Loneliness can be enjoyed exclusively, and loneliness is incompatible.
"Streamers are easy to throw people away, red cherries, green plantains."
Every time I read this poem by Jiang Jie, I will always be shocked, feeling that time is silent, quietly changing the four seasons, and changing the human world.
For the multitude, the years are cruel and compassionate. Especially when I saw the 61-year-old Zhong Chuhong, I felt the mystery of time more and more.
61-year-old Zhong Chuhong Source: Zhong Chuhong's Weibo
In the recent photos of a generation of Xiangjiang goddesses, we can't feel the fierce color of fate, nor can we spy the truth of those unbearable lives, in the midst of clever laughter, she will be more than half a century of light and shadow flowing years, into the afterglow and leisurely...
The famous media personality Han Songluo wrote about the feeling of endless memories when he first saw Zhong Chuhong's style in "Dao Ma Dan" when he was young:
She combed her spring-like hair in a bun, her face was sideways, and there was a delicacy and majesty in her eyes. She in the photo, for the mainland teenagers, is too foreign, but in the movie she is smooth and tidy, like a luminous body without a sense of the times, the combination of the two, just right. Since then, whenever I see words like 'bright teeth and bright eyes' and 'bright eyes', the first thing that comes to mind is her. ”
Zhong Chuhong starred in the movie "Dao Ma Dan"
In the Xiangjiang film industry of the last century, Zhong Chuhong, Together with Lin Qingxia, Mei Yanfang and Maggie Cheung, were collectively known as "Xiayu Fanghong". But among the many beautiful people who are alive and fragrant, Zhong Chuhong is not a city that has fallen into the country, but it is better than her all kinds of styles, better than the nature of her natural carving, and better than the delicateness that is difficult to describe.
The most deadly thing is that in her delicacy, there is also an irresistible sexiness.
30 years ago, Zhong Chuhong was recognized as the "sexy goddess of the Chinese world", and Li Ao, who has always had eyes above the top, once wrote: "If Marilyn Monroe has survived, it is probably What Zhong Chuhong looks like." ”
But she did not have the fragrance of Monroe, but added a chaotic essence.
The style should not be deliberate, deliberate will become a showmanship; the charm should not be rich, and the rich will appear frivolous.
Song Yu wrote of a kind of beauty that is just right in the "Lustful Endowment of Deng Disciple": "The son of the owner, one point is too long, and one point is too short; the powder is too white, and Shi Zhu is too red." ”
Zhong Chuhong belongs to the kind of beauty of "being sincere and repairing the short fit", which is not in the demon, nor is it lost in the brightness.
No wonder Ni Kuang later recalled that when he watched movies, he was just watching Zhong Chuhong: "At that time, I was young, standing in the wind, and every smile was really beautiful." ”
Although she was born with the appearance of everyone's beauty and upside down sentient beings, she was born in a cold and cold background.
Zhong Chuhong girlhood photo
Zhong Chuhong's ancestral home is Xipu Village, Shiwan Town, Boluo County, Guangdong Province, and in 1949, his parents moved to Hong Kong. Eleven years later, Zhong Chuhong was born.
It is not easy to seek food in a foreign country. At that time, Zhong Chuhong's father ran a small women's clothing business, and his mother was a housewife, a family of six, barely surviving. Father Zhong has a weak personality and is often bullied by workers. At the age of 11, Zhong Chuhong worked as an accountant for his father and managed the accounts for him.
After graduating from middle school, in order to supplement her family, she chose to drop out of school and go to the subway company to work and earn money.
Although it is covered in the dust, this "pearl" is still beautiful and difficult to abandon.
Zhong Chuhong participated in the "Miss Hong Kong" campaign photo
In 1979, 19-year-old Zhong Chuhong went to the "Miss Hong Kong" beauty contest. Because he could not wear high heels, his gait was not elegant enough, and he did not enter the top three and only won the fourth place.
But Zhong Chuhong's unconventional beauty still shocked the always critical Hong Kong media, calling her "the most beautiful Hong Kong sister".
After that, Zhong Chuhong went to TVB to audition, was appreciated by senior senior Liu Songren, and was introduced into the entertainment circle.
Her first work was "Bishui Hanshan Kills Gold" co-starring with Liu Songren.
Yu Peipei, played by Zhong Chuhong in "Bishui Hanshan Kills Gold"
This became a turning point in her life, and it was impossible to get away with it. In 1981, Zhong Chuhong co-starred with Zhou Runfa in the film "The Story of Hu Yue".
Previously, Zhou Runfa became famous because of his cooperation with Zhao Yazhi on "Shanghai Beach", which was popular all over the Chinese world. And the partner with Zhou Runfa, who was "no one in the world who did not know the king" at that time, once made her sincerely afraid.
Because of her beauty, before filming began, director Xu Anhua was a little worried: "Such a beautiful woman will not be in line with the fate of the Vietnamese boatman Shen Qing in the movie." ”
Fortunately, with her good understanding and expressiveness, Zhong Chuhong finally won the recognition of the director and the audience.
Zhong Chuhong and Zhou Run sent out the movie screen of "The Story of Hu Yue"
From "The Story of Hu Yue", Zhong Chuhong's star path was frank and opened the road of a ten-year-long screen couple with Zhou Runfa.
With the successive releases of films such as "Peppermint Coffee", "Male and Female", "Woman's Heart", "Dao Ma Dan", "Autumn Fairy Tale", "Falcon Project", "Accompany Me to the End of the World", "Across the Sea" and other films, Zhong Chuhong has become one of the most dazzling actresses in Hong Kong.
At that time, there was a saying in Hong Kong: No more hair can be Zhou Runfa, and no more red is Zhong Chuhong.
Among a series of popular masterpieces, Zhong Chuhong has two classics that are particularly commendable.
The most well-known is "Autumn Fairy Tale", Zhong Chuhong and Zhou Runfa interpreted a romantic exotic love in a delicate and beautiful style, which is still unforgettable many years later.
Zhong Chuhong and Zhou Run sent out the movie screen of "Autumn Fairy Tale"
Director Zhang Wanting once recalled in a talk show that when the film was first planned, the team intended Maggie Cheung to play Li Qi, but because Maggie Cheung had other film contracts, she lacked skills. Zhang Wanting then suggested using Zhong Chuhong, which was opposed by many people.
Zhang Wanting, who has a sharp eye, identified Zhong Chuhong's outstanding and highly malleable temperament, and finally succeeded in letting Zhong Chuhong play the leading role.
Picture from the Autumn Fairy Tale movie
Zhong Chuhong did not disappoint Zhang Wanting. After receiving the script, she immersed herself in the understanding and analysis of the characters, deeply embedding the whole person in it, walking, sitting, and re-imagining it. No matter how dirty the style of the character's costume is, she is willing to wear it, and no matter how difficult the opponent play is, she repeats it over and over again until she reaches the ideal state.
That year, "Autumn Fairy Tale" swept a number of Golden Horse Awards and Academy Award nominations, and although Zhong Chuhong lost to others in the best actress, she proved herself to be Li Qi's best and only candidate with irrefutable strength.
Zhong Chuhong, Zhang Guorong and Zhou Run sent out the movie screen of "Across the Sea"
In 1991, Zhong Chuhong co-starred with Zhou Runfa and Zhang Guorong in Wu Yusen's "Across the Sea".
This work, full of heroic feelings and romanticism, has become an insurmountable peak of its kind.
In the movie, she plays the sister of Hongdou, Gu Panshenghui, and is extremely beautiful. How many people have fallen into the dazzling and enchanting atmosphere she has created invisibly, and when they walk out of the theater, there is an inexplicable sense of trance.
There is a scene in the movie where she and Zhang Guorong and Zhou Runfa are dancing tango. She has high sideburns, a smile to greet people, slightly raised her head, the eyes are sparkling, accompanied by light music, dancing posture, skirt fluttering, not only a kind of charm and natural rhyme, but also a cute playfulness, that scene not only became the focus of the whole dance, but also completed Zhong Chuhong's highlight moment.
No wonder some people are lamenting this: the left hugs Zhou Runfa and the right hugs Zhang Guorong, which is a favorite that will never be seen again in the history of Chinese films.
Today, the hero is old, the beauty is still the same, and the brother has been gone for 18 years...
And Danny (Chen Baiqiang) who co-starred with her in "Autumn Fairy Tales" has also been gone for 28 years.
