because her story is more ruined, so I have been hesitant to tell it in detail, let's call her Ms. Zhang. She is Nie Weiping's first love, the first person to win Nie Weiping's feelings, but also the person who was excluded from the marriage object by Nie Weiping, at least in front of her, Nie Weiping adhered to the moral bottom line. Because of what? Because the three views are not in harmony. Okay, that's the spoiler.
In fact, Nie Weiping had known Kong Xiangming for a long time, probably in 1965, when Nie Weiping was 13 years old and Kong Xiangming was 10 years old, both of whom were teenagers who were playing chess. Nie Weiping's achievements have been top-notch since he was a child, so his popularity is quite good.
Kong Xiangming was the undisputed first woman in the world in the 1970s and 1980s.
In the more than ten years that Nie Weiping stepped towards the peak of his career, Kong Xiangming was willing to sacrifice his personal career for marriage, and he was a veritable behind-the-scenes hero, which can be called "Xian Neisuke".
In some ways, Kong Xiangming also has a distinct personality, for example, when others introduce her, they say that this is Nie Weiping's wife, and she will loudly retort that I have my own name, my name is Kong Xiangming. Nie Weiping was very uncomfortable with her reaction, because it would cause speculation that the relationship between the two people was not good.
Nie Weiping and Kong Xiangming
In 1986, when Nie Weiping returned from a japanese match, Kong Xiangming handed him a letter saying that this was your girlfriend. This shows that Nie Weiping told Kong Xiangming the story of his first love, including the name Kong Xiangming, so at this time Nie Weiping was really a gentleman and frank, because he never hid from Kong Xiangming, bright and upright. Nie Weiping opened the letter, and it was also the pandora's box that opened. This so-called Nie Weiping's girlfriend was the Qingdao female soldier of the year, who has now changed her name to Zhang Yan, and she suddenly broke into Nie Weiping's life again after she disappeared for seventeen years, although she did not personally end Nie Weiping's marriage, she still had an attempt, and there is evidence that she did indeed do so. She is married and has children in the United States, and now returns to China to work as a doctor after divorce. After she and Nie Weiping got in touch, she told Nie Weiping that she was divorced and wanted to live with Nie Weiping, if Nie Weiping wanted to.
This is too ruining, Nie Weiping of course refuses, how can it be? Nie Weiping's education and courtesy and shame all told him that this kind of thing could never be done.
But these things don't seem to be a thing for Ms. Zhang, she doesn't even want her children's husbands, do you still care about these? Nie Weiping reminds her that she has a wife and children, but Ms. Zhang says she can try to talk to Kong Xiangming. She really did that, her meeting with Kong Xiangming must have been very unpleasant, the specific details can not be known, but this conversation has two results, Kong Xiangming rejected the other party's absurd proposal, and did not talk to Nie Weiping about this, because Kong Xiangming must understand that Nie Weiping will not marry the person who took the initiative to bubble up in front of him, Nie Weiping just treated the other party as an old confidant, an old friend, of course, Nie Weiping never planned to marry her. Five years later, when Nie Weiping and Wang Jing were in a relationship, he even consulted Ms. Zhang, hoping that she would give a suggestion, and the other party spoke surprisingly, saying that no matter who it was, as long as it could replace Kong Xiangming, Nie Weiping did not know why she had such a big prejudice against Kong Xiangming.
Kong Xiangming
Maybe Ms. Zhang was grumpy about that doomed unpleasant meeting, as the lyrics sang: You hurt me and laughed.
The smile that came out of the corner of Kong Xiangming's mouth was a contemptuous laugh, which was beyond doubt, for a woman who came to talk to himself and hoped that he would give up her husband and marriage, Kong Xiangming did not have a big mouth, which was really good to cultivate.
There is a detail, chess fans are familiar Nie Weiping has congenital heart disease, easy to lack of oxygen in the brain during the game, so he often needs oxygen, coincidentally, Ms. Zhang returned to China after divorce, just happened to be an attending doctor in a military hospital. So Nie Weiping often went to her for oxygen and did hyperbaric oxygen therapy, and Nie Weiping's memoirs mentioned that he could win five games in a row in the second Sino-Japanese Go tournament, which was not unrelated to his insistence on doing hyperbaric treatment.
