01
Recently, I was re-painting "Yan Yuntai", and I was once again handsome by Dou Xiao's appearance on horseback, especially when he tamed the fierce horse.
That horse was indeed a good horse, but if Dou Xiao had not tamed it, the horse would not have been bound, and the whole crazy horse would cause trouble everywhere, rampage, and bring disaster to people.
In fact, the same is true of people.
If there is no restraint, no moderation, even if it is a natural talent, it will eventually become a waste material.
Although there is a chicken soup text that says that people should live in the moment and enjoy themselves, it is also a disaster to enjoy without moderation.
"If you are delicious, you will eat more, and if you have no moderation, you will eat fat;
If you like it, you buy it all, and without a plan, you become a kanu;
Drink happily, without control, you will pay the price of health;
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Most people want a free and indulgent life, but they don't know that the premise of true freedom is to learn moderation.
Because temperance is the most advanced way to live.
02
I think of a distant relative of mine who was addicted to gambling money and separated his wife.
At first, he was just a small gamble, but he was not satisfied, allowing his desires to continue to amplify, as you can imagine, carrying a debt of the ass.
Who knew that he did not know convergence, but instead gambled more and more fiercely, and gambled his own house and lost.
His wife left him with the child, and his present life is not as good as a day.
That's it, he's going to gamble.
In fact, there are many such people around us, but the form of performance is different, and the degree is different.
Some people like all kinds of expensive things, even if they don't hesitate to brush all their cards; some people like to smoke, even the doctor tells him that his lungs have been completely blackened, he still does not change; some people like to stay up late to brush mobile phones, even if they are uncomfortable, the degree of myopia in the eyes is getting higher and higher, they still insist on this "vice".
There are many more such unbridled people, and every indulgence, every time they bow down to their desires, they may bring immeasurable risks to themselves, and they are willing to become slaves to their desires.
But only moderation is where man's rationality lies.
When a person understands moderation, he will naturally have a good life, but many people do not understand the importance of moderation.
Yes, indulgence is human nature, and only moderation can make us excellent one after another.
03
A person who knows how to temper himself will achieve self-achievement and become better in the process of restraining himself.
One of my college classmates was really one of the people I knew who restrained himself through moderation and lived the life he wanted.
He was a single-parent family, and he had heard that his father had died early, it could be said that he had lost his father at an early age, and his mother often worked late and had little time to take care of him.
Lacking strict father discipline, he did not choose to fall because of such a tragic situation.
On the contrary, when many of his peers were living happy lives, he chose a path that seemed difficult but could achieve himself.
He studied hard, and if he didn't understand the problem, he went to the teacher to help him answer.
During college, when we were all enjoying our youth, he had gone everywhere to seek advice.
He insisted on walking on the path he chose, worked hard day and night, and finally did not live up to his own efforts and lived a happy life in the eyes of others.
Think about it, if he neglects to manage himself and relax his requirements for himself, he will never be able to become a role model for those around him, nor will he be as good as he is now.
Although, many people around us now say that living in the moment is the greatest responsibility for themselves. But if, in the face of temptation, we do not know self-control and indulge ourselves, then we will only become the people we once hated.
You can never control yourself, talk about enjoying the moment? Is it difficult to lie in bed every day and brush your mobile phone, is to enjoy the moment?
Don't be naïve, the real enjoyment of the present moment is your present time, not to be wasted.
04
In fact, you and I have such examples around us, and even as soon as I turn around, I can see one, they say, I want to work hard, pick up the phone in the blink of an eye, brush non-stop, is not the ground still laughing at the phone haha.
We all want to live as we like, but if you are indulgent and only want to live comfortably, it is difficult to do, and the final result is to lift a stone and drop it on your own feet.
It is not difficult to get the life you want, but there is a premise, that is, whether this person knows how to be restrained and knows how to restrain himself.
If a person knows how to be restrained, then he will not hesitate to refuse temptation, because he knows what he wants to aim for, and he will try his best to make his journey as smooth as possible.
Only those who do not know how to temperance cannot resist the temptation, so as to make their life's road more difficult, and even go in the direction of letting themselves "decay" forever.
Whenever you want to remember:
Moderation is to make us live to the extreme.
In order to live to the extreme, let's start with every little thing.
For example, control staying up late, controlling weight, controlling consumption, and making our happy life come as promised.
Only by doing this, you will find that your life begins to move in a positive direction, and the extremes you yearn for will also be embedded in your life.
When we understand moderation, then we truly understand the meaning of living.
For the rest of your life, may you stop complaining about the lack of freedom, the tiredness and hardship of life, and the moderation of the present is to achieve a better life in the future.
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About the Author: Su Xiaobei, a writer of cutting-edge emotions. Hope that with simple words, it can warm you.