Even famous teachers or celebrities and famous mouths sometimes can't help their families, because "there are no great people in close relatives", everyone has their own time and space luck, and what should come will still come.
I don't know if you remember the news that the daughter of the hypnosis master Xu Ming a few years ago jumped off a building and committed suicide because of her love. At that time, people often asked me: "Xu Ming himself is a teacher, but also taught everyone how to hypnotize, since he can guide others, why can't he guide his own children?" ”
Such a statement is actually very unfair, because everyone has innate roots and the luck of time and space.
I remember interviewing Xu Ming's wife Ying Cailing at that time, she said that she had always talked to her daughter, got along like a friend, and respected her daughter's ideas, so when her daughter told her that she had a boyfriend and wanted to move out to live with her boyfriend, she did not object, thinking that since it was the daughter's decision, she respected her.
The only regret is that the morning when her daughter was going to jump off the building, she called her, but she did not receive the call, it was later when she saw the missed caller ID, that she knew that her daughter had looked for her, but it was too late, she did not have time to talk to her daughter, and her daughter had ended her life. Therefore, she was very upset, thinking that if she had not missed her daughter's call at that time, she might have saved her life.
However, the most crucial sentence I heard was that Ying Cailing said helplessly: "However, with my daughter's strong personality, even if she was dissuaded by me that day and did not jump off the building, as long as she was determined, it would not be long before she would still go looking for death." ”
Therefore, I often feel that sometimes in the face of such unfortunate events in society, there is no need to discuss why even famous people cannot help themselves, because "there are no great relatives", everyone has their own time and space luck, and what should come will still come.
When interacting with children, other half, and family members, turn a corner and change directions to make everyone feel relaxed, and the effect will of course be better.
Just like some people will complain that they are very disciplined people, why do they always teach their children badly? Think about it, those who are teachers still send their children to school to be taught by others, and do not leave their children around to teach themselves, these are the same truths.
The same goes for our relationships. Wise people, when interacting with children, other half, and family members, will know how to turn a corner, change direction, let everyone relax, and the effect will of course be better. It is not because we are not good ourselves, we cannot teach our children, we cannot guide our families, but we are "close relatives without great people" . Understanding this truth, perhaps we will be easier to let go of many things, relatively, we will not demean ourselves and make ourselves chafed.