It is said that Wang Jing and Nie Weiping just met not long ago, and went to a banquet where Kong Xiangming was also there, although the two people were separated and did not sit together, but Kong Xiangming still relied on the woman's intuition to feel that the two people were catty, maybe a look was caught, it would be betrayed.
Kong Xiangming is a very proud person in his heart,
In 1987, the relationship between Nie Weiping and Kong Xiangming was already tense, and they often quarreled.
Kong Xiangming continued to file for divorce, but Nie Weiping never agreed. Mainly because he felt that the impact was too bad, at that time the newspapers were advertising that they were a "model couple"; secondly, Nie Weiping liked his son, and if he divorced, the son would make it difficult for him to give up. So it's been maintained.
Kong Xiangming suddenly proposed to study in Japan alone, which is very abnormal, Nie Weiping did not agree with her to go, but Kong Xiangming's temper was very stubborn, she still went, she went to distant Japan alone, maybe she did not see, the heart was not bothered, the world was temporarily clean.
Nie Weiping stayed in China alone, which gave Nie Weiping the space and opportunity to cheat mentally, and although he excluded Ms. Zhang, he still met Wang Jing.
A few years ago, in the face of Ms. Zhang, who took the initiative to attack, he stuck to the moral bottom line, this time, how did he perform?
Nie Weiping first met Wang Jing, was at the Spring Festival Gala of Hunan Television Station in 1990, the first impression was when she dressed up, this is nothing, the key is that later found that this woman will dance, this is nothing, the key is to find that this woman can also drink wine, is a good hand in social occasions, Nie Weiping is good at drinking, has the heart to let Wang Jing drink more, a little foreign, but the result is actually not to explore Wang Jing's bottom, this woman's alcohol is also good.
The relationship between Nie Weiping and Wang Jing from the first acquaintance, to have something to say, to often dating, the relationship developed rapidly, of course, the two people are inconsistent in caliber, almost made the Rashomon incident, for example, the version of the exchange that the two sides said was obviously conflicted, for example, both sides said that the other party was very active, so that their originally calm heart lake had ripples, the adjective in the back was made up by me, but the process of communication was not important, the result was that everyone saw, Wang Jing was pregnant.
Nie Weiping had two manifestations at this time, first saying that he would be responsible and that the child would be born. But back to the specific operation of the implementation of divorce but it is very difficult, feel the resistance, in fact, it is difficult to achieve the wish, so he said to Wang Jing that he could not get married, Wang Jing at this time used a trick, refused to beat the child, insisted on giving birth, her attitude made Nie Weiping's original attitude without a clear attitude immediately had a clear attitude, that is, must be divorced, Kong Xiangming heard that Nie Weiping and the other party already had a child, and they were about to give birth, so they were calm and cheerful (pay attention to her attitude, they have been mentally prepared) and agreed to divorce, However, two conditions were put forward: first, the son himself would be taken away, and the son would change his surname to Kong, and second, he hoped that Nie Weiping would provide necessary help in the matter of himself and his son studying in Japan.
Financially, she did not make any demands, showing her personality, and she even returned Nie Weiping with a winning chess prize in hand, which made Nie Weiping feel guilty and unbearable in addition to agreeing to the conditions. Nie Weiping's divorce is said to be unacceptable to his mother, and Nie Weiping's mother is orthodox and speaks badly to her son. Mr. Deng Pufang deliberately brought Nie Weiping to his home, criticizing Nie Weiping for being too unruly and not agreeing to Nie Weiping's divorce. Mr. Wu Shaozu, Mr. Li Furong, and Nie Weiping were both superiors and friends, and they talked to Nie Weiping and did their work. Although Chairman Wanli did not explicitly say this, he was also quite dissatisfied with Nie Weiping's approach, and Nie Weiping's good friend Jiang Kun also took the opportunity to ridicule him, and the people rebelled and left, and Nie Weiping's reputation was discredited, and he finally divorced him.
Kong Xiangming moved to Japan, and later after having a stable job, Kong Xiangming took his son to live with him, she also renamed her son Kong Lingwen, Kong Lingwen added Japanese nationality, he later rose to the seventh dan in the Japanese chess world, he married Kobayashi Kyaw's daughter Kobayashi Kiyoshi, and the two had a son named Kong Dezhi.
Three generations of grandchildren
Since 1991, kong Lingwen, who has a strong temperament, has not been able to forgive his father for a long time, and even refused to accept his father's gift money when he married. It was not until Kong Dezhi was born that the relationship between father and son gradually eased. In the documentary "Go", in 2014, Nie Weiping went to Japan to attend the funeral of Master Wu Qingyuan, and the three generations of grandchildren also had a meal together, and Kong Lingwen served as Nie Weiping's Japanese translator throughout the whole process.
Wang Jing recalled that in the marriage with Nie Weiping, the initial happiness and freshness passed, and gradually felt lonely and empty, three months after marriage, the son was born, and the romance of the piano, chess, calligraphy, painting, poetry, and hops became chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, the gap in reality was huge, and the gap at the psychological level must also be there. Kong Xiangming is a chess player, for Nie Weiping to play chess is unconditional support, Wang Jing does not understand Go, can not help Nie Weiping's career, it is said that Nie Weiping once taught several beloved apprentices at home, the master and mother went home to take a look, greeting always want to play one, do not know that it is out of fear of the master and mother, the apprentices collectively mute, so embarrassed to quit,
Wang Jing is a first-class singer of the General Political Song and Dance Troupe, and her personality is a woman who needs to be considerately cared for by others, while Nie Weiping's thick-lined nerves can neither coordinate interpersonal relationships nor take good care of Wang Jing. There is also the period from 1991 to 1993 when Nie Weiping's chess skills went downhill, and Wang Jing inevitably carried the black cauldron, which made Wang Jing feel very aggrieved. Later, Wang Jing put her focus on her career and also went to the Spring Festival Gala on CCTV. The feelings of the two people gradually became colder and lighter.
Of course, there is another version, saying that the trigger for the breakup of the two people was that Wang Jing overheard nie Weiping and another person's phone call, and neither side said the contents of the phone, I don't know, but it was a woman who spoke to Nie Weiping. The main reason for Nie Weiping's anger was because his personal privacy had been violated. In 2000, Wang Jing and Nie Weiping chose to break up peacefully, and Nie Weiping later reviewed in his autobiography: He is nine dan in go, but he is not in the section in life. If you start again, you will not divorce Kong Xiangming. Nie Weiping reflected on himself so much, reflecting from the side how heavy the price paid that year was.
Although Nie Weiping's emotional life is not satisfactory, and his career has been repeatedly damaged, this mainly refers to his three consecutive defeats in the World Series championship after the glory of the Sino-Japanese Go Tournament, but Nie Weiping is not useless in terms of financial management, he and Chang Hao, Zhou Heyang, Liu Jing, Wang Lei and other disciples have signed a contract, the contract stipulates that after the disciples win the championship, the master must share a piece of the pie, and the proportion is not low, this matter began to make a lot of noise, but then it was not over. The establishment of nie weiping dojo, Nie Weiping let his disciple Zhao Zhelun responsible, the business can be described as prosperous, Nie Weiping became a winner in the business field.
In Guo Degang's cross-talk "Loser Son", a man, suddenly rich, suddenly found himself still a single stick, which of course can't be. Nie Weiping also lined up money, and single for more than a year, once someone introduced him to a professional manager of his dojo branch, he couldn't help but be dazzled, this manager is a beautiful woman, named Lan Liya, Guizhou, twenty-three years younger than Nie Weiping, Lan Liya is young and beautiful, tall and tall, fashionable, Nie Weiping resolutely launched a pursuit, two months later basically established a love relationship, the two were married in 2001, the wedding was very low-key, on March 8, 2004, the daughter of the two was born.
Nie Weiping and Lady Nie
At least on the surface, Nie Weiping is the most satisfied with his third marriage, and Nie Weiping, who has never been willing to listen to concerts with Kong Xiangming, will now accompany his wife to watch movies and go shopping, which is unimaginable in the past two wives. The young Lady Nie is beautiful and capable, and Nie Weiping himself is also very satisfied, frankly hoping that this is the "closing battle" of his marriage.
On November 5, 2013, the twelfth year after Nie Weiping's third marriage, Nie Weiping underwent colon cancer tumor resection surgery at the Cancer Hospital of the Chinese Academy of Medical Sciences, which was the first time that Nie Weiping faced the test of life and death.
Nie Weiping's attending doctor, Zhou Zhixiang, had predicted the worst outcome, that is, Nie Weiping's back door might not be saved, but the four-hour operation was very successful, Nie Weiping passed the threshold of life and death, and Dr. Zhou, who was skilled in medicine, gave Nie Weiping a chance to be reborn.
Later, another incident occurred, during the Spring Festival in 2015, Nie Weiping's daughter FeiFei accidentally fell into the sea on the Thai island of Samui, but thanks to a Kunming tourist who rescued her, she escaped from danger. In two or three years, important members of the family have experienced the test of life and death continuously, which has had a strong impact on the marriage of Nie Weiping and LanLia, and Nie Weiping began to reflect on his life. Enlightened, he began to pay attention to his family and his health. This may be the true footnote that Nie Weiping's third marriage has experienced more than twenty years of ups and downs and has stood firm.
Nie Weiping is always said to be high IQ, low emotional intelligence, he is eager to refute these, so he sent a Weibo in 2001, he wrote: A person has three wives, and one is better than one, how can emotional intelligence be low? This sentence does not make logical sense. Netizens have made sarcastic remarks: its emotional intelligence is really not low, and the current wife has heard that nature is the most used. Others think that his remarks are true that emotional intelligence is indeed low.
Group photo of Nie Weiping and Kong Xiangming in 1988
We reviewed Nie Weiping's marriage as a whole, Nie Weiping found that Xiao He's personality was flawed, decisively ended the relationship, and then married Kong Xiangming three years later, all of which showed that he had a clear thinking and a clear overall situation, but he was frequently confused in the later stage, just like his later chess skills. But Nie Weiping and Xiaolan finally had a fairly good life, and the two of them had also experienced the test of life and death, so Nie Weiping played a good game of chess in life.
Ms. Zhang's three views in this article are more thunderous, and I feel that if any man meets someone like her, it will be disastrous.
One scene that made me feel strange was that in 1990, a dance party for the tenth anniversary of Nie Weiping and Kong Xiangming's marriage was held, but unexpectedly, six months later, the two ended in divorce. I've always wondered what the motivation for this ball was.
Isn't it a little dazzled to see?
Let's talk about Kong Xiangming and Wang Jing's final destination.
In 2001, Kong Xiangming, who had lived in Japan for 11 years, returned to China to develop, and once experienced a failed marriage and vowed never to marry again, but Kong Xiangming's father had a last wish to live happily, and he was introduced to a philosophy professor at Sichuan University in February 2001. Bless her.
After Wang Jing's divorce, she lived with Nie Weiping's son Nie Yunqing, and through the mediation of Wang Gang and his wife, Wang Jing later met a violinist, but because she was unwilling to go abroad with the other party, the marriage failed, and she told her brother that she was living alone, which made her brother feel sad. Now it is said that she has a new home. Bless her too.
Nie Weiping
The initiator of everything was Nie Weiping. He developed rectal cancer in 2013, the tumor was between the rectum and the large intestine, and it was not small. His own attitude is resolute in demanding surgery, his attitude is positive, but in fact the risk of surgery is not small, it is said that the high probability will not be able to save the anus, even if you survive, the quality of life will be very low, on the morning of November 5, 2013. The operation was carried out for 4 hours and the operation was successful. Nie Weiping won the bet. On August 27, 1985, the thirteenth game of the first Sino-Japanese Go Tournament in Atami, Japan, in the middle stage, Nie Weiping robbed the official son, did not make up for the big dragon, performed an empty city plan, Kobayashi Koichi really did not go out of the best result, Nie Weiping gambled to win, and finally he won the black two-and-a-half-eye victory over Kobayashi Koichi, thus opening up his glory in the Sino-Japanese Go Tournament.
On the stage of marriage, there has never been right and wrong in the general sense, so today I come to reinterpret Nie Weiping's three marriage stories, but also hope to clarify some facts and expound some truths.
Nie Weiping had lived most of his life wonderfully enough. Bless him too.
Koichi Kobayashi