After watching Zhang Yunhan's news, I sighed
Fan Shengmei is just the epitome of the vast majority of women in reality
They were born into patriarchal families
All sacrifices are made only for the males in the family, or for the family to be squeezed out of all surplus value
Everything they do can never get rid of the shadow of their original family
Bitterness is like her
Anita
In the quiet of the night
Would love to talk about her
Mei Yanfang was born in a humble background, her father died early, her mother Qin Meijin (1921-) was a traditional Chinese medicine doctor, and later founded the "Jinxia Song and Dance Troupe", with four children, the eldest brother Mei Qiming (1952-), the second brother Mei Deming (1953-2015), the third sister Mei Aifang (1959-2000), Mei Yanfang ranked the smallest. When Mei Yanfang was four and a half years old, she and her sister Mei Aifang[4] came out to run the rivers and lakes under the stage names of "Ina" and "Yiyi", Mei Aifang was Ina, and Mei Yanfang was Yiyi. The two sisters lost their precious childhood to earn money to support their families, and the place where they went the most when they were teenagers was not the school, but the big and small dance halls, lounges, streets, and performance halls of Hong Kong's Lai Yuen. Mui Attended Lee Ping Memorial School of the Kowloon Women's Welfare Association in primary school and transferred schools until her fourth grade. At that time, Hong Kong's profession of selling singing was very despised, and she was coldly looked at and ridiculed by her classmates, saying that she was a "singer girl", a child who did not show up, and finally had to study until the first year of secondary school. Mei Yanfang has never formally studied art from a teacher, but despite this, she appeared on stage when she was young, laying a solid foundation in acting and a strong stage talent: she was just in elementary school and could sing hundreds of songs. She was small, but her voice was so loud that the people in the back row heard her. Running between stages at a young age makes her stage experienced, but rarely has the warmth of family. If time could be turned back, she confessed that she wished to read more books and worry about starvation without a small heart. Mei Yanfang experienced ups and downs in her youth, and the two sisters often suffered from white eyes and bullying when performing, and often endured cold and starvation.
In 1982, 18-year-old Mei Yanfang participated in the first rookie singing competition hosted by TVB and Huaxing Records, and stood out, with her rounded and magnetic voice and calm atmosphere of typhoon singing Xu Xiaofeng's famous song "Season of the Wind" impressed the judges, the famous composer Huang Xia gave a full score of 100 points, Gu Jiahui deducted one point from the artistic points, won the rookie champion, and officially embarked on the star path. The media reported that "the score was a few streets better than the runner-up". Because Mei Yanfang is a soprano, similar to Xu Xiaofeng, she was once titled "Xiao Xu Xiaofeng".
In the same year, Huaxing Records recorded the first song "Heart Debt" and his first record "Heart Debt" with Mei Yanfang. Ame's first well-known song was the theme song of the cartoon "Dr. IQ". In 1983, she participated in the Tokyo Music Festival with the Japanese version of "Hand Over My Heart", winning two awards, the "Asia Special Award" and the "Tokyo TV Award", becoming the most eye-catching new star. In the same year, the second solo album "Red Mei Yanfang" was launched, which immediately set a record for the sales of 5 platinum records, and was selected as one of the top ten gold songs of the year, which became a hit.
In January 1985, the album "Like Water Flowing Year" was released. On January 7, 1986, the album "Bad Girls" was released, and the content was full of controversy, and even banned for a while, but the record set a record of 720,000 copies sold in Hong Kong. In December of the same year, he held his first solo concert at the Hong Kong Coliseum in Hung Hom, performing 15 consecutive performances, setting a record for the youngest female singer to enter the Red Pavilion, hold solo concerts and have the largest number of performances. Two years later, the singing style of "Bad Girl" further evolved, "Like Fire Tango" and "Flaming Red Lips" 2 records came out, Mei Yanfang performed with a sexy image, after which she set a record for the highest number of concerts held in the Red Pavilion, known as "Mei Twenty-Eight" and "Mei Thirty", representing her to open 28 and 30 concerts in a row, and her career was in the sky.
