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Stills from Huang Xuan's "Mountains and Seas"
In January 2021, the TV series "Mountains and Seas", which is being broadcast simultaneously on many satellite televisions such as Beijing, Zhejiang, Ningxia and other network platforms such as Tencent Video, made the popular Xiaosheng Huangxuan popular again.
In the play, Huang Xuan plays the male number one "Ma Defu". With a simple, vivid and down-to-earth performance, he played this rural grassroots cadre.
Because of "Mountains and Seas", Huang Xuan has been on the hot search again, and his personal problems have also aroused heated discussion among netizens. Huang Xuan is 36 years old and is still unmarried and single. Like many ordinary single-parent children, Huang Xuan also has a marriage-phobic knot...
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Huang Xuan's parents divorced when he was 8 years old, and in his own words, he grew up in repression. The imperfect original family made his personality and eyes a little more melancholy.
Huang Xuan when he was a student
The young Huang Xuan is a beautiful teenager. In 2004, Huang Xuan was admitted to the Musical Theatre Department of Beijing Dance Academy. Because of the broken family affection, Huang Xuan, who is lonely in his heart, longs to find warmth in love.
In his sophomore year, Huang Xuan fell in love, and his girlfriend was his classmate at the Beijing Dance Academy, a girl who was more beautiful than a fairy in red dancing shoes. He eats with his girlfriend, practices together, stands in the classroom together and watches the snowflakes beat the window, and the love is romantic and beautiful.
Campus love brings Huang Xuan passion and happiness, he talks more, the smile on his face is more, and his personality has become cheerful.
In 2007, when Huang Xuan entered his junior year, when his girlfriend imagined the future with him, Huang Xuan said what he said in his heart: "My parents divorced, which hurt me a lot, I think love is very beautiful, marriage is terrible." If two people have been in love and not married, there will not be so many contradictions and troubles. ”
Huang Xuan
Huang Xuan's negative emotional theory makes her girlfriend very worried, and she does not know whether Huang Xuan can bring happiness to herself in the future.
This summer, the girl opened up her love to her parents. Parents one-sidedly believe that most single-parent children have personality defects and that parental divorce will have recessive inheritance. This hastened the girlfriend's wavering of love.
Also in the summer of this year, Huang Xuan's 53-year-old father, Huang Yanping, died suddenly due to a heart attack. To make matters worse, shortly thereafter, Huang Xuan's grandparents were diagