The eyes are the windows of the soul, and the eyes are ever-changing, expressing people's colorful inner world

Eyes also speak

"Eyes are windows to the soul." What a person's inner world looks like can be revealed through this window. When interpersonal, self-joy, anger, sorrow, sorrow, and happiness, without opening their mouths, can convey inner emotions just by the look of their eyes; Others do not have to listen to the whole thing to get emotions, just look at the eyes, you can know the other person's inner emotions, know what he wants to express. Sometimes the emotion conveyed by the eyes often exceeds the words of the spoken palace. Thus, it can be concluded that "the eyes can speak".

Marx, Engels and Lenin, as teachers of the proletarian revolution, were very good at using their eyes.

Recalling Marx, Paul Lafargue said: "When he utters a few witty remarks or a quick reply in conversation, his cheerful and clear black eyes flash under his thick brow."

Recalling Engels, Liebknecht said: "When he observes people and things, he does not use rose-colored or black glasses, but with discerning eyes. His gaze never stays on the surface of things, but always has to see the bottom line. This discerning eye, this 'discerning eye', this insight that nature has given only to a few people, is all engels possession. I was aware of this the first time I saw him. ”

Recalling Lenin, Pu Kail said: "The gesture he made in his speech, his simplicity, his piercing eyes that could see people's innermost eyes, all made me feel extraordinary."

The eyes are the windows of the soul, and the eyes are ever-changing, expressing people's colorful inner world. For example, the Soviet writer Fei Ding's novel "First Joy" describes: "... The eyes will glow, they will sparkle, they will become slightly faint like men, they will become vaguely milky, they will open the bottomless abyss, they will radiate like sparks and bullets, they will question, they will refuse, they will take, they will give, they will express their love... "The expression of the eyes is richer than any language.

Face each other squarely when talking to someone and show respect for the other person; Squinting at the other person indicates contempt for the other party; The number of times to see is large, indicating the good feelings and likes for the other party: the number of times to see is very small or not to see, indicating the disgust and disdain for the other party; The eyes blink more often, indicating joy and joy, but also expressing doubt or anger; The eyes blink less often or even motionless, indicating surprise, fear or sadness; If you don't dare to look at each other directly, it may be because you are shy, or there may be something you can't say; If the hostile parties are staring at each other, and one of them suddenly shifts his eyes elsewhere, it means retreating and timidity; If one party keeps rolling his eyes during the negotiation, beware of any new or bad ideas he has; If it is a frequent and rapid blink, it may be a sign of shame, guilt, or it may be that he is lying.

The eyes and eyebrows change together, and the meaning of eyebrow flirtation is broader. When happy, the eyebrows are open and smiling, and the eyebrows are flying and dancing; When sad, the eyebrows are locked; Raise an eyebrow when angry; Lower your eyebrows when obedient; Squeeze your eyebrows when teasing; Raise your eyebrows and exhale when you are comfortable.

The use of eyes is important. In general, different eyes express different emotions. Clear-eyed expression of open-mindedness; The cunning of the eyes shows that the heart is not right; The gaze is full of spirit; Gaze like beans show no ambition, gaze persistence indicates ambition; Floating gaze is superficial and light; Sharp eyes show wit and sensitivity; Sluggish eyes show heavy hearts; Resolute gaze indicates self-improvement and self-confidence; Decadence in the eyes means self-abandonment. In addition, the mysterious look is a reflection of arrogance: the mysterious look is a reflection of treachery and cunning; The sheathed sword-like, aggressive gaze is a portrayal of decency and sensitivity; Such as snakes and scorpions dormant, gray and dark eyes are a reflection of fierce cruelty.

There are many ways to express the eyes. The proper use of eye language will add sparkle to your presentation.

Mencius said, "He who exists in man is not good enough to be good in his eyes, and his eyes cannot hide his evil." Ke Yunlu once said: "Gaze is a more saving, more subtle, more powerful language." Indeed, the eye is the most important organ for transmitting information in the human body, and it is the most flexible machine in the human body. When people communicate, the duration of the gaze, the opening and closing of the eyes, the momentary squinting, and many small movements and changes can convey different messages.