From 1985 to 1989, she won the most popular female singer for five consecutive years at the Top Ten Golden Melody Awards Ceremony, and won the Gold Award for Female Singer in the Music Scene at the 1989 Billboard Pop Chart Awards Ceremony, known as the "Queen of the Music World", laying the foundation for superstar status. In 1988, as the only Asian female singer, Mui Yanfang was invited to the Seoul Olympic Games in South Korea to participate in the "Olympic Prelude Show", performing with superstars from all over the world, including American superstar Jena Jixun. Later, Mui Yanfang released records in South Korea, which is also one of her record bases. In 1990, Mui Yanfang was named the top 5 most popular foreign language female singer in South Korea, jumping out of Hong Kong and becoming an Asian diva. On the stage, because of the ever-changing image, the costumes leading the Trend of Hong Kong, the avant-garde and bold image, and the first singer in the Greater China region to change several sets of shirts at the same concert, and have different styles in the album cover and MV, it is called "The Queen of Change".
Her performance in the film industry is also outstanding, and her roles are very diverse, and she has won many awards. Someone once used the term "Xia Yu Fang Hong" (Lin Qingxia, Maggie Cheung, Mui Yan Fang and Chung Chu Hong) to describe the most representative actresses in Hong Kong films from the 80s to the early 90s. In 1984, she won the Best Supporting Actress at the 4th Hong Kong Film Awards for "Fate"; in 1987, she won the Taiwan Golden Horse Award, the Hong Kong Film Awards and the Best Actress Award at the Asia-Pacific Film Festival for starring in "Rouge Buckle"; and in 2002, she won the Best Actress Award at the Changchun Film Festival for "Forty Men". She is the first Hong Kong female artist to win "Queen of Songs"/"Queen of Heaven" and "Queen of Shadows" in the same year. In addition to "Rouge Buckle", she was nominated for "Best Actress" at the Taiwan Golden Horse Awards in 1991 for "He Rijun Returns", "Panic Holiday" in 2001 and "Man Forty" in 2002, "He Rijun Returns" in 1992, "The Inquisitor" in 1993, "Red Fan District" in 1995 and "Men Forty" in 2002 for "Hongfan District" for Best Actress.
In 1990, after holding 30 "Mui Yanfang Summer Glory Concerts", She announced that she would no longer receive any awards in music (all subsequent awards were honorary music tributes). A year later, 30 "Mei Yanfang Farewell Stage Concerts" were held to announce her withdrawal from the music scene, and the news stirred up the entire Chinese society. "Farewell stage concert", the scene is full, she and the fans are inseparable in this concert, the scene is very touching. Tan Yaowen revealed in 2013's "Missing Mui Yanfang Concert" that Mei Yanfang's physical fitness at that time was quite amazing, because each concert had a 30-minute non-stop singing and dancing session. Tan Yaowen, Xu Zhi'an and Grasshopper all participated in the performance, but when the singing and dancing session was over and she went backstage to suck up oxygen, she had already changed her clothes and returned to the stage to continue the performance.
In 1994, when she finally could not defeat the enthusiastic fans, Mei Yanfang held a "Grateful Fan Concert" in 1994 to make a comeback in the music scene, and launched a large album "It is like this", in which "Where the Love Returns" and songs such as "Where the Love Returns" and "In the Misty Night Rain" sung by Liang Chaowei were praised for a while; in the same year, 15 comeback solo songs were held. Mui Yanfang also held three concerts in Macau in the same year, the most expensive ticket price was 50,000 yuan, which is still a record that has not been broken by a Hong Kong singer. Despite this, she still kept a much lower profile than before, refusing all unnecessary socializing. She attaches more importance to quality in music and stage performances, continues to seek breakthroughs, and focuses more on public welfare charity and cultivating new talents, making great contributions to social welfare. Since the mid-1990s, Mui yanfang has gradually moved to Taiwan and overseas markets, releasing a number of high-quality Chinese albums. In 1996, after a five-year absence, she re-appointed as a judge for the Rookie Singing Competition, and thus officially met the champion and long-time fan He Yunshi (later became her only female apprentice).
In 1998, he won the "Golden Needle Award, the highest honor in the Hong Kong music industry" at the Golden Melody Awards Ceremony of the Top Ten Chinese, becoming the youngest winner of the award. On February 15, 1999, he was invited to participate in the Spring Festival Gala of China Central Television and sang the song "Bright Moonlight Before Bed". From 1999 to 2000, she collaborated with new musicians such as Wong Yiu-ming, Wang Shuangjun and Cai Yizhi to produce two albums that were well received by fans, "Bigr Than Life" and "I'm so happy", among which "One Voice and One Cry" with Eason Chan was very popular.
