Some time ago, I drank tea with my friend Xiao Mo, whom I had not seen for many years.
She was radiant in front of her, radiating happiness, and the stupid girl who had once revolved around her boyfriend was like two people.
Talking about the vigorous relationship of that year, even she herself laughed at the "love brain" as too terrible.
Xiao Mo's ex-boyfriend was full of jianghu and came out to run around before he graduated from high school.
The people around them are not optimistic about them, but Xiao Mo is in love at first sight and regards the other party as the true destiny.
Since the two were together, Xiao Mo has completely lost himself, setting his sights on his ex-boyfriend and eager to fill all his blank time.
The other party's reply to the message was slow, and she began to think wildly;
The other person frowned, and she inexplicably became uneasy.
Even if it is just a small thing, she will rise to the height of love and non-love, and she will suffer from gain and loss all the time, and she has no intention of doing other things.
But her flattery did not exchange for each other's cherishing, and the two eventually ended without a problem.
Xiao Mo was decadent for a long time, and with the help of a doctor, he realized that the true love that came from what he thought was true was nothing more than a lack of personality.
In her unruly ex-boyfriend, she saw her repressed self and enjoyed the joy of rebellion in love, so she loved the other party as a god.
The sudden breakup is tantamount to waking up from a big dream, which is not a good thing.
Hu Ziwei once said:
"If a woman's tragedy or comedy is no longer because of a man, we say that this woman has lived out of the weather."
When we are young, we will always feel that there is love to drink water, and love should be a moth to put out the fire;
When we grow up, we find that the crazy pursuit of true love is an unknown adventure.
The future is full of variables, human nature is unfathomable, you can love someone into the dust, but the other party may not like you in the dust.
Love can not be sought, do not blindly pursue the so-called true love, you will not live so tired.
In the variety show "We Who First Entered the Workplace", Dong Mingzhu proposed the successor standard:
"It's not about relatives, it's not about friends, it's just about ability."
The iron face of the "Iron Lady" is selfless, and it is indeed worthy of the name.
Dong Mingzhu mentioned in the sharing that there was a dealer who wanted to find her brother to help get the goods.
Her brother called her and told her that as long as she helped the dealer get 1 million yuan, the dealer could give him 20,000 or 30,000 yuan.
After listening to this, Dong Mingzhu hung up the phone angrily, not only did not help this dealer, but stopped his goods.
The brother was ashamed and angry, and the two had not been in contact for more than 20 years.
In fact, Dong Mingzhu was also very entangled at that time, on the one hand, he was a brother, and on the other hand, he was in the interests of the company.
However, to recognize the brother means to lose faith in colleagues.
At the critical moment, Dong Mingzhu was not kidnapped by family affection, but chose to follow the inner principles. Even if he was kicked out of the family tree by his brother, he would not hesitate.
Until now, Dong Mingzhu has also been telling his family:
"If you really love me as a sister, don't have anything to do with me when I'm in office." But after I retire, we still have to go back to the same brotherhood and sisterhood as when we were children. ”
This dashing posture has won the praise of many people.
Women are naturally sensual, and in the face of emotional coercion, we are easily out of rhythm.
In the face of other people's requests, we are often afraid of the other party's disappointment, so we are embarrassed to refuse.
However, when the interruption is continuous, it is chaotic.
Forcing yourself to do something reluctant is often thankless.
Instead of being embarrassed and embarrassed and filling up with bitter love drama in your heart, it is better to simply and neatly refuse at the beginning, but instead end up clean.
You know, people who really care about you are never willing to let you have the slightest embarrassment.
To be a person with "no heart and no lungs" and not to be kidnapped by emotions can be transparent and comfortable.
In the TV series "Mulan Mother", Mulan is an old and good person with no principles.
Once, she went to town with her eldest brother and nephew to sell fish.
When the eldest brother took his nephew to a restaurant to eat, he accidentally lost the child.
The eldest brother has always been timid and afraid of things, worried that his wife will divorce him after he knows the truth, and he is worried.
Therefore, Mulan did not say a word, and then took the matter to himself, saying that the child was lost by himself.
The eldest sister-in-law knew that the consequences were furious, and she sprinkled all her anger on Mulan, cursing Mulan again and again.
However, Mulan's kind help did not win the gratitude of the eldest brother, but made him accustomed to letting Mulan help himself.
Later, Mulan's fish pond was poisoned, and the village director mobilized the villagers to borrow money to help her tide over the difficulties.
During this low period, the eldest brother not only did not help her, but also opened his mouth to ask her for help again.
It turned out that the eldest brother was blackmailed after being drunk by the little, and the little let him take the money.
After Mulan listened, she gave the 50,000 yuan borrowed by the villagers to the eldest brother.
Afterwards, Mulan was ready to call the police to retrieve the money, but the eldest brother did not agree to it because of his face, and Mulan could only give up.
When her husband asked about the money, Mulan lied that she had lost it and asked her husband not to ask again.
The elders in the family commented:
"After Mulan got married, she didn't have a comfortable life."
However, this is not her own fault.
Kindness is like spring rain, moisturizing things are silent;
But without the goodness of the edge, it is a tornado that hurts others and hurts oneself.
When a woman is always confused and bears responsibilities that do not belong to her, others will not only not understand you, but will become more intense and break through your bottom line again and again.
As the saying goes, "Whatever others do to you, you teach." ”
Don't think that selfless giving can impress others.
Your forbearance will only be exchanged for the disdain of others, and you will also be accustomed to endlessly asking for it from others.
Women, don't have a virgin heart, don't float in the sense of moral superiority.
Only by keeping their own bottom line, others dare not cross the thunder pool half a step.
Someone said:
"A woman's life before the age of 20 is given by her parents. Life after the age of 20 is self-determined. ”
It's hard to be a person, and it's even harder to be a woman.
As women, we always have to shuttle through the roles of daughters, wives, and mothers, not only to ride the wind and waves in the workplace, but also to cook soup in the kitchen.
As a result, many women are overwhelmed and gradually lose themselves.
In fact, the women in life who are getting better and better are all similar.
They are always sober and never frantically pursue true love;
They are careful in their words and deeds, and are not easily kidnapped by feelings;
They have their own sharp edges and do not revel in the heart of the Virgin.
Such a woman, wherever she goes, shines and turns her life into a flowing poem.
Author | Lin Xiyan, public number: Xiyan said growth.
Image | Visual China