When communicating with people, the interlocutor must not only listen to the conversation of others, but also look at the other party appropriately, giving the other party a feeling of respect and value, and such a conversation will generally achieve good results. However, there are also many people who have been looking at the speech or the ceiling with both eyes when speaking, or looking left and right, looking east and west, making people feel that he is "no one in sight" and cannot express his thoughts and feelings, and such an effect will naturally not be good. French President Charles de Gaulle never wears glasses when he gives public speeches or televised speeches, and he has to speak "eye-to-eye" with the French, because the eyes can exchange thoughts and feelings.

When we talk to people, we must use the gaze appropriately according to the object, content, occasion, and atmosphere of the conversation, so as to receive good results.

Use posture language correctly to convey affection to others

Another important way to express oneself is posture, which is also a "language" of communication. A person's posture, gestures, body movements, etc. can express his inner thoughts. Words, words, sentences, and punctuation make up human language, as do body language, posture is a word, although its meaning is not fixed, but when combined with other words, you can accurately see the meaning it represents. Posture in body language is like a sentence spoken that can express our emotional attitudes. Insightful people don't have to listen to what the other person is saying to be able to interpret exactly what body language is meant to mean.

A person's posture also has a profound impact on their own image. How can we use it well?

1. The posture should be beautiful

If we stand and talk, we must stand up and close our abdomen, our arms are drooping, and our center of gravity is placed between our legs, creating a beautiful and upright posture, showing our healthy and dashing image, and leaving a good impression on others; If you are sitting and talking, you must sit up straight, you can also lean back against a chair, and the most important thing is to be natural and dignified, with your hands on your arms or on your legs. In informal settings, you can do whatever you want.

2. The purpose should be clear

Our words and deeds must express accurate meaning, so as to help us communicate with each other and help us communicate with each other, and help us to communicate in language. The following types of situational language are commonly used by us: (1) nod in agreement: Don is for emphasis; Raising the head indicates surprise or sudden cheerfulness; Shake your head in acknowledgement; The pendulum is a signal of suspicion; Bowing one's head indicates repression and submission; Raising the head indicates an intention to invest.

(2) Shoulder drooping backwards is the meaning of calm and sensitive: lifting forward is a manifestation of worry; Flat lifting sagging means composure and decisiveness; Upward protrusions are signs of anger or intimidation; Shrugging is a sign of ignorance or indifference and helplessness; Patting the shoulder means closeness or congratulations.

(3) Give a thumbs up to show praise; Palms spread forward to indicate disagreement; Clench your fists to show strength; Open arms mean welcome; Arms held high means victory; Crossing or holding hands across your chest is a sign of optimism and confidence.

3. Situational language should be precise

We use situational language when we speak to communicate feelings, complement verbal communication, and make the other person more understandable. Therefore, the situation language should be simple and clear, less and more precise. For example, if the same gesture is used non-stop and casually, there is little effect.

4. The posture and spoken language should be unified

If you are the speaker and want to hear the audience's advice on what you are saying, if he does not agree with you, and the posture language also means the same thing as the speech, then he is telling the truth: if he agrees with what you say, but his posture expresses the opposite meaning, it is a lie. Carnegie believes that body language is 5 times more influential than spoken language, and if the meaning of the two is not the same, then the true attitude of the speaker is judged by body language.

Freud found that some female patients told him that they were happy with their marriage, but naturally put the wedding ring on and off, repeating it many times. As far as he knew, this action heralded a crisis in their marriage. Seeing whether the body posture is consistent with the spoken language is an important way to correctly interpret body language.

5. Combine the observation background with the environment

In addition to looking at whether the meaning of the posture language and the spoken language is unified, the background environment when speaking is also a factor to pay attention to. For example, in the harsh winter, when the hands and feet of the people waiting for the bus are crossed and their jaws are shrunk, this action is not intentional, just because of the cold. However, if the person who sends the gesture is the person sitting across from you listening to you introduce the product or service project, then the gesture conveys a defensive or negative meaning.

Therefore, it is necessary to interpret the posture in the context of the environment, and also try to examine the pose group rather than the single pose. When learning gesture language, if you can work as hard as you learn speaking skills, it will be a big help to improve your image. So, what are you waiting for, hurry up and use proper body language to express yourself.