"Looking at the Wheat Field from afar" original
I was attracted by the title of the book, "May Someone Accompany You upside down and wander."
When I saw the title of the book, many images immediately flashed in my mind: the desolate, windy and rainy wilderness, the steps that stood up to the wind, the rain, and the steps; the crowded train station, the sweaty faces, the running cheeks with scattered backpacks; the backs of the cold autumn dusk, under the leaves-falling trees, hand in hand.
I would like to know who can accompany the busy people all the way, who can accompany the people who are up and down, and who can accompany you in the wind and rain.
When I opened the book and read it page by page, I found that he was a book suitable for young people in their twenties to read in life, friendship, love, and when they encountered confusion in the process of realizing their ideals. For people like me who have reached middle age, have experienced many hardships in life, the storms of life, and have looked down on everything and looked away, it seems that it is not very novel. When I read it with the book in my hand and don't look at it with the mentality of not looking at it, I feel as if I have returned to my youth, and I have a lot of confusion about life, ideals, friendship, and love, and I can't wait to get help and enlightenment in this book. After reading it, such as the clouds in the sky obscured by dark clouds were pulled out to reveal a clear sky and bright sunshine, I also plucked up the courage to do what I always wanted to do, and always do what I couldn't always insist on doing. I am secretly glad that I did not give up reading because I am a young author with no life experience, and I am very happy that when I read this book, I feel as if I have returned to the former student era and returned to the Shaohua time that has passed.
It is also with curiosity to further understand the author of this book, Lu Sihao. Lu Sihao, born in 1991 in Zhangjiagang, Jiangsu Province, is a post-90s writer. He went abroad at the age of seventeen, studied finance for seven years in Melbourne, Australia, and began writing articles in his junior year. He worked as an intern at the embassy and later as an accountant. After graduating from graduate school, he returned to China.
There are many works so far. There are "You Have to Believe There Is No Tomorrow That Can't Be Reached", "May Someone Accompany You to the Turmoil", "Before You Leave, Please Wake Me Up", "You Have Also Walked a Long Way". In 2018, he topped the list of post-90s writers, and in 2019, he published "The Answer of Time".
This book "May Someone Accompany You upside down" was written by the author in 2014. It has now been made into a TV series. This book is about what the author sees and thinks in his study and work, and is about the life perceptions of young people in life, friendship, dreams and love. The author's writing is delicate, the language is talkative, and the tone is natural and easy-going, as if he is talking with an old friend, which can touch people's hearts. When your life is confused, he will let you find the way you were at the beginning, so that you have a deeper understanding and thinking about your past and life.
Not only is the language and content of the book fascinating, but there is also a feature that the author has marked on the reading guide: at the end of each article there is a weather suitable for reading this article. Then there are a total of sixteen weather and articles to match. Some are full of sunshine, some are dark clouds, some are lightning and thunder, some are wind and rain, some are full moons, and some dark clouds obscure the full moon...
In addition to the weather graphics and the article to match, there is also background music to set off the atmosphere of the text, and readers will better understand the connotation of the article because of the background music.
So in the cloudy thunderstorm weather is the same BGM's Dj Okawari Flower Dance; "Salted Fish" on Mayday when the sun shines through the clouds; Rainy day is Tao Zhe's "Find Yourself"; Meeting the sun-drenched weather is Afterschool...
Such a design is not only the embodiment of the author's own interests, but also should be more loved by readers, and the article can resonate more with the reader's heart.
First, about life The author's perception is
It reads:
Part of growing up is that you'll keep saying goodbye to familiar things, saying goodbye to some people, and doing things you wouldn't have done before. Love someone who may not be fruitful. ... The so-called growth is to be more and more able to accept themselves as they are, and to be better able to get along with their lonely selves, lost selves, and frustrated selves, and accept it, and then face it.
No matter who you will meet in the future, life begins with meeting yourself.
So each of us is our own subject, but also the center of your life, no matter what is unsatisfactory in your life, what is unbearable, we must face our own existence. We must dare to face our own predicament, dare to face up to our own shortcomings and deficiencies, and not evade or retreat. Listen to your inner voice. Don't complain about self-pity when you fail, put in so much hard work, don't succeed, or gain little, life is unfair. You know, all people are working hard, and your failure is not enough effort, or not all efforts will be rewarded.
Everyone has times of failure, there are times of dissatisfaction, weakness, it will make you inferior or lose the confidence to persevere, at this time the author said: "Admit your weakness is much more useful than pretending to be strong."
The author tells us that when talent cannot keep up with ambition, we must work quietly and wait for the opportunity to come. Everyone is living hard, in their own way. Don't envy others, don't guess and blame others, you just have to be yourself. Just do what you choose and identify.
So action is very important. Everyone is the same, if you make a plan and don't start to implement it, even the best plan is empty talk.
No one knows what will happen tomorrow, but only action can determine your future in the next second.
Second, about friendship
The author wrote many stories about his high school and college classmates. There are stories of classmates forming bands, and friends chasing stars and enjoying star songs.
Then young people can be inspired by the author's attitude towards stars. It can also enable parents with children to expand their thinking in star chasing.
You'll love an idol who, most likely, taught you what you didn't understand before. And those properties that he emits are what you want to have. You want to be warm, so you like warm people; You also believe in dreams, so you listen to songs about dreams; You want to be stubborn, so you like people who are stubborn and hardworking.
Treating his friend Lu Sihao said: Be punctual, equal and sincere to your friends. The more friends, the more they should not speak in the tone of a lesson from the position of accusation, truthfulness does not mean meanness, and pointing out does not mean criticism. Instead, share your thoughts with respect for each other.
The above author's views on getting along with friends, I have a deep understanding, when I was young, I really did not know that good friends could not tell the truth, could not directly point to mistakes and criticisms, but also respect each other's views and hearts, and share their own ideas. This is very helpful for young people to make friends.