In 2002, the 20th anniversary of her entry into the industry, the commemorative album "With" invited 11 famous singers such as Cheung Kwok Wing, Tam Wing Lin, Jacky Cheung, Andy Lau, Faye Wong, Zheng Xiuwen, Chan Wai Lin, Lin Yilian, Wong Yiu Ming, Xu Zhi'an and Su Yongkang. In the same year, Mei Yanfang held ten "Extreme Dreams Fantasy Concert" in the Red Pavilion, and this time she received stage costumes worth up to five million yuan from Christian Dior, all of which came from the latest fashion show in Paris, France, and debuted in Asia for the first time, because the sponsors believe that Ah Mei is a star with international superstar style, her success is a legend, so it is carefully designed by John Galliano, the helmsman of Dior in Paris, for Ame. At the concert, Ame was also the first singer in history to wear two unique Christian Dior Couture costumes at the same time.
In addition to Hong Kong, she has a wide range of fans in Chinese mainland, Taiwan and across Asia. Chinese golden songs include "Intimate Lover", "Let Go of Your Mind", "Woman Flower" and "Bright Moonlight Before Bed".
In the early 1990s, Mei's films "Three Heroes of the East", "The Inquisitor" and "Truant Weilong 3 Dragon Over the Year of the Rooster" were all blockbusters; in 1998, she won the Hong Kong Film Awards for Best Supporting Actress again with "Half-Life". The movie "Death Judge" is Mei Yanfang's comedy masterpiece, she played with zhou Xingchi, the king of "nonsense" comedy, and her performance was not inferior, of which classic dialogue and proper action looks became the highlights of the movie. In addition, Mui Yanfang and Stephen Chow's other comedy film "Truant Weilong III" and two comedy action films "Miracle" and "Drunken Fist II" with Jackie Chan are all film masterpieces, in which Mui Yanfang showed her funny talent and added a lot to the movie. The 2001 film "Zhong Wuyan" was Mui Yanfang's last comedy, in which she broke the sky and played the faint and lustful Qi Xuanwang vividly, and won the most prominent actress award at the Ming Pao Weekly Acting Power Award for this film.
She has acquired apprentices in the music scene, including Grasshopper, Hui Zhi'an, Ho Yunshi, Tam Yiu-man and Pang Jing-ci, while her descendants such as So Wing-kang, Leung Hon Man and Eason Chan have also been promoted by her descendants, and Lee Wai-min was recognized as an artist under its record label Mui Music in 2001.
In 2001, Mui Yanfang dared to fight for the rights and interests of the Hong Kong performing arts industry, and was elected president of the Hong Kong Performing Artists Association, and was also the first female president; a year later, in the "Liu Jialing Nude Photo Storm", she launched a parade and denunciation conference under the slogan of "Heaven and Earth Are Not Tolerated", calling on the masses to boycott the East Weekly. She has contributed to the public welfare throughout her life, served as the "Oxfam Ambassador" of Oxfam Hong Kong, and the "Mui Yanfang Charity Foundation" established in 1993 is still benefiting the society.
On January 12, 2004, Mui Yanfang was buried at the Hong Kong Funeral Home, and the Funeral Committee held the funeral board with the theme of "Farewell, Daughter of Hong Kong!" More than 600 Hong Kong artists participated in the obituary, as well as many foreign artists, as well as mainland artists and officials at all levels of the Hong Kong government. Tens of thousands of fans and fans burst into tears on the spot, and people were sending Mei Yanfang on her last journey. The eight Fuling people are Andy Lau, Liu Peiji, Liang Chaowei, Tao Zhe, Lian Yanhui, Su Xiaoliang, Zhang Minyi, and Yang Ziqiong, all of whom are Mei Yanfang's former friends. According to chinese tradition, women should not participate in the fuling, Zhang Minyi and Yang Ziqiong broke the tradition of women not helping the spirit, for Mei Yanfang to help the spirit, which shows the deep sisterhood. Mei Yanfang's nephew and Xie Tingfeng held Mei Yanfang's posthumous photo to send Mei Yanfang on her last journey, and her last photo was the same as Zhang Guorong's last photo, the cigarettes in her hands were removed, leaving only a gesture to commemorate their friendship. Mui Yanfang cherished the relationship with every friend, and when she died, she still thought of her friends and fans, and her last words were: "Don't cry, don't call me by name" touched the whole of Hong Kong.
