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At the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty, it was divided into three kingdoms, and the flames were endless.
This is the best era for men to make meritorious achievements and show their ambitions, and it is also the worst era for women to be like duckweeds and drift indefinitely.
In such a chaotic world, there is a woman, born into a famous family, young and tall, but is ruthlessly tricked by fate again and again: young and widowed, married three times in her life, captive of the Xiongnu, separated from flesh and bones... It's like a fallen leaf drifting with the wind, circling the tree three times, with no branches to rely on.
But with her thin body and tenacious heart, she resisted the injustice of fate again and again, and lived herself into a tough reed.
This woman is Cai Wenji.
Falling in the middle of the family road, the lady becomes a "hostage"
Cai Yan (蔡琰), originally spelled "Zhaoji", was changed to "Wen Ji" to avoid Sima Zhao's secrets.
Cai Wenji's father was named Cai Yong, a famous writer and calligrapher at that time, and even Cao Cao recognized him as a teacher.
After being a famous person, Cai Wenji grew up with a golden spoon, and she did not live up to her high starting point in life, with both talents and completeness, and she had the ability to "distinguish the piano".
When Cai Wenji was 9 years old, one night, Cai Yong played a broken string, and Wen Ji just listened to the sound and knew that "the second string was broken."
Cai Yong felt that she guessed by accident and deliberately broke a string to test her, Wen Ji confidently replied "It is the fourth root", Cai Yong was shocked, and it was true!
At the age of 16, Cai Wenji, who was only famous, married Wei Zhongdao, who was the right doorman. Two people one fuqin, one reading history, Qinse and Ming, good couple Tiancheng.
Unfortunately, the good times did not last long, and just one year after the marriage, Wei Zhongdao died of illness. The in-laws scolded Cai Wenji for "Kefu", wenji did not argue, did not argue, did not argue, did not get angry, and packed up some lines and returned to her mother's house.
Cai Yong was mistaken for Dong Zhuo's accomplice and died in prison. Cai Wenji lost all her dependence for a while, her family was destroyed, and she fled in a hurry. On the way, she was taken captive to the Southern Xiongnu and later became the princess of the Southern Xiongnu Zuoxian King.
That year, Cai Wenji was 23 years old.
The lover is newly lost, the loving father is wrongfully killed, and he has left his hometown to marry a foreigner who does not understand the language. Blows followed, and you can imagine how much Cai Wenji should have collapsed at that time!
She wrote in the Poem of Sorrow and Indignation:
There was no remains, and the corpses refused. The horse hangs the man's head on the side, and the horse carries the woman behind.
She is one of the women carried by the queen of the horse, with no dignity, no freedom, no birth at the wrong time, and her life is not up to me.
But Cai Wenji endured, she survived! And to live is to fight back against suffering.
Romain Rolland said:
There is only one true heroism in the world, and that is to love life after knowing the truth.
Life is like this, always love when we are sailing smoothly, a huge wave hits the head, pouring people from head to toe.
Attached to this is a disaster that is not a one-way street, and a layer of frost covers the already battered heart.
What makes Cai Wenji remarkable is that her heart is strong enough. No matter how many setbacks there are, no matter how cruel the truth of life is, you can grit your teeth and hold on, slowly cover the frost of your heart, and stitch up the broken wounds one by one.
For 12 years as a "slave", Wen Ji finally returned to Han
Cai Wenji survived in the Xiongnu for 12 years, from a simple girl to a mother of two children, but still could not fully integrate into the life of a foreign country.
Fur clothes, she is not used to wearing; Hu sheep are angry, she is not used to eating; the climate is harsh, she is not used to living, Hu people are barbaric, she is not used to it...
But she always has to live! She learned the language of the Huns every day, learned to make the most delicious meals with the simplest materials, and she also learned to play the "Hu Flute".
The sound of Hu Di sounded, playing Wen Ji's heart full of heart, and discharging her boundless loneliness.
Yu Qiuyu once said: "Even if you are deep in a ditch, you must look up at the nebula." ”
With Hu Di as the medium, taking pleasure from suffering, Cai Wenji is a person who lives in the nebula in her eyes, and she has never lost that optimism and cuteness.
She looked forward to "friends from afar" every day, bringing the old things and smell of her hometown, but she was disappointed again and again. Finally, one day, she looked forward to it, and the envoy who took her "home" came.
Originally, Cao Cao, who had worshiped Cai Yong as his teacher, unified the north and achieved great success. So he remembered this little sister who had wandered into the wilderness, and sent someone to carry a thousand pairs of gold and a pair of white walls to pick up Wen Ji and "return to Han".
But Cai Wenji could not take away the two sons born to Zuo Xian. When she reached middle age, she could hardly regain her freedom, but she had to bear the separation of flesh and bones again, and then she would suffer indefinitely, and fate was so cruel to her!
The son hugged Wen Ji and pleaded bitterly: "Mom, do you really want to leave?" They said you wouldn't be coming back, did you really bear to leave me? ”
Cai Wenji did not dare to answer, or even dare to look at the child's eyes, her heart was like a knife, and she could only swallow the tears into her stomach.
But the nostalgia for her homeland overcame everything, and she didn't want to die in a foreign land, and decided to seize the only chance and live only for herself.
Not whose wife, not whose mother, she is just her, the unique Cai Wenji.