Zhong Chuhong and Chen Baiqiang starred in stills of "Autumn Fairy Tale"
In addition to partnering with Zhou Runfa and Zhang Guorong, Zhong Chuhong has also cooperated with jackie Chan, Andy Lau, Wan Ziliang, Hong Jinbao and many other big names, and "Dao Ma Dan", co-starring with Lin Qingxia and Ye Qianwen, can be called "three women and one play", becoming the champion of the literary and art film box office that year.
Movie footage of "Flowing Golden Years"
In addition, Zhong Chuhong also co-starred in the movie "Flowing Golden Years" with Maggie Cheung. Two young women, young and burning, bright and lovely.
Some people say that Zhu Suosuo's charm and sophistication and tenderness have achieved the most beautiful Zhong Chuhong at that time, and Zhong Chuhong is of course also a unique and irreplaceable Zhu Suosuo.
Zhong Chuhong debuted for 11 years, shooting nearly 60 movies, each of which she went all out and tasted all the hardships.
In order to interpret the role well, she broke her leg and was injured repeatedly.
At her busiest time, she had to shoot three or four sets of scenes a day, night and day, with only two or three hours of rest, so she couldn't go home, so she simply slept in her car.
Movie footage of "Golden Swallow"
When filming "Golden Swallow", because Zhong Chuhong played a female ghost, she often had to be hung in the air and flew around, and could not eat too much, otherwise the stomach would be uncomfortable; after filming, because she was tied up for a long time, she could not eat, resulting in a sharp drop in weight.
"The most tragic thing was some windy scenes, but I saw the sand on the ground rolling, several powerful electric fans blowing directly at me, and even the leaves hit the face with a very stinging feeling, and after the shooting, the whole person was like a shelf."
Because she did not want to be called a "vase", she cherished every opportunity to create a role and did her best to make it a "standing" image.
In "Across the Seas", Hongdou, played by Zhong Chuhong, has a line:
"After doing this time, we will collect the mountains, find a peaceful place, and live a plain life."
As a result, a slur. Half a year later, the 31-year-old Zhong Chuhong finished his last film, "Extreme Tracking", and drew an eternal rest for his short and brilliant acting career early.
Zhong Chuhong and Andy Lau co-starred in "Extreme Tracking"
The reason is not him, only for love.
In 1987, because of taking over a cosmetics advertisement, Zhong Chuhong met Zhu Jiading, an advertising talent. At that time, she was already the most popular female star.
Zhu Jiading, born in 1954, is 6 years older than Zhong Chuhong.
Zhong Chuhong and Zhu Jiading
After returning to Hong Kong from studying in the United States, Zhu Jiading founded an advertising company, and the advertising slogan he designed, "I don't care about the longevity of the day, only care about what I once had" was once recited.
Zhu Jiading has won the "Hong Kong Golden Sail Award" in the advertising industry, and the awards of advertising creation have exceeded 100, and the "Advertising Times" in the United States has a high evaluation of Zhu Jiading. He later became a leading advertising figure in Hong Kong and asia.
However, when Zhong Chuhong first met, Zhu Jiading's Lingzhi Advertising Company was founded only 4 years ago, and his career still belonged to the rising period, which was obviously very different from those rich families and rich giants.
But his gentlemanliness, calmness and introvertedness, and his understanding of her, like a charming trap, are like a fascinating trap.
What's more, his concern and thoughtfulness for her was unmatched.
Once, Zhong Chuhong had surgery.
During his hospitalization, he took good care of Zhong Chuhong.
What she wanted to eat, Zhu Jiading ran a few streets to buy.
What she wanted to do, Zhu Jiading put down everything at hand to accompany her.
But his love for her was not a temporary devotion, but a consistent long-term affection.
As a goddess of a generation, Zhong Chuhong has been pursued by Jackie Chan, Andy Lau, Lin Zixiang and others. In those years of popularity, she was surrounded by butterflies, but she felt that the showbiz was too variable, and lacked the stability and security that she paid the most attention to, so she did not compose love songs with them.
There are even rich businessmen who throw 5 million yuan, intending to use it as a chip for communication, and Honggu laughed:
"5 million is indeed a big amount, but I can earn it by shooting a few more plays, so why sell myself?"
In that environment of sound and color dogs and horses, she is accustomed to the extravagance of throwing thousands of dollars and only laughing for Bo Meiren; she is accustomed to seeing too many hypocrisy and hypocrisy, only for the heart of the fishing and hunting People, and she was born with a seven-trick exquisite heart, how can she not distinguish between the face of desire and the delivery of sincerity?