Affection
Mei Yanfang, who was poor in her family when she was young, appeared on stage with her sister Mei Aifang since she was a child, and the two sisters took care of each other on stage everywhere, and their feelings were very deep. Mei Yanfang and Zhang Guorong have a deep affection, love more than flesh and bones, openly called them family, and in the 80s, they went to contract with His Guanchang and his wife with luo Meiwei. At her funeral, Qi Mama and Jinlan sisters, including He Guanchang's widow and Jacky Cheung and his wife, sat in important positions in the family seat, and Jacky Cheung sat on the side seat in filial piety. In addition, Andy Lau is also a close friend of his personal friends for many years. It is widely believed that her relationship with the "relatives" of the show business is better than her own family. In addition, she and Nicholas Tse are brothers and sisters, and Liu Peiji is a close friend.
Mei Yanfang cherished her friends and traveled widely throughout her life, and she was recognized as a bold and righteous person in the entertainment industry. It is precisely because of this sincere, fraternal and chivalrous personality that she has become a respected "big sister" in the show business world. Mei Yanfang has an innate sense of mission and responsibility. This sense of mission and responsibility has made her strive to promote her younger generations after becoming famous, while still caring about Hong Kong's philanthropy and social welfare, even when she was ill. In 2002, Mei Yanfang said to everyone on a commemorative program celebrating the twenty years of entering the industry: I have been in the entertainment industry for twenty years, and four words can be summarized: "Friendship years!" Mei Yanfang once described her views on friendship, "Some people are worried that I am credulous in making friends and will be used, but I think that is all a kind of 'charity', "Giving is more blessed than receiving!" "Regardless of whether there is a return or not, in fact, they are very happy."
The top ten most important men on Mei Yanfang's love road
Miao Qiaowei
Mei Yanfang's first gossip boyfriend after entering the industry is Miao Qiaowei, and the relationship between the two stems from the cooperation TV series "Xiangjiang Flower Moon Night", but because A Miao showed hesitation between her and Qi Meizhen, she resolutely withdrew.
Zou Shilong
Born in 1963, Zou Shilong is the son of a wealthy Hong Kong family and has a close personal relationship with Ho Chao Qiong. In 1997, Zou Shilong set up his own modeling manager company, ZhongXingtang, and now he is a celebrity in the Hong Kong model agency industry, who has discovered Weng Meiling, MaggieQ and so on. He was the first boyfriend of Mei Yanfang to enter the entertainment industry, and he had a scandal with Weng Meiling, who had the title of "playboy" at that time, but after marrying his wife, there were few scandals.
Masahiko Kondo
In 1985, when Ame and Zou Shilong were estranged, she fell in love with the Japanese star Makoto Kondo, who had a public girlfriend at the time, nakamori Akira, who was known as Yamaguchi's successor. The love between the two is sneaky and does not end. But this relationship is also something that the media likes to chase and inquire about. After Ame's death, Kondo flew from Japan to Hong Kong and also gave a flower basket with the words "I will always miss you" and placed it in a conspicuous place in the spiritual hall. Kondo incense in front of Ame's spirit, when he saw Ame for the last time, his emotions could not be controlled, and he cried bitterly on the spot. He stayed in the spiritual hall for an hour, because he was too sad, and he had to be supported by two people before he could leave, which showed that he had a deep affection.
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Mei Yanfang and Shan Liwen had a romantic relationship in the 1980s. It was her early boyfriend. Mei Yanfang also once said: Shan Liwen is romantic, stubborn, too macho, our personalities are very strong, of course, the appearance is very handsome and dashing. When she broke up with Shan Liwen, she admitted that everyone was too hard-necked, and for a while she was unhappy that there was no contact in the Cold War, and she felt that the other party should take the initiative to call her. At the same time considered lily monasticism. Although the two have broken up, she still reminisces about the time. She revealed that the two once walked on the beach in the middle of the night, which was very romantic.
Liu Migao
In 1988, Mei Yanfang and the model Liu Migao cooperated in the MV to rub out the spark of love, after the breakup, the two still maintain contact, Amei will go to Macau to talk to Michael every time she encounters unsatisfactory things. She herself once admitted that it was the one that gave her the most pleasure. Liu Migao is a simple person. Mei Yanfang and Liu Migao met when they co-starred in an MTV, Liu Migao is a professional model, not only handsome, but also very cultured, the most attractive place for Mei Yanfang is the kindness of heart. Every day spent with Liu Migao, Mei Yanfang is happy, Liu Migao trusts Mei Yanfang in everything, and as long as Mei Yanfang says "no" to any scandal, he believes it. Michael's childishness disappointed Mei Yanfang, because she had been looking for a man who could shield herself from the wind and rain. Liu Migao likes to let Mei Yanfang accompany her all day, but at that time, Mei Yanfang's career was at its peak, there were many jobs, Liu Migao would often complain to Mei Yanfang: "You are about to become an invisible person, can't you make a little sacrifice for me?" Mei Yanfang said: "I have a hard time to achieve today's results, my family wants me to raise, I can't just give up, do you understand my pain?" Liu Migao said: "Then let's break up!" So eventually the two parted ways.