In this way, "one step at a time, it is difficult to move, and the soul is gone" Cai Wenji still left, taking away the cold Hu Feng and bringing back culture and full of talent.
Previously, there was a hot discussion on the Internet about "the most important ranking of independent women's lives": they > partners> children > parents, poking the hearts of many modern people.
In today's society, how many women are unhappy in marriage, but they are tied up by their children, because of their responsibilities, they give up their happiness in the second half of their lives and treat their children as the whole of life.
This kind of maternal love is great, but the taste of German self-sacrifice and self-touching has failed itself in the end.
And Cai Wenji is in a backward era, but has such an avant-garde thinking, always knows what she wants, dares to give up, knows how to let go, and can complete herself.
Barefoot, pleading for her husband
After Wen Ji returned to Han, Cao Cao promised her to Dong Qi, who was much younger than her.
Dong Qi's young talents made the 35-year-old Cai Wenji feel pressured and often worried about being abandoned by her husband.
In the poem, she poured out her heart: "Entrust yourself to the new person, and do your best to encourage yourself." Exile becomes contemptuous, and often fears that it will be re-donated. ”
Dong Qi had no love or feeling for this eldest wife, until one time, Dong Qi committed a capital crime, and no one dared to help him, only Cai Wenji rushed to the Wei palace to plead with Cao Cao as a female stream.
At that time, Cao Cao was entertaining guests, and when he heard that Cai Wenji had come, he said to the guests in the hall: "Cai Yong's daughter is outside, let everyone meet today." ”
Counting nine cold days, I saw Cai Wenji spread barefoot, prostrating her head and pleading guilty, clearly organized, and earnest in her words, which made the guests in the hall unbearable.
Cao Cao said, "The document of surrender has already been sent, what should I do?" ”
Wen Ji replied, "There are thousands of good horses in the Stables of Xiangwang, and there are innumerable warriors, so why not spare a fast horse to save a dying life?" ”
Cai Wenji was not humble and unassuming, and finally moved Cao Cao, which pardoned Dong Qi.
When the whole world is against you, I would like to fight with you against the whole world.
When Wen Ji was a hostage, her life was like grass; when she saved her husband, life and death were all tied to the mouth of one person, but no matter what the moment she faced, no matter what the status of the other party, she was in a measured manner, behaved decently, did not feel inferior because of misfortune, and did not feel inferior.
Once, Cao Cao asked Wen Ji, "I heard that your family originally had a lot of ancient books, can you still remember them now?" ”
Wen Ji: "At the beginning, my father left me more than 4,000 volumes of books, but after the war, very few were preserved, and I can only write down more than 400 books." ”
Cao Cao: "Then I will send ten people to accompany my wife to write it down." ”
Wen Ji: "Men and women can't stand each other, give me paper and pencil, I will write to you alone." ”
In this way, Wen Ji wrote down the ancient books she had memorized one by one and sent them to Cao Cao without any mistakes.
Jane Eyre once said, "I am poor, humble, and not beautiful, but when our souls cross the grave to God, we are equal." ”
Through Cai Wenji's performance in the face of Cao Cao, we can see that she is an extremely self-respecting, self-respecting, and strong person, not humble, not pleasing, and the kind of woman who can never be underestimated even if she is low to the dust.
Contrarian quotient is a woman's highest ability
Cai Wenji was unfortunate in her life, ruthlessly tricked by fate, but she was able to fight back again and again, and bloomed brilliant flowers from the cement floor, all of which were inseparable from her powerful anti-business.
What is "inverse quotient"?
"Contrarian quotient", also known as "setback quotient", refers to people's ability to face setbacks, get rid of and transcend difficulties. Simply put, it is to be able to "hold things".
Cai Wenji lost her husband at a young age, and was scolded by her in-laws as a "broom star", but she never defended or angry, and carried cold words;
Her father was wrongfully killed, and she herself was taken captive by the Xiongnu for twelve years, but she carried the impermanence of fate, survived strongly, and finally waited for the legend of "Wen Ji returning to Han";
Separated from flesh and bones, remarried in middle age, and pleaded bitterly for her husband, Cai Wenji always made her choice clear, not humble or profane, and lived soberly and transparently.
This is Cai Wenji, born in a chaotic world, through ups and downs, but she did not complain about herself, or tell people about the tragedy, and pray for the mercy of others, but stood firm, endured, and chased the faint light in the bleak life.
The most remarkable thing about her is that fate has made her fall into a desperate situation again and again, but she still has the courage and ability to restart her life at any time, and climb up step by step from the bottom of the valley.
The new diseases in this world are stacked with old wounds, a lot of pain, a lot of despair, may you and I be like Cai Wenji, insist on self-esteem, self-respect and self-love, can withstand prosperity, but also withstand loneliness, no matter how big the wind and rain, in the end can keep the clouds open, see the moon.
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Wei Xiaohan "Flying Snow Jade Flower"
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Three feet clear, ten point reading invitation authors, multi-platform contract authors. Public number: Three three two two (ID: sansanliangliang66). Two literature majors love book lovers three three three and two two. Talk with you about 100 odd women and meet 100 different lives. The things of life, but one or two. This article was first published at Ten Point Reading (ID: duhaoshu), a national reading big number subscribed by more than 28 million people, please reply to "reprint" in the background.
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