After four years of low-key love, on December 10, 1991, Zhong Chuhong and Zhu Jiading held a wedding ceremony at st. Brien Catholic Church in Rhode Island, USA.
Zhong Chuhong and Zhu Jiading wedding scene
Before marriage, the two agreed not to have children.
In 1994, Zhong Chuhong announced the official retirement.
When Japanese superstar Momoe Yamaguchi married Tomokazu Miura, it was the time when her career was in full swing. After getting married, Yamaguchi Baihui resolutely retired from the show business circle under the repeated retention of countless fans and the sighs of the crowd.
When Zhong Chuhong withdrew from the film industry, she had just passed the age of establishment, and the fanghua that belonged to her was blooming, but she said that she left and left.
In their common "determination", they all reflect a distinct attitude towards life: they know what they really want and what they care about, so they would rather give up the rest for this.
The German playwright Schiller's Wish says, "I have no assurance from heaven, but I have to believe in the voice of my heart." ”
For the abandonment of her acting career, Zhong Chuhong never regretted, she once told the media:
"A person must have something to lose, I am a stupid woman, I can only have the energy to do one thing well, and now the one thing I choose is to take care of the family." 」
After the shadow, Zhong Chuhong learned to cook at home, learned to arrange flowers, and always arranged the home very warmly.
Zhu Jiading was amazed at Zhong Chuhong's cooking skills, and once gave his beloved wife a huge silver cup on Valentine's Day, with a line engraved in English: "The best chef." ”
Whenever there is a major event in her husband's company, Zhong Chuhong, who has never liked to socialize, will also dress up beautifully and accompany her husband to attend.
At that time, everyone envied their flounder affection, but this happy life lasted only 15 years.
In March 2006, Zhu Jiading often felt bloating and abdominal pain, and sometimes woke up in the middle of the night, causing him to sweat profusely.
Zhong Chuhong then accompanied her husband to the hospital for examination, and the result was that Zhong Chuhong was struck by lightning: Zhu Jiading was diagnosed with advanced bowel cancer.
She searched for a doctor to save his life.
After Zhu Jiading's surgery, his physique deteriorated, his digestive function was greatly weakened, and he could not eat more at one time, so Zhong Chuhong cooked 5 meals a day for her husband and constantly changed patterns.
Under Zhong Chuhong's meticulous treatment and care, Zhu Jiading's physical condition has greatly improved, the amount of food has increased, and his appearance has also improved. But in May 2007, the cancer suddenly spread.
In just over a month, Zhu Jiading lost more than 20 pounds.
On August 24, Zhu Jiading died of liver failure in Hong Kong at the age of 53 due to liver failure caused by bowel cancer.
Hong Kong media reports on Zhu Jiading's death
Before leaving, he grabbed his wife with his skinny hand: "I'm sorry, I'm leaving, I can't accompany you, you have to be strong in the future." ”
At that moment, she burst into tears.
She thought they could live forever, but she couldn't even get her wish.
At Zhu Jiading's memorial service, the commemorative album contained a letter from Zhong Chuhong to her husband:
"You know what? You gave me the most wonderful 20 years of my life, let me realize the truth, goodness and beauty of life, and the most precious thing is that I once had you forever. ”
After Zhu Jiading's death, Zhong Chuhong suffered from depression due to excessive grief.
She did not eat or drink, had serious sleep disorders, and had nightmares at night as soon as she closed her eyes.
In the dream, she was in a hurry, running away, calling out again and again, but she never got his answer.
Every time I startled in the middle of the night, I was already wet with tears.
At that time, her hair was falling out badly, and she was often in a trance, but in the rest of the month, she seemed to be 10 years old.
Witnessing her sister's current situation, the younger siblings were worried, so they took Zhong Chuhong home, cooked food for her, accompanied her to relax, and took her around.
Zhong Chuhong, who was overly sad because of the death of her husband
In 2011, Zhong Chuhong finally came out of the quagmire of sadness.
After Zhong Chuhong was alone, a number of film and television companies invited her to make a comeback film. A director said to her: "You don't have any worries now, feel free to go out and shoot, the era that belongs to you will come again." ”
Some directors even directly presented the huge cheque to Zhong Chuhong respectfully: "As long as you sign the contract, this cheque is yours!" ”
Zhong Chuhong said in an interview that she did not want to make a comeback
When she was young, Zhong Chuhong did not have too high requirements for materials, and after experiencing the pain of widowhood, she wanted to live according to her heart.
Therefore, in the face of the company that urged her to re-emerge from the mountain, Zhong Chuhong refused one by one.
After 14 years of widowhood, she is still alone.
Perhaps in the eyes of many people, widowed and childless, she is a woman who deserves to be sympathized with.
But in reality, she lived a life of a person to the fullest and happier.
Source: Zhong Chuhong's Weibo
Zhong Chuhong likes to visit art galleries, but she is by no means a vassal.
In front of each work, she will carefully look at it and taste the beauty of the weather in the art world.
Later, her habit of visiting art museums and reading the English "South China Morning Post" was hotly discussed by many literati and scholars.
Zhong Chuhong held a photography exhibition in Hong Kong
Zhong Chuhong has held a photography exhibition in Hong Kong, exhibiting 50 works.
She talked to reporters about her shooting experience: "I took a few photos near the pond. I was a little disappointed because it rained just after I came out to shoot. Later, after the rain, the sun came, better than I thought, even better than when the weather was better. Because it had more layers, a little fog, the sun had just broken through the clouds, and the color of that light was different from what I usually saw. That was my bonus. ”
She is willing to observe the world and feel the changes in life with a mood that is good at appreciating beauty, which always makes her gain a lot: the beauty of life is everywhere, and the happiness of the world is also within reach.
In addition to her love of photography, Zhong Chuhong also practices calligraphy and Chinese painting at home, and her calligraphy and painting works have been invited to be exhibited at large-scale events many times, and the praise is overwhelming.
Zhong Chuhong appeared in public welfare
In addition, she is active in public welfare charity activities, advocating for children with cleft lip and palate. Passionate about environmental protection, she has also served as an environmental ambassador for "Friends of the Earth".
Over the years, there have been excellent opposite sexes to show favor to Zhong Chuhong, but after Zhu Jiading's death, Zhong Chuhong announced to the outside world that he would not remarry in this life:
"Having had this marriage, it's perfect, who could be better than him?" Fortunately, this love will accompany me for a lifetime. ”
Good people may not be difficult to find, but Zhu Jiading has only one.
What's more, if the arrival of another person cannot give you happiness, cannot improve your happiness index, but only increases troubles and unnecessary mental crowding, then why not enjoy the joy of one's years?
I wrote a short article a few years ago about my understanding of "loneliness" and "loneliness":
Loneliness is just lack of company, boredom, and loneliness is the joy of loneliness that will still escape red dust even in the thick crowd;
Loneliness is the product of emptiness, and loneliness is spiritual belonging;
If loneliness is a scar on the body, then loneliness is an unforgettable memory;
If loneliness is a floating cloud in the sky, then loneliness is the earth under your feet;
Loneliness needs to be asked outward, and loneliness becomes its own world.
In the world, there are always people who are struggling to find the best state in life.
What is the best state of life? There has never been a uniform standard answer.
But I think that a person can live out inner harmony and harmony is a good state.
Deal with the relationship with the inner self before you can coordinate the confrontation with the external world.
Loneliness or aging, including all kinds of puzzles in life, may not be able to be solved, then it should be a situation that accompanies fate, and sometimes, there is no need to go beyond, just accept.
Beauty is still the same, does not mean that she has no wrinkles, no traces of time, does not mean that she has not encountered the abuse of life, but that no matter what kind of baptism she has endured, she can still exude a pampered peace from the inside and outside.
This peace and elegance is not cultivated by the house of brocade and jade food and zhongming ding food, nor can it be full of anger and desire, it must come from the sobriety and self-sustainment of life, and it comes from a sense of transparency and understanding.
Hong Kong columnist Lai Kin-hye once said that some aging female celebrities don't behave right in the photos: "Because deep inside, some parts have fallen off or died." ”
But at the age of 61, she still has a flexible, vivid and loving soul for the world.
Sometimes, she wanders the streets of the first light after the rain, breathing the fresh air greedily;
Sometimes, she sees the sunset slowly falling in the west, and she feels that life can be as calm as it is;
Sometimes, she volunteers, spends time with the elderly and children, and feels the return to nature at both ends of life;
Sometimes, she would raise her head, look up at the boundless starry sky, and ask softly:
"Mr. Zhu, are you okay?" Text/Wattle Green