It's a very deceptive film, because just looking at the story introduction— a love story between a dwarf and a polio patient, you can easily think that it may be a humanist story that leads people to recognize that special people also have the right to love, such as "Margarita with a Straw", or touching inspirational chicken soup, inspiring people to overcome difficulties, find self-confidence, and win love, such as "Call Me Number One".
But in fact, it is not at all.
Let's talk about the plot first.
Born into a wealthy family, Singer was funny, humorous, charming, and very good at dancing, and he was supposed to be the darling of the marriage market, but the dwarf height of 1.38 made Singer single until the age of 38, or alone.
He spent a lot of money at the marriage agency, asking for help to find a partner, but the introducer recommended a bunch of girls, and the picky Singer couldn't see any of them.
One day, Singer accidentally found a photo in the marriage agency, the girl in the photo, beautiful as heavenly immortals, the national color of the heavenly fragrance, so his heart fluttered, so despite the obstruction of the introducer, Singer took the flowers to find the girl.
The girl's name is Aphia, because of polio limbs is limited to mobility, can only travel in a wheelchair, and even talk is not very sharp, but she is not only quite beautiful, but also very intelligent, is a top scientist, has made outstanding contributions in the field of spaceflight.
When Singh saw Aphia's appearance, he fled in a panic.
However, by chance, the two still met, and Singer's arrogant appearance made Aphia very angry, so he taught him a little, which made the arrogant Singer very unhappy, so he launched a passionate pursuit of Aphia, planning to tease her.
So, flowers, gifts, dance, music, all showed out, all kinds of sweet words are in turn, and gradually Affia is infected by Singh's enthusiasm, and Singh also slowly discovers Affia's cuteness and inner show, but after a night of romance, Singh still chooses to leave.
Because, he doesn't want a disabled person to be his wife.
After leaving, Singer turned to chase his dream lover, the female star Barbie Tower... I will not talk about the plot of the back, in fact, everyone can probably guess the specific story line.
The whole film explores the philosophy of love, and Singer is obviously a critical character because he does not understand love.
When Aphia can tolerate his height, he is still criticizing Aphia's disability, and when Aphia can praise his merits, he still only remembers that Aphia is a disabled person, can't see her shining point, and can't appreciate the precious affection she gives himself- love, so that Singh has never received a gift in anyone.
Even the introducer of the marriage agency couldn't help but shudder Singh:
Does this situation sound very familiar to us?
Singh, isn't it a true portrayal of some older single women in China! (Note that it is "part", which I will not emphasize specifically in the future, all refer to "part")
They are all like Singer, they have advantages and disadvantages, but their shortcomings are not as extreme as Singh's visible dwarf height.
Every time they go on a blind date, they can never see each other's shining points, they can only see their shortcomings, at the same time, they infinitely magnifie their own advantages, but they turn a blind eye to their own shortcomings, and even think that their shortcomings are a personal feature with a unique flavor, and one day they will find someone who can appreciate it.
They lack the wisdom to discover beauty, they do not have the inclusive mind, the shortcomings of others are not acceptable at all, and they are looking for a partner with almost perfect standards.
At the same time, he lacks self-knowledge and assumes that if the other party is true love, he can accept his various problems. However, when you are always being harsh on others, how can others tolerate you unconditionally? This unbalanced relationship cannot be established at all.
In fact, the true meaning of love is precisely to appreciate and tolerate each other.
Aphia is a model of love in the film.
When his father learned that she was going to marry a dwarf, he strongly objected, because in his mind, his daughter was always perfect, and Aphia was a top scientist!
But Aphia is very sensible, although she has a successful career, she is not perfect, she is not Cinderella, does not daydream. Singer accepted his disability (not fully) and made himself happy. So, she didn't care if Singh was a dwarf.
When the mother pointed out that Singer was not highly educated,
Aphia made it clear that she didn't need her husband to understand the difficult aerospace technology, and he had other advantages, not only funny humor, but also dancing.
In Affia's feelings for Singer, there is both appreciation for him and tolerance for him, and what she desires is to be appreciated and tolerated, rather than academic qualifications, height, these superficial things.
This is really a girl who knows how to love, and she also deserves to be loved.
But many women don't have this understanding.
There are many such examples in life. A girl with no money, no appearance, no body, mediocre education, and average income, but she wants to find a rich and handsome. When you ask her why such a man would look up to a girl with such conditions, she will tell you that if a man really loves her, he will appreciate her goodness and not care about her conditions. When you ask her why she can't learn to appreciate the goodness of men because of love, regardless of their appearance, height, and wealth, she tells you again: because she can't settle down.
Isn't that what Singh is all about? He always wants to find a glorious female star like Barbita, and thinks that if he is true love, Barbita will not care about his height, at the same time, even if he has feelings for Aphia, he still can't accept her disability, because he doesn't want to settle.
Such a divine logic will definitely be alone.
Interestingly, many older leftover women always blame others and society for being single.
For example, I like to say that there are no good men in the world. In fact, it is simply that they do not find the good eyes of others, and in their eyes, most men are full of shortcomings.
Another example is to say that you don't want to settle down. Are they so noble? This man also let her be in place, and the man also let her be in place? She has no flaws herself? Why can't it be inclusive? Or, with low emotional intelligence, they think that tolerance is the end, and recognizing their shortcomings is self-deprecation.
Moreover, he declared that he wanted to marry love. Forget it! They don't understand love at all, they rely on imagination.
Why don't I mention older single men?
In addition to men on the issue of marriage, they have always been more rational and pragmatic than women. Most importantly, in the traditional view, a man's value is determined by his career, not marriage, so men will not be too entangled in the issue of partner, and can meet the basic conditions for living a life, almost on the line.
However, women are different.
Don't look at many women shouting feminism, in fact, in the bones is still very traditional thinking, think that marriage is the most important indicator to reflect their own value, so you must marry well, otherwise it is a failure, no face, it is better to disguise as an unmarried, remain single, but also appear noble.
In fact, real unmarried women just feel that being single is more suitable for themselves, such as my friend Little A. She chose to be single because she knew that marriage was a responsibility, and she was not a person who could take responsibility, she only wanted to live an easy life of "one person is full, the whole family is not hungry", for other people's marriages, she is full of blessings, as for men, she has never denigrated.
Older single women who are pseudo-unmarried are all day long belittling men and denying marriage, while secretly indulging in all kinds of unrealistic love stories.
The rise of modern feminism, encouraging women not to attach themselves to marriage, telling women that marriage is not the whole of life, in addition to marriage, women have other choices, etc., all of which are hoping to improve women's sense of independence, self-esteem and self-love, rather than letting women belittle men and deny marriage, and not to cultivate women into people who do not understand tolerance and are vitriolous.
Women, you can choose to be single and not married, but don't deny the good side of marriage, release negative energy all day, you can also set a high standard for mate selection, even if it is unrealistic, because that is your freedom, but there is no need to ridicule men who do not meet your conditions, posing an inexplicable superiority, you can not tolerate others (not will be), but you must recognize yourself.
To be single, no problem, please be elegant!
(Again, I'm referring to some older single women, if you're not the kind of person I'm talking about, just watch, in fact, I'm also an older unmarried woman, I just hope that everyone can be gracefully single.) ）