In addition, in the section on friendship, the book specifically talks about: "How long will it take for us to accept a different existence from ourselves?" These different presence authors refer to people who are physically or mentally unhealthy. The book tells about his attitude towards the disabled, his attitude towards gay classmates, and his attitude towards a mentally ill woman in the community.
From the author Lu Sihao's attitude towards them, we can feel a kind and beautiful heart. This heart is also like a warm sunshine that transmits light and warmth to young people like him. And people like me.
For those who are different from us, that is, those who are physically, mentally and mentally ill, people should not be indifferent and disgusted, even if they cannot think differently, cannot feel the pressures and difficulties they face from their point of view, and know that this is not their problem, not anyone's problem. Their existence is justified, and even if they cannot be understood, we should not ignore and blame.
Third, about dreams
Dreams are something that almost everyone has, and it's not just for young people. Who doesn't have a dream, or a dream disappears? Perhaps some people will lose their dreams at the mo stage of life, in some unavoidable circumstances, but this dream will be like the unsealed river on the grassland in the spring, the ice that slowly rises from the bottom of the river, shining in the sun. This hidden dream of ice will always make your life full of hope. About the dream Lu Sihao said:
There are always some moments when you will stop believing, but in your heart you will pursue something, but you still go out and wait to work hard. In the process of every pursuit, there are too many uncontrollable, no one knows whether tomorrow is heaven or hell, the only thing you can do is to work hard now, and run past yesterday's self in time.
How well said: "I can't run past myself yesterday in time."
When you read this sentence, you will not be encouraged, and then like a teenager who is ready to start to realize the hidden dream.
If you are still young, of course it is good, young has a lot of time, have enough energy to achieve dreams. That is, don't dream of empty talk, do things in a down-to-earth manner, and don't regret the waste of youth in the future Mo Day; If you are already middle-aged, then it is more "don't live in the past, don't live in the future, live in the present is the most important." Because the past is no longer recoverable, the future is uncertain and far away, only the present is the most practical, grasping the present, it also determines the future.
Grasping the moment is to study hard, work hard, try to do what you like, focus and seize the time, not be distracted by other insignificant things, do not procrastinate and spend a long time, and have a plan to do things efficiently. Don't give up on the effort.
If your efforts allow you to do what you love, why give up on them? If people can do what they love, who says it's not a reward?
Some people say that there is no use in hard work, and some dreams will never be realized in a lifetime, but the process of your efforts to achieve your dreams will make you full and happy. As someone said: "Some dreams, even if they can never be realized, even if they are very luxurious to say it, but if they do not say it to warm themselves, they cannot get the motivation to move forward." ”
So because you have a dream, you will work hard, and working hard is the essential problem. Hard work, and diligence, even people without talent will make up for their shortcomings.
Four
Finally, about love, the author tells us that the basis of two people's love is "having something to talk about."
You will gradually find that "having something to talk about" is the basic criterion for two people to be together. No one in this world has an obligation to wait for anyone, and maintaining a relationship or relationship is always a matter of two people. Maintain the necessary care, keep moving forward, and work together for similar goals so that two people can stay on the same frequency. ...... Find your own frequency before you can find people with the same frequency as you. First become what you don't hate, and then meet people who don't need to please.
Although he is already a person who has established a family and a husband and a child, he thinks that he knows love and marriage very well, and does not need any other people's opinions and enlightenment, but after reading these words of Lu Sihao, he is still very enlightened.
At a young age, to find someone you love, you must have a topic that you can talk about, and you must have a disagreement with the same topic, even if it is not exactly the same, then you can't go against the grain. That is to say, the two people's outlook on life and values must be the same, otherwise even if there is a short-term attraction, such a relationship will not last long. That is what people say now, the most basic condition for two people to be together is the consistency of the three views.
There is an article in this section called "Resonance Validity Period" that is very well written.
This article tells the reader that no matter how different the values of people, they can always find something in common. True love is the emotional resonance of two individuals who are able to be themselves as much as possible, based on the growth of the two people.
No matter how long this resonance period is, whether this person has come and gone, we must be grateful for this person's appearance.
Of course, I think this emotional resonance must be based on mutual concern, love and respect for each other. You can't lower yourself to please the other party, you can't wronged yourself in order to maintain an unsustainable relationship, and you can't tolerate a person who degrades you everywhere. Although companionship is important, if this kind of companionship is a constraint for you, if it is a tie, or even a injury, such companionship is not OK.
Anyone, whether you are already a family or a young person who is looking for a life partner, must have a realization in your heart: everyone's life is a headless upheaval, relative to companionship, loneliness is a permanent state that everyone is inseparable from, whether in life or in the heart.
If you already have someone who resonates with you on a frequency, the years of repetition won't feel long. You must cherish the people you are with.
"Because after reading this book, the soul that is already like the frozen river is like the surface of the river under the spring sun." This is how I really felt when I read this book, because I didn't want this book to be read in vain, so I wrote this article like the above. I hope that through my simple text, I can share with you the feelings of reading "May Someone Accompany You upside down and drift".
Of course, the author's text is so kind and natural, eloquent and talkative, just like the big boy next door tells you about his feelings about life, love, and dreams; it is also like a senior who shares his experience with his classmates and sisters; It's also like a college counselor doing mental counseling like an ignorant college student.
I feel like listening to a young man who has been wandering around for many years, who has seen the world and has his own opinions, telling a person who has been closed for a long time, his views and opinions on life, his dreams, his friendship and love.
If you also read this book, how would you feel? Hope to know.
Finally, I would like to give you this sentence from the book:
May someone accompany you upside down, and if not, may you be your own sun.
Look at the wheat fields
2020.12.20