Nine years after graduation, college roommates had dinner together.
On the way to take the high-speed rail, my heart is full of emotions and anxiety.
First of all, let me state that there is no story of wind and snow here, which can only be regarded as an account of a young woman's "year of establishment".
The poet Rimbaud said "to live elsewhere". I am also obsessed with and yearning for life elsewhere, a colorful ideal life.
Others have new dreams, colorful lives, I am immersed in doing lesson preparation all day long than performance; others with high-paying jobs may have already achieved wealth freedom, I even have to buy thousands of clothes for months; others have leisure time, drinking a cup of coffee in Starbucks, and I am tired of the boring life of the small town with nowhere to escape...
Party by the sea. Looking at the sea, listening to the waves, eating seafood, watching the neon lights at night, isn't this the poetry and distance I yearn for?
After eating, talk about their recent situation, children, husbands, life... Somehow they complained about their respective jobs.
Roommates at the bank said that the most envied in the past were the well-dressed bankers who thrived in the financial circle. Later, she was recruited to work in a bank. Later, the students who entered the banking system faced countless deposits and withdrawals and customer difficulties at the counter every day, which made her physically and mentally exhausted, and on the way back early and late, she asked herself countless times whether she wanted to resign.
Housemates who do finance say that they used to envy those who understand taxes and can analyze financial data. Later, after graduation, she entered a large company and worked as an accountant. Later, the students who did financial work dealt with countless documents every day, trivial and had to be "careful", a number error means a major mistake, in countless nights, she asked herself again and again, whether to resign.
Housemates who start a business say that they used to envy entrepreneurs with small incomes and unfettered. Later, she raised money to open a shop and became her own boss. However, the students who started their own businesses are busier, she not only has to consider the development and performance of the store, but also deal with customer service every day, and in the days of poor performance, she has asked herself countless times whether to give up.
I worked within the career system (education industry), the work was stable, and at first I really felt that "teaching and educating people" was a very sacred job. Later, there was a lot of complaining, the initial love and passion faded with the years, and there was no longer a glorious neon in the siege, and there was still a breathless weight.
You always yearn for the beauty of life elsewhere because you are not satisfied with the status quo.
But if you were asked to choose your dream job, what job would you want to do? Is there a job that never gets tired of thinking about leaving?
No matter how good the job is, there are times when you are tired, you are criticized and misunderstood at work, you feel wronged; you feel aggrieved when you make an effort and work is not promoted and recognized; you feel aggrieved when you work for many years without getting your salary raised... In the monotonous repetition day after day, we gradually fantasize about the beauty of other places.
On the way back, the heart was much calmer. I want to say something to my "thirty and standing" self, and also to every tangled friend.
Contentment is always happy
The Ming Dynasty's "Augmenting Xianwen" said: "Life is like a colt crossing a gap." The field is thousands of acres, the eclipse is three liters; the building is thousands of rooms, and the night sleep is eight feet. ”
Even if people have thousands of acres of fertile land, they can only eat three liters of rice a day; there are people in Guangsha and a thousand rooms, and they can only sleep eight feet a night. The most difficult thing to fill is the desire in the heart, people have a pursuit of good, greed is too much, is the desire is difficult to flat.
The ideal job is nothing more than to support everyone's ordinary life, to support a life that can support the family and poetry far away.
Think of it this way, do you think your job is not bad?
Live in the moment
The Song Dynasty's Wumen Hui Kai Zen master has a very beautiful Zen poem:
Spring has a hundred flowers, autumn has a moon, summer has a cool breeze and winter has snow;
If there is no idleness to worry about, it is a good time on earth.
Everyone has the beauty of the four seasons of spring, summer, autumn and winter. Enjoy a hundred flowers in spring; feel the rare cool breeze in summer; enjoy the moon in autumn, flowing water and flowers; enjoy snow in winter, wrapped in silver. And some people, when they see the flowers falling in the late spring, they shed tears, when they see the hot summer, they want the coolness of autumn, and the cold winter days look forward to the warm sun of spring and warmth.
There is nothing else to live in, and living well in the present moment is the most important thing. Blindly immersed in the past or imagining tomorrow, no day will be good.
Live in the moment, friends, run with heart, your family is happy, your children are excellent, and life is full and romantic.
Silent precipitation
If you still feel that this job is not worthy of you, then choose to change.
But the premise of choice is the ability to embrace the wider world at any time, to make like-minded friends, and to live a poetic life far away. However, when the ability is insufficient, silently improve your own construction ability.
We all have to go through a difficult time and quietly precipitate to change the ending of the story.
Finally, the students who do financial work go to the office to write copywriting, the students who do bank work are transferred to the software development department, and although the students who start their own businesses have not yet achieved wealth freedom, when they want to live elsewhere, they can go to the Beijing suburban homestay to see poetry and far away.
You might say that this is just a part of the people who have changed, and some friends who are still struggling in their lives. It is better to change the mentality, you are not satisfied, then do not compromise, do not compromise, then go to change. Deep into the soil silently precipitated, flowers bloomed, and the breeze came.
I hope that those who have read this article can cherish what they have now and live well in the present. Maybe you have worked hard for many days, and fate has not given you back too much, but you must firmly believe that every day of silent effort alone will shine in the long river of your destiny. When you are strong enough, you can live well in the moment, or you can choose to live elsewhere in that colorful place.