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"Whoever said that a son-in-law has no obligation to support his father-in-law and mother-in-law, I will treat my father-in-law and mother-in-law as my biological parents, and they deserve to be respected by me."
This is the words that colleague Xiao Wang often hangs on his lips, he is a well-known good son-in-law, and he has always treated his father-in-law and mother-in-law as his biological parents.
He once went on a business trip to Thailand, and in order to buy gifts that his father-in-law liked, he traveled for several days in a strange country, and his behavior was always touching, and everyone joked that he was a good son-in-law in China.
Whenever he heard such words, he told everyone very seriously that his father-in-law and mother-in-law were very good, and he should honor them.
Presumably, everyone was curious about what his father-in-law and mother-in-law had done to make his son-in-law so respectful and filial, and it had to start from the moment they were first married.
Xiao Wang was a poor boy before, he came from a remote mountain village, his parents were honest farmers, because he had a good academic performance and finished graduate school in one go, so he was able to stay in the city now.
He and his girlfriend are free love, when he went to see his father-in-law and mother-in-law, he was very worried, he was afraid that his conditions would be rejected by his father-in-law and mother-in-law, but the result was just the opposite, his father-in-law and mother-in-law were very satisfied with him, and did not ask him anything.
He and his wife were equivalent to naked marriage, because he didn't come out with anything, and at that time, he had just graduated from graduate school, and there was really nothing to get his hands on.
Instead of asking him for a penny dowry, his father-in-law and mother-in-law married his daughter to a house, and although his name was not written on the title deed, he was also considered to have taken root in the city.
Whenever Xiao Wang and his wife quarreled over a trivial matter, the father-in-law and mother-in-law would reconcile and instruct the daughter not to make unreasonable trouble. Xiao Wang saw everything that his father-in-law and mother-in-law did, so he was always grateful and treated them as filial piety as his own parents.
Of course, for Xiao Wang, the most touching thing that his father-in-law and mother-in-law did was that they paid to save his father, who was hospitalized for an illness and needed a large amount of surgery.
At that time, he had just gotten married, and he couldn't come up with the money at all, but his father-in-law sent him the money at the first time and saved his father's life.
People get along with each other, and there is indeed no obligation between the son-in-law and the father-in-law, but that is only from the legal level, and the real relatives have always been intercessive rather than reasonable.
Some sons-in-law are not only very filial to their fathers-in-law and mother-in-law, but they also do many touching things, but all this presupposes that their father-in-law and mother-in-law are worth doing.
There are many very good fathers-in-law and mothers-in-law in this world, they have never regarded the son-in-law as an outsider, and they will not try their best to squeeze it, and what they do deserves to be respected by the son-in-law.
If the father-in-law and mother-in-law did the following things, then they would be worth the son-in-law to spend the rest of his life filial piety.
Don't be poor and love the rich
Regarding the feeling of being poor and loving the rich, Presumably many people have some understanding in real life, and people joke that contemporary house prices are pushed up by the mother-in-law, although this is just a joke, but there is also a certain truth.
Nowadays, people have requirements for marrying daughters, and if the other party can't afford to buy a house, it is basically equivalent to no hope, which is the main reason why there are more and more older leftover men now.
Many people hope that their daughters can marry rich people, and when they hear that their future son-in-law has no money, they think they look poor and sour.
I have seen a thought-provoking story before, a family has two daughters, the eldest son-in-law is very rich, the younger son-in-law is very poor, and they are treated differently every time they go to the house of their father-in-law and mother-in-law.
The father-in-law and mother-in-law treat the eldest son-in-law as their own son, but they snubbed the younger son-in-law in various ways, which should also exist in real life.
If the father-in-law and mother-in-law treat their son-in-law with such an attitude, after being snubbed and discriminated against, how can the son-in-law treat the father-in-law and mother-in-law as a respectable elder?
If a pair of old people can not be too poor to love the rich, even if the son-in-law has nothing, do not discriminate against him, as long as he is self-motivated, he will give his daughter to him, and after marriage, he will not look down on him because of his poverty, then the son-in-law will also be grateful to his father-in-law and mother-in-law in his heart.
No preference for sons and daughters
The matter of son preference is naturally aimed at their sons and daughters, and some parents are particularly patriarchal, treating their sons as one and their daughters as well.
For example, they are only willing to help their sons with children, but they are never willing to help their daughters, and for example, in the matter of dividing up property, no matter how rich they are, they will not think of their daughters.
In such a situation, it is naturally different for them to get the filial piety of their son-in-law, because in their minds, the daughter is originally an outsider, and since the daughters are all outsiders, the son-in-law is naturally an outsider.
But if a pair of parents are consistent in their treatment of sons and daughters, they never prefer sons to daughters, they treat them equally, and they treat their daughters-in-law and son-in-law kindly, the result will be completely different.
Do not value sons over daughters, let sons and daughters get equal rights, the son-in-law will also receive greater respect from them, he naturally will not regard himself as an outsider, outsiders can not be filial to their father-in-law and mother-in-law.
Many fathers-in-law and mother-in-law say that the son-in-law is not expected, but they have never thought about what happened to this matter, if it were not for the fact that they regarded their daughters as outsiders, the son-in-law would probably treat them as relatives.
After all, people are mutual, you treat your daughter as an outsider, your daughter and son-in-law, how can you treat you as a relative?
Why many daughters-in-law are willing to be filial to their in-laws, because they never regard themselves as outsiders, and in-laws do not treat their daughters-in-law as outsiders, and it is the same to apply this matter to the son-in-law.
In my heart, I think of my son-in-law as a family
Take the case of Xiao Wang, for example, from the beginning his father-in-law and mother-in-law regarded him as his own family, so when his father fell ill, they were willing to pay for him to save his son. Although Xiao Wang later returned the money to his father-in-law and mother-in-law, their help was indeed very touching.
If the father-in-law and mother-in-law have always regarded the son-in-law as an outsider, it is another version of the story, the son-in-law is an outsider, and his parents are naturally even more outsiders.
People are mutual, you treat your son-in-law as an outsider, he will treat you as an outsider, if you treat your son-in-law as half a son, in his mind, you are also like his parents.
Many people think that the son-in-law lacks gratitude, but in fact, this is not the case, as long as it is a person, there will be a grateful heart, although there will be some white-eyed wolves in life, but it is a very small number after all.
Father-in-law and mother-in-law are naturally able to feel the pain of the son-in-law and son-in-law, and they will reciprocate after receiving the love of the father-in-law and mother-in-law, because this is a normal reaction made by a person.
Know how to think about them
What does the father-in-law and mother-in-law do to think about them? To take a very simple example, the daughter's mother-in-law can't bring her grandchildren for various reasons, and if you take the initiative to take on the work of taking your grandchildren, then they will be grateful to you from the bottom of their hearts.
For example, if you can help them within your ability, because you are also very worried that your daughter is not having a good life, after receiving your help, they will be grateful, and they will reciprocate accordingly in the future.
Never speculate about others in the worst way, don't always feel that everything you have done is not rewarded, and you have not yet done it to imagine the other party as an evil person, which means that you have no way to become a family.
In the past, my father-in-law and mother-in-law and son-in-law were indeed not a family, but now that it is the 21st century, as long as everyone gets along properly, there will be one more relative in life.
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