Lin Guobin
Lin Guobin, a famous martial artist, starred in Zhou Xingchi's "The King of Destruction", starred in Zheng Yijian and Liu Qingyun's "New Hero Nature", played a strong martial arts boss, and fought jet Li in "Rats and Dragons". He also starred in "Chinese Gambler". He also attracted attention from his public love affair with Mei Yanfang. And this guy looks a lot like the King of Heaven "Dawn". Lin Guobin's leg technique is very good, and he showed his leg technique in "The True Colors of a New Hero", which shocked the four seats. The signature characters include the arrogant gang leader in "The Tigers of Wan Chai" and the master brother who wants to kill Stephen Chow in "The King of Destruction", who looks serious and laughs without any ambiguity. Lin Guobin has acted in countless films and his acting skills are good, but he has never been popular, which is also a common phenomenon among Hong Kong actors. In 1991, Mei Yanfang and Lin Guobin fell in love, but unfortunately the two had too strong personalities, and the relationship lasted for two years.
Leslie
Zhang Guorong and Mei Yanfang's names are always linked, in addition to the two died young, but also because the two once can be described as a langcai female appearance of a pearl, looking at it is particularly matched, but also cooperated in many classic films, although there have also been rumors, everyone hopes that they are together, but in the end the two have become confidants and best friends, so when Zhang Guorong died, Mei Yanfang should be the saddest actress.
Andy lau
Andy Lau and Mui Yanfang were once recognized as the deepest friendship confidants of the opposite sex in the entertainment industry, but the 32-episode TV series "Mei Yanfangfei", which has been adapted from the prototype of Mei Yanfang, focuses on depicting Mei Yanfang's rise to fame and emotional entanglement with Andy Lau, Zhang Guorong and others. Among them, The relationship between Mei Yanfang and Andy Lau lasted for nearly 20 years, and many viewers questioned this. However, the producer of the play said that this plot is not completely fabricated, and there is a basis. We interviewed a lot of people around Ame, and it is understood that the relationship with Andy Lau is just that she does not want to make it public. Andy Lau met in 1984 at the 3rd Rookie Competition, when Andy Lau was the emcee and Mei was a guest. At that time, Mei Yanfang found that Andy Lau almost matched the dream lover she described shortly after becoming famous in 1981. Since then, Mei Yanfang has begun a crush on Andy Lau. In 1990, when filming "Yoshiko Kawashima", the two officially broke out in love. Many people really hope that they can become a "natural pair", but this luxury can only be achieved through the TV screen. In addition to "Yoshiko Kawashima", they also played opponents in "Rich Corps", "91 Divine Eagle Heroes", "Legend of the God of War", and "Love Jun Like a Dream". Mei Yanfang said that the most memorable scene for her was in "91 Divine Eagle Heroes", Hua Tsai and her kiss next to the jasmine flowers on the balcony, very romantic, she seemed to be serious at that time.
A long inheritance battle
Mei Yanfang's 95-year-old mother is once again bankrupt. Less than 5 years have passed since her last bankruptcy.
Mui Died of Cervical Cancer in December 2003, and Mui's mother, Qin Meimei, has been liaising over her daughter's nearly HK$100 million inheritance for many years. Before her death, Mui Yanfang was worried about her mother's indiscriminate spending of money, so she set up a trust fund to provide 70,000 Hong Kong dollars (about 62,000 yuan) of living expenses for her mother every month, including hiring two servants and a driver.
However, Mei Yanfang's decision was not approved by her mother, Qin Meijin has always insisted that Mei Yanfang signed a will in a state of delirium, so the court should rule that the will is invalid, hoping to get a billion yuan inheritance, she has repeatedly filed a complaint with the court to obtain her daughter's inheritance of nearly 100 million, repeatedly lost the lawsuit, in 2011, the 88-year-old she was ultimately ruled by the court to lose.
