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According to Taiwan media reports, 38-year-old Ariel Lin gave birth to a daughter smoothly. Seeing this good news, fans who loved her finally breathed a sigh of relief, because she finally had her own child.
Do you know how important it is for the giants to have children?
This is not only the pressure of spawning, but also includes problems such as no inheritance of property, so the richer people prefer to have more children.
For female celebrities who marry into the rich, if they want to consolidate their position, the best way is to have children and give birth to one after another, such as Xi Mengyao, such as Guo Biting.
Over the years, Ariel Lin has actually not lived a very peaceful life, because she has been married for many years but has not been able to conceive a child, so there is a lot of news about her not being able to have children, so her husband goes out to nightclubs to soak women and other news.
And every time in order to crack these rumors, Ariel Lin always has to personally come forward to explain for her husband and say all kinds of good things to him. But the good or bad of a marriage is really only cold and warm self-knowledge.
If you want a child to cement a marriage, it may be more difficult for women.
01.
What is happiness? All along, I've thought that the definition of happiness varies from person to person.
For example, some people think that a person is very happy, some people want someone to accompany them to be happy, some people think that it is happiness to have children and grandchildren, and some people just eat a full meal and feel very happy.
The nature of happiness depends on whether your needs are more or less. Simply put, if you have fewer needs, your chances of getting happiness will be higher, but if you have more needs, then your happiness will be lower.
There may be many people who also hold this thought, thinking that although Ariel Lin has given birth to children and has also consolidated her own rich marriage, perhaps she is not so happy.
Because if she is really happy, maybe she can be more free to be herself, including having children or not, how many years old, and not needing to follow the rhythm of others.
In other words, even if she has a child, it seems that the marriage is complete, but in fact, the happiness on the surface is just a play between two people.
If their marital love for each other is an illusion, then this child who was not born in love may have a worrying future, and for Ariel Lin herself, she will have to pay more.
02.
Most people like to think about problems with their own inherent thinking and define other people's lives.
In fact, the idea itself is subjective.
Marriage should exist in many forms. It has a side of interdependence and mutual growth, but also has a side of being independent of each other and operating separately.
In fact, for a woman of Ariel Lin's age and this status, even if a person brings a child, she can live very well. And for her, men may be just the icing on the cake.
After all, most men in this world are not very active in participating in the matter of taking children, but the problem is that many men are not only unwilling to bring children, but also unwilling to give money.
Men are reluctant to give, women themselves have no money, and in the end it is the children who suffer.
But for a famous and rich woman, even if the man does not give money, her own self-sufficiency is completely enough, the man is more helpful, her pressure will be less, the man does not help, then she can also spend money to ask someone to help.
If a woman does not worry about money and is not blind emotionally, there is a high probability that she will not be unhappy. Because after reaching a certain age, in fact, everyone understands that love or not love is secondary, because love will slowly disappear with time.
Therefore, smart women will never spend too much time on Qingqing and me, but will concentrate on their careers and pave the way for their future.
03.
Honestly, as a father of two, I was also particularly anxious for a while, and most of this anxiety came from my other half.
The idea of having a second child was first mentioned by my lover, but I didn't want it, I think a child is enough, but my lover said that her daughter is more intimate and will be more filial in the future, and she also gave many examples of daughters and fathers, and gradually I was moved by her.
But because she was already an elderly mother when she was pregnant with the second treasure, the burden was heavier, both mentally and physically, so her mood was particularly unstable, and I often felt tingling in her scalp because she was angry.
The time when the lover was pregnant was really a particularly difficult day, fortunately, in the end they all came over, and only after surviving did they find that all the happiness would not be smooth sailing, life is like this, if you want to enjoy the good, you must first suffer for a period of time.
Therefore, happiness or unhappiness depends half on fate and half on man-made.
I have always believed that as long as you work hard enough, be kind enough, and not be greedy, then you will eventually be able to get happiness.
Love and marriage and affection are all very important parts of this world, any of them can bring you happiness, so if you want to live well in life, don't limit yourself, don't set limits for yourself, you have to understand the truth that good things grind more. Stick to it, and no matter how difficult the day is, you can live your own scenery.
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About author:Zhang Ping, psychological counselor, marriage and family counselor, well-known emotional self-media. I have wine, do you have a story?