Many times, a person fails, not for nothing, but for gain, but not to keep.
There are also times when a person fails, not because he doesn't work hard, but because the direction changes back and forth, like a fly without a head.
Therefore, in order for people to become strong, they must use good wisdom, not to act brutally, let alone blindly obey.
In the "Record of Saving Hearts", it is said: "Profit can be shared but not alone, and it can be few, but not many." ”
We have to know that as long as we find a balance between being gregarious and unsociable, then we can live a comfortable life anywhere, combining rigidity and softness, and making trade-offs.
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The group is located, and the profits are divided.
Lin Yuantu, the main character in Jin Yong's novel "Smiling Proud Jianghu".
He spent his whole life working hard to create the Fuwei Dart Bureau, and the business was doing smoothly, and his kung fu was also super powerful.
After many summaries, he wrote the "Sword Spectrum to Ward Off Evil Spirits", on a very thick robe.
After his death, countless martial arts people came to compete for the sword spectrum, resulting in the Fuwei Dart Bureau being slaughtered by the Qingcheng faction, and only his great-grandson Lin Ping escaped.
Lin Pingzhi was forced to step into the rivers and lakes and live a life of exile. Some people pity him, but they all come for the sword spectrum.
Yue Buqun, the head of the Huashan faction, came to help Lin Pingzhi, which greatly moved Lin Pingzhi. But it soon became clear that Yue Buqun was also here for the sword spectrum, and he had a ghost in mind.
In the end, Lin Pingzhi became a heinous person and burned the robe with the sword score written on it. Lin Pingzhi was also imprisoned by Linghu Chong at the bottom of the West Lake.
After reading the novel, many people were upset for Lin Ping's family. thinks that the rivers and lakes are sinister and human nature is ugly.
But if you think about it seriously, the bane of Lin Ping's family is because of "exclusive sword spectrum".
Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes; Where there are rivers and lakes, it is a place where groups are located.
The ancients said: "It is difficult to get fat alone." ”
In other words, in the group, it is not allowed to eat alone; Dominate the list, not either.
If you want to monopolize a business alone, you will offend all those who want to engage in this business, and everyone will inevitably attack it.
You have to keep a well to yourself, and you don't allow people from the village to come and fetch water. Then the people in the village are your enemies, and they will also secretly destroy the well. Since you can't get it, destroy it.
If you take possession of all the money in the world, then you will have only one result - the money will still be robbed by everyone. After all, it is impossible for you to eat alone, everyone drinks the northwest wind.
Mencius said, "It is better to be happy alone than to be happy with all." ”
"I Ching" also said: "The terrain is good, and the gentleman carries things with virtue." ”
If you have any treasures, you have to learn to share them with everyone, not to yourself.
It seems that sharing things will make you lose things, but in fact, you have adopted the way of "giving and taking, one in and one out". It is equivalent to what we say, "Give people roses, leave fragrance in your hands".
Cooperate with everyone, then work together and share the fruits together. Don't secretly take away a lot of benefits because of your own selfish interests.
After making a fortune on his own, he actively helped others and learned to give alms. If you establish an image of positive energy, you will be loved by everyone, and your wealth will be no one jealous.
One way, everyone comes together, everyone gathers firewood and the flame is high, and it is easier to shine than you alone.
You can't make a forest alone. Don't provoke the wrath of the crowd because of your own selfish interests; It's about sharing benefits with everyone and accumulating virtue and blessings.
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Alone, lucky.
At the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty, Cao Cao occupied the Central Plains and wanted to dominate the world.
Someone in Saibei paid tribute to a box of crisps, and Cao Cao wrote three words on it - a combination of crisps.
Everyone was puzzled, but Minister Yang Xiu saw it, distributed the shortbread to everyone, and ate it.
Yang Xiu said: "The prime minister writes a mouthful of crisp for everyone, just for everyone to eat, this is a mouthful." ”
In the twenty-fourth year of Jian'an, Cao Cao led his troops to attack Hanzhong, and Liu Bei stuck to Hanzhong.
The two armies faced each other, and there was no progress for a long time, and Cao Cao was at a loss.
A chef brought stewed chicken for Cao Cao to enjoy. Cao Cao took advantage of the situation and ordered "chicken ribs".
The soldiers didn't understand, this password was too strange.
Yang Xiu said: "Chicken ribs, it's a pity to throw them away, the food is tasteless, it means to withdraw from the army." After saying that, he took everyone to pack their luggage and prepare to go home.
Cao Cao was very angry when he saw Yang Xiu's behavior.
Later, Cao Cao was sentenced to death by Yang Xiu on charges of "leaking words and teachings before and after, and handing over the princes".
Why did Yang Xiu end up like this? It's that he committed a big taboo - to be outnumbered and not to be few.
Strategy is a relatively confidential thing, and you can't guess at will, even if you guess correctly, you can't say it at will.
You know, if the strategy is made public, things will not be done. There is the scourge of leaks.
Think about it, how scary is it to have someone next to you who will reveal your secrets at any time?
Therefore, a really powerful person, in order to avoid his strategy being made public, will think about his strategy when he is alone, and also do a good job of life strategy.
Sometimes, some important strategies, even the person next to the pillow, can't be informed, but only explained when they are put into action, how to cooperate.
Really worried, the partition wall has ears. In order to avoid such a thing, the best thing to do is not to say, just think, and lay out alone.
There is a saying in the Book of Changes: "There are few words for auspicious people, and there are many words for restless people." ”
Keep your mouth shut, and if you don't speak, others won't know what you're thinking.
Take care of your heart, have few worries and desires, and your spirit will be much better, and you can also avoid external interference.
Take care of your ears and eyes, listen and see, and there will be little interference from others' strategies for you, and you will slowly stand out.
Take care of your hands, write less, and don't leave a lot of "pen and ink evidence" to avoid being used. Just keep the important text yourself.
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"The Pianist of the Sea" wrote: "Gregariousness is for self-preservation, solitude is true freedom." ”
To be a man, don't go to extremes, don't give up all your relatives and friends because you want to highlight your personality, and make it look like no one is in your eyes; You can't blindly fit in, please any circle, and care about everything.
Everyone is together mainly for profit, and to share the beauty brought by benefits.
When you are alone, you mainly think about life, plan yourself, and be a different version of yourself.
Being gregarious and being alone are not in conflict, but they are two aspects of life that need to be achieved at the same time.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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