Mama Mei was still not convinced by Ah Mei's "inheritance case" earlier in the final defeat of the Court of Final Appeal, and pulled up a banner of protest in front of a bank head office in Central to show her dissatisfaction.
Behind Mei Mama's spare efforts to compete for Mei Jie's inheritance, there is one person who is indispensable. She is Mei Yanfang's brother Mei Qiming. He is lazy and lazy, vowing to support his mother to rob his sister's inheritance, and what he has to do every day is to drag his mother around crying and crying.
In the 1980s, Mei Qiming went bankrupt in business and owed millions of foreign debts, which were eventually paid by Mei Jie because he had no ability to repay them. Because of this matter, Mei's mother was biased towards Mei Qiming and asked Mei Jie not to worry, and Mei Jie was completely disappointed in her mother, who preferred sons to daughters.
Mama Mei had four children, except for Mei Qiming, who was still healthy, and the other three children, Mei Deming, Mei Aifang, and Mei Yanfang, all died of cancer.
After the failure of the inheritance struggle, Mei Mama's monthly living expenses increased from 70,000 to 200,000 Hong Kong dollars, but she was still not satisfied. In order to get the money, she actually put Mei Jie's relics before her death, including underwear and underwear, to auction, which disappointed mei jie's friends and fans who would have received her.
According to Mama Mei herself, a master has calculated for her that she can live for another 15 years, so at the cost of life, the struggle for inheritance will not stop.
Mei Yanfang, a life of sorrow, in China, how many "Mei Yanfang" tragedies are there? At the same time as Mei Yanfang's former servants, how many Fan Shengmei followed?
The heartache of the inexhaustible road, the idea of favoring sons over daughters in China for thousands of years, how many girls have paid everything in order to complete the family and become the male members of the whole family?
Families that favor sons over daughters are, in the final analysis, extreme egoism, and they firmly believe in raising children to prevent old age and marrying daughters to spill water, and this concept has the background of the times.
In the agrarian society, manpower farming as the main means, the existence of male in the family is very important, because of the difference in physiological structure, the advantages of men in farming are very obvious, how much the harvest is about the family's rations, and survival, is a matter of life, for thousands of years, the lag in farming has created a patriarchal society. In this social context, the status of women is low and low, and coupled with the bad habit of marrying, basically girls are not valued in their mother's homes before marriage, and after marriage they are reduced to housework machines and reproductive tools.
With the development of science and technology, women's hands began to be liberated, feminist awareness awakened, women's status gradually improved, but unfortunately the thinking of the older generation is still lagging behind, so there are countless Fan Shengmei, before marriage the family can not be valued, resources are given to the male in the family, but after work, the girl's income often supports the family's economy, and even supports the brother's various expenses, and even marries the daughter, turns around and changes the dowry to marry the daughter-in-law to go home, the daughter after marriage is not at peace, and the pension problem is often pressed on the daughter's body. The son, who has access to a lot of resources, pretends to be deaf and dumb.
Mei Yanfang is such a tragic daughter, when she was a child, she provided for the family without childhood, grew up to work day and night for the family, neglected to maintain the relationship between men and women, regretted for life, constantly repaid the debt for the vampire brother, and arranged everything after death, but also because of Mei Ma's persistent family ugly, daughter Quanxia can not live in peace, a lifetime of wealth due to long-term inheritance lawsuits are almost exhausted, sad and sad.
If you are unfortunate enough to grow up in a patriarchal family, please do the following:
1) Self-improvement. Get rid of the mentality of the weak, handle everything independently, have confidence in yourself, step by step solidly, walk well in your life, only by becoming a strong person, you can have the opportunity to choose more, life has more possibilities, you are qualified to grasp the overall situation and direction of life.
2) Don't use marriage as a lifesaver. No one will pay for your life, parents are based on egoism over sons, let alone unrelated husbands? You live with him, not to find a lifebuoy, but you should fight side by side with him, against life, you have to put yourself in a teammate mentality, not a dependency mentality.
3) Say no to unlimited requests. Appropriate help can be, the frequency should be mastered, as the saying goes: dou Mien, sheng mi vendetta. Good people are most afraid of having no bottom line, and people who are favored are most afraid of habit. They are accustomed to help, and once they lose it, they lose their minds, but they forget that the help is not conventional, and then they become enemies. So our help can only be low frequency, and let his long memory.
May every girl understand the truth of self-esteem and independence, parents cannot choose, but their own path can choose, may you all bloom in the breeze, the colorful butterflies of fate will naturally descend.