Whenever it comes to the New Year's Holiday family gathering, we can often see such a scene, that is, adults teasing children. In our country, this kind of Chinese teasing makes many parents feel very disgusted.
Because some people's behavior of teasing children is actually a kind of teasing of children. Our children are innocent and lovely.
So many adults like to tease children, in fact, it is not harmful to tease children appropriately, but if the child's teasing makes the child feel panicked and afraid, then this kind of teasing against the child will make the child hurt, so young parents must bravely reject him when they see some people teasing their children in inappropriate ways.
Girlfriend Xiaofang just gave birth to a second child this year, Xiaofang's big treasure is a girl, this year is only 6 years old, Xiaofang complained to me yesterday, yesterday took two children to participate in the family dinner, did not expect that the relatives at the table have been teasing Xiaofang's daughter said, your mother will not love you after giving birth to a little brother, you will certainly not recruit your mother to like at home, and your mother will give all her love to her brother.
This made Xiaofang's daughter very angry, and she even cried. Xiao Fang also felt very angry when she saw such a scene, so she stopped those relatives from saying don't say so, and the children were angry.
Who knows those relatives but said, what is this, so young began to get angry, this child is also too stingy. Later, Xiaofang's daughter was even more aggrieved and left the table directly.
Xiaofang told me that these relatives are just like sickness, and the more uncomfortable the child, the happier they are. And these relatives have also teased Xiaofang's son before, because Xiaofang's second child gave birth to a boy, and many relatives are very excited.
In the previous New Year, these relatives tried to dip some white wine with chopsticks for Xiaofang's son to lick, and then wanted to touch Xiaofang's son's little jj. The behavior of these relatives made Xiaofang feel very disgusted, and Xiaofang decided not to take her two children with her next family gathering.
A survey on the Internet about being teased by adults from an early age shows that 90% of netizens were teased by adults in inappropriate ways when they were young, and there is still a psychological shadow that cannot be shaken off.
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01 So for the healthy growth of the baby, parents see these 5 kinds of teasing behaviors, must be brave to say no</h1>
1. Guide and encourage children to drink
I believe that parents who have given birth to baby boys have such an experience, when taking the baby to participate in the family dinner, many male relatives will guide and even encourage the child to drink, and even when the child is still young, many relatives will try to use chopsticks to dip liquor to let the baby lick with his tongue.
These relatives even say that boys who can drink are manly, and such words will make children try these inappropriate drinks prematurely, which has a great negative impact on the growth and development of children.
2. "Throw" the child
This kind of behavior of randomly throwing children away is easy to appear in those young fathers and male relatives, because of the love for children, so they have made such behaviors, and many babies will feel very happy in the face of such behavior.
But in fact, such behavior has a lot of safety risks for the baby, when the baby is lifted over the head, because people will have a misunderstanding of vision, so the baby will be thrown over the head, and if the force is too large, the baby is also easy to feel nervous or afraid because of weightlessness.
3. Verbal teasing children
I believe that everyone understands that there are always some adults who take pleasure in verbally teasing children, and many parents have also suffered from the verbal teasing of these relatives when they were young, leaving a lot of shadows so far.
For example, many relatives like to snatch the child's toys, and then tell the child that this is mine, so that the child is very anxious, these people will be very happy to see the child in a hurry, and the behavior of these relatives is completely based on the child's pain.
4. Take pleasure in scaring children
I believe similarly, your mother does not want you, you are picked up from the trash can, so that everyone is very familiar with it, many relatives are very fond of saying this kind of intimidating words, some children are scared to cry, these relatives will be particularly excited.
It is possible that they do love the child, but the behavior of teasing the child in this way is really incomprehensible, and many friends say that they still can't forget the psychological shadow caused by being teased by relatives as a child.
5. Force children to perform in public
The growth process of Chinese children is inevitably compared, whenever the New Year festival, many relatives will put all the children in the family together to compare, and also let them perform the program, if there are children who do not want to perform, these relatives will say, why is this child so timid?
Such a child must be trained, and he must be allowed to perform a show for everyone, so that his courage can be exercised. Such words will only stimulate the child's young and fragile self-esteem, and make the child feel depressed and inferior.
02 So what should parents do about this inappropriate way of teasing? </h1>
1. Do not go along with relatives and be a strong backing for children
In the face of inappropriate teasing by relatives, many parents not only do not help their children, but instead go along with their relatives. When relatives say how this child is so shy, like a girl, as a parent, they will even say right, right, this child is like this.
This kind of behavior of parents undoubtedly encourages relatives to use words to attack children, although Chinese is more modest in dealing with people, but in the face of relatives who accuse children, parents should become the strong backing of children, rather than standing against the children to accuse children.
2. Teach children to be brave enough to say no
When children face the teasing of adults, it is difficult for them to get rid of them, after all, they are just children. Therefore, in the face of adult teasing, they first show cowardice, nervousness, shyness, some adults force children to do things, children are afraid and refuse to do it.
This will lead to children becoming more and more timid, afraid to communicate with adults, so as a child's parents, we must encourage children to face behaviors they do not like, and must be brave to say, no! Be sure to be brave enough to say it, I don't want to! I don't want to!
3. When the child is directed by relatives, it is necessary to soothe the child's wounded heart
When the child is accused by relatives, compared by relatives, intimidated by relatives, and other verbal teasing, as a parent, you must soothe the child's wounded heart in time, because some words are jokes for adults, but the child will take it seriously.
Parents, as the strongest backing of children, have the obligation to protect children from these malicious teasing from adults, so as to give children a healthy growth environment, although China is a humane society, but for the healthy growth of children.
Some parents must be brave, in the face of these inappropriate teasing behaviors, we must stop the loss in time, and do not wait until the indelible harm to the child to regret it.
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