Retiring and living well is more important than earning tens of thousands of dollars a month.
It is the wish of many retired seniors to live longer and live a healthy life.
But how can we do it? It's not about blindly maintaining health, but about managing your emotions and feeling the beautiful fireworks in silence.
For the rest of your life, stay away from other people's mouths, close your mouth, and most of your problems will be relieved.
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Stay away from other people's mouths and look for less troubles.
The reason why people envy other people's lives is because they have heard that others are doing better, and because they have heard that "others have a good idea".
You have also heard that other people's "pensions are tens of thousands", and other people's children "go to big cities, work in big companies, and make a lot of money".
Yes, you heard everything and did not get demonstrated.
It's what your relatives tell you, how the people of your relatives are doing, that's what you have heard, but you haven't experienced it yourself. In fact, what relatives say also has the ingredient of adding oil and vinegar.
What others say is someone else's life, and others derive a series of opinions based on their own life, which has nothing to do with you.
Think about how terrible it is to have some ideas that have nothing to do with you to guide your life.
If you analyze the words in other people's mouths from multiple angles, you can laugh it off.
People laugh at you, most often because they are jealous of you.
Use your own advantages to compare others, then people will be shorter.
People always have a "condescending" mentality, and use this form to let themselves win and have a more lustrous face.
There are also some mocking people who want to see you "thunderous and very frustrated", thinking that in this way, he will win even more.
For example, if you have more pension than others, people will taunt you and "don't see what you have contributed". Makes you a little shorter.
Forget it, don't care about ridicule, they are all retired old people, and what they get, it is also the accumulation of the past; How the children are doing, the days are still long, this time and that time, it is not worth making a conclusion.
They are all retired old people, keep them authentic, and no one should look down on anyone. You're usually very low-key, so there will be less ridicule; If you don't respond, the taunt will be "boring".
When others advocate you, most of them want to be worth you.
There are some retired elderly people who still have use value.
For example, if the children are well mixed, they can help people introduce jobs and solve troubles. The elderly still have some old connections, and they are still mixed in the workplace; The old man is highly respected, and his words are effective.
All kinds of advocacy, just like a middle-aged man slapping a horse, is not inexplicable, but a pattern of asking for help after pleasing people.
Of course, there are also some merchants who deliberately pursue you. It's all about your money, not really loving you.
When others guide you, it's probably just someone else talking about their own experience.
You and I don't want to be "good teachers", so if others point fingers at you, they are also good teachers.
Do you want to live each day with the guidance of others?
When you are retired, you don't break the law and discipline, don't touch the moral bottom line, don't cause conflicts among your neighbors, and don't create internal friction in the family. As for some minor problems, if you can't fix them, then don't change them.
The old man has his own hobbies to please himself. If someone thinks that such a hobby is wrong, they should give up. Is it not henceforth that we will not please ourselves, but please others?
Everyone is unique, don't live as a shadow of someone else.
Let others be others and let yourself be yourself. Then, other people's troubles cannot be poured into your life.
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Keep your mouth shut and get into less trouble.
As the saying goes, "Sickness comes from the mouth, and misfortune comes from the mouth." ”
The mouth is the root of trouble.
Many retired elderly people manage it wide and thinly, so they are involved in other people's cause and effect.
For a while, "Kaifeng Wang Po" said that the matter of the matchmaker became popular.
Everyone praised Wang Po for "being able to speak". After all, Wang Po relied on a mouth to let many young people find a partner.
However, when Wang Po and the host Tu Lei connected, they covered "half of their mouths".
Mrs. Wang said that in order to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law has to cover half of her mouth and stop nagging about everything.
Look, parents can't guide their children's lives too much, and it is difficult for them to guide their daughters-in-law and sons-in-law. And to guide outsiders, isn't that a joke?
Within the family, each person is an individual.
Retired elderly, you are your parents, parents-in-law, and parents-in-law. Find your niche, then say less.
The children have already started a family and are getting rid of the confusion of their original family. Parents should say less, let them reduce the intervention of their original family, be independent earlier, and live the life they want.
As brothers and sisters, not everyone is retired, retired people, don't always say, those who can't retire, how useless they are. Especially people in the countryside, you talk about him, he doesn't understand and thinks you're laughing.
A mother gave birth to nine sons, and ten mothers. Brothers and sisters are also one of the people who have different views, you don't think that the blood is the same, everything is the same.
As a member of society, retirees should continue to be high-quality people and guide positive social energy. Before, you were like this in the workplace, and you have to keep your true colors later.
What you can do is to guide people with actions, instead of pointing fingers at people.
For example, when you go out with everyone, you take the initiative to avoid crowds, take care of the children who go to school, and don't force people to give up their seats.
As a person in the community, don't always comment on the life of your neighbors, go around in a circle, your comments will be known by your neighbors, and the contradictions will come.
Everyone looks down and doesn't look up, your mouth is not good, then everyone's face is not good. It's not easy to deal with in the future.
People, learn to speak in two years, and learn to shut up in life. When you are old, you should not nag, you should pass on your experience to everyone.
03
Once upon a time, Lao Tzu chatted with his teacher Shang Rong.
Shang Rong asked: "Why do people get old, their teeth fall out, but their tongues are still there?" ”
Lao Tzu replied, "The teeth are too strong, but the tongue is soft." ”
Yes, the tongue overcomes rigidity with softness, so that the teeth have to give way.
From another point of view, "gnashing teeth" is already powerful enough, but I didn't expect the "three-inch tongue" to be even more powerful.
In life, we have to get used to showing weakness, keeping our mouths shut, and not caring about other people's mouths.
Everyone's lifestyle and life path are different, but they are all good.
Everyone will express themselves, but not hinder others from getting by.
Cherish life, worry less, less right and wrong, and be at ease.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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