A male member of the Love Heart Reading Club asked me: "Mr. Li, I feel that it is so difficult to fall in love, I have often been rejected by girls before, and I like to confess when I meet a girl I like, what should I do?" ”
Li Zhenfang:
As we said in the audio lesson of love psychology, in the early stage of the relationship between men and women, don't confess, if you like to confess, then you should restrain your emotions.
A girl won't like a man who can't control her emotions.
So, it's normal for you to get rejected by girls a lot. Although the girl didn't say that you can't do it, her behavior tells you everywhere that you can't do it, and you are PASSED.
Finding a partner and falling in love is a process of practice.
Anything that wants to have a certain score is the result of practice.
A person who has no love experience falls in love, just like a person who can't play table tennis plays table tennis, can he play well?
He can't even figure out the most basic rules of how to serve, how to catch the ball, and how to play table tennis.
In the same way, when a person who has no love experience falls in love, he doesn't know how to meet girls, plus how to talk about girls on WeChat, when to confess, when to hold hands, when to kiss, and even don't understand these most basic knowledge, can he fall in love?
If you hold a girl's hand at the wrong time and kiss a girl, then you will be scolded by a girl. If you don't do it when it's time to hold hands or kiss, then the girl won't have much patience with you.
So, you have to practice when you meet girls, and when you meet girls, you have to make friends with them and play with them.
With more practice, you can do the right thing at the right time.
You look at the boys, otaku, programmers who don't have any female friends, they can't reach girls, then this is the hardest hit area for single men.
Girls are different from boys, girls don't need to take the initiative to contact men, they will have a lot of opportunities to practice, as long as the woman is not ugly, then she has three or five men around her to chat, slowly her emotional intelligence, love cognition is higher than that of boys, when you approach this girl, they know in their hearts what you are here for, how she should communicate with you, how to reject you, how to hang you, how to mediate the progress of your relationship. They all know more about love than men, but they don't say it, you can understand it, right?
Many of our boys have not practiced to this level, so you see that many men have money, and his conditions are very good, but his emotional experience is very bumpy, and he has spent a lot of money in love, but in the end, the reason is also because they can't fall in love, and it has nothing to do with girls. Even if this A girl doesn't let him spend money, other B girls and C girls will let him spend money, and his money will be wasted.
Being rich only represents his ability to make money, not his ability to fall in love.
Only when he really understands and has the knowledge of love will they understand how to fall in love.
It's like you must not be able to fall in love at the beginning, just like when we learned to ride a bicycle when we were kids, we must have wrestled, we must have fallen several times to learn to ride a bicycle.
Therefore, to find a partner and fall in love, you have to fail many times, you have to date girls many times, you have to know a lot of people, so that you can find a partner and fall in love.
People who can fall in love well are the result of talking about it many times and failing many times.