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A friend said: I am naturally introverted, not good at communication, what should I do?
An introvert should be pessimistic, inferior, and clumsy. Conversely, an extrovert should be optimistic, confident, and able to speak. In short, it seems that extroverts are all advantages, and introverts are all disadvantages.
In fact, in real life, it is difficult to distinguish whether you are a little more inward or more outward, because people in the large division are more restrained and cannot be opened in front of strangers; and they are more comfortable and bold in front of relatives and friends. Therefore, introverts can also change into extroverts at any time.
If you are a more introverted personality, in the hearts of relatives and friends, you have three emotional advantages over extroverts: one is to look at the problem and pay attention to details, the second is to talk to others easily empathy, the third is to know how to care for others when talking, afraid that others will not understand, so the talk is more detailed.
However, in interpersonal communication in the workplace, you need to have a strong communication thinking, because the workplace is more about efficiency and competition, and it is far from enough to rely on emotions.
Improving communication thinking is mainly three aspects: depth, breadth and height.
The first is the depth of thinking: it refers to grasping the individual from the perspective of the whole.
The reason why some people's personalities are more pessimistic is that when they usually encounter problems, they are accustomed to being troubled by the right and wrong of a certain detail, or good or bad.
How do you make yourself cheerful?
When you look at the individual from the perspective of the whole of things, you will be in a happy mood in an instant.
For example, when you go to work, you make some small mistakes, and after being scolded by the leader in public, many people will feel very painful, thinking, the leader is particularly aimed at yourself, or you can't live with yourself, the more you think about it, the more you feel that the future is slim! I even hated the job.
If you can think from the overall point of view, thinking that the leader scolds himself in public, he must have encountered some setbacks and was in a bad mood to criticize himself in this way; in addition, the leader "loves" you also scold you...., thinking of this, immediately open-minded, more energetic work. So your image in the mind of the leader immediately changes.
The second is the breadth of listening: it refers to listening from the speaker's point of view.
When some people listen to others, they are accustomed to using feelings to understand what others say, resulting in poor communication between the two sides and making you isolated by others.
For example, when you were in a party with your old classmates, your old classmates suddenly said: "When you were in your junior year, you were abandoned by your classmate Xiaomei, do you still want her now?" "If you don't have a girlfriend yet, or you're emotionally hurt, when you hear someone else come to expose your scars, you're going to be bitter inside, and even secretly hate him."
At this time, as long as you don't fall into your own emotions, you learn to understand other people's words from the other person's point of view. You will find that the vast majority of people in the world have no ill will towards you, and everyone is just having fun together.
Finally, there is the height of expression: it refers to the ability to learn a high degree of generalization.
When people with more introverted personalities speak, the brain is a specific detail, and when it is spoken, I am afraid that others will not understand it, and I can nag for a small thing. In life, it is okay to chat with relatives, friends and friends, anyway, everyone just needs to be happy.
You can work and pay attention to efficiency, so you have to train yourself to make an idea clear within 30 seconds. The way to express it is the "131 formula", which first talks about the point of view, then the reason, and then the summary. Such an expression is simple and clear.
Summary: If you are a person with a more introverted personality and are determined to improve yourself in three dimensions, so that communication thinking becomes high, deep and wide, you will have more advantages than extroverts.
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