There is a line in a TV series like this:
"Even if the man in front of you is as good as a thousand, as good as ever, and everywhere is a good point, but he doesn't love you, this shortcoming, you can never change." 」
A kind and wise woman, a good man will love her. The emotional thing is very strange, when you are very engaged, the other party is very withdrawn. When you are very withdrawn, the other party is very engaged.
It shows that smart women will not put all their minds on men, and may put part of their minds on men's bodies, and will also put another part of their minds on their own.
Some men may be very nervous if they are hot and cold to women, thinking that this man may have to leave himself, so he will get better and better for men.
In fact, smart women know:
When men are hot and cold to you, women do not go to please, use the following ways to treat him, men will in turn accompany women.
01.
Make fun
Women must know how to create interest, if you do not know how to create interest, men will feel that you are like a cup of boiled water, may be at the beginning of the person think that you are very simple, but over time, you feel particularly uninteresting, because people are like this, there is a kind of like the new and tired of the old psychology.
If a person does something and does it for a long time, you will find that the person will develop a habit, but if the person and a person have been with a person for a long time, you will find that the man will get bored, which is the state of mind of most men.
Just like you eat the same meal all day, so long, you will feel very tired, and you will feel that this meal is not very tasty, this meal is not very important, although this meal may still be so precious, so important, but your heart is like this.
So women must create some fun, on the one hand, women can make men feel very interesting when they talk, and sometimes they can tell men some jokes. On the other hand, women should not be too rigid when doing things, and sometimes give men too much interest, so that men feel that although it is the same thing, it is different after this woman does it.
Some women are especially obedient when they are with men, and after a long time, men will feel that this woman does not have any advantage. Because men will feel that this woman has no ideas of her own, is a woman without a high level of thought, so men will also feel that this woman is not as good as someone else's woman.
Creating love will also make men feel that life is also interesting, and they like to be with this woman more and more.
02.
Reflect on your own character
There are some women who don't have a very good personality when they're with men.
Some time ago, a man on the Internet blind date, this man said that the reason why he and his ex-wife divorced is because the ex-wife's personality became particularly bad after she became pregnant, often quarreled, and after a long time, I felt that this person was not very good, and then the two people divorced.
This man felt that the reason why his ex-wife had a bad personality was because the wife felt that she was pregnant, so she felt that she had no fear, so she threw a tantrum at herself.
In fact, women are not in a good mood when they are pregnant, and quarrels should also be something, but when this man says these words, the woman who introduces the object to this man says: This woman who likes to quarrel is not good at all, and feels that she is pregnant, she is particularly proud, so she will have such a personality, and it is best for such a person to leave early.
Many people think that you have a bad personality, but few people think about a situation in your heart.
So no matter what kind of situation, women must be rational, to maintain a good character, so that men will not be hot and cold to you, because people's hearts are long, men sometimes feel that your personality is not good, that is, you are not good for men, so men will also have opinions about you, slowly to alienate you.
There is something that must be explained clearly, do not lose your temper indiscriminately, and make men scratch their heads, so that men will also feel particularly annoyed.
Reflecting on your own personality is the most important thing, you must calmly tell the man first, even if you want to lose your temper, but you also want the man to know why you are angry, rather than let the monk who is the second son of the man scratch his head.
In this world, many people want to destroy your family, and when you lose your temper with a man, if the man asks someone else out there, other people will blame you and will never think from your point of view.
People who destroy other people's families often like to say some chicken soup for the soul, make men listen to these languages, and finally make men abandon their families, and such things are too many.
03.
Shape yourself
When men are hot and cold to women, women should not forget to shape themselves, always make themselves better and better, when you become better and better, men will be attracted to you.
There is no one-time thing, love is the same, don't feel that you and the man have held hands, you have a boyfriend, or you have a husband, then the love between the two of you will be long and long, in this world, everything is developed, when things develop to a certain extent, if you have not changed yourself, then maybe you will part ways with this man.
So there are many men in this world who abandon their wives after they become excellent, in fact, it is not that this man's personality is so difficult to move, in fact, sometimes because the wife has not progressed, the two people have no common language, so men have to leave women.
04.
Make more friends
When men are hot and cold to women, women should not put a mind on men, women should go outside to see more friends, see the outside world, and distract their own attention.
When women are distracted, the mood will be much better, and men also know that even if they do not have their own women can live well, at this time men will be a little unwilling, in turn and reconcile with women.
If some men see that they are hot and cold to women, women will go outside to find other friends, and men will feel a little uncomfortable in their hearts, because men feel that this woman may go outside to find other men, and think that this woman may leave herself.
When men feel that they are about to lose, men will feel the preciousness of staying, so we must let men feel that women are important, and do not keep tired of twisting men.
Properly maintaining distance can actually enhance the feelings of two people, because distance can produce beauty.
When a man is hot and cold to you, don't please the man, but do a few other things. Women are easy to fall in love with the brain, but sometimes you also have to be sober, so that it is conducive to helping your love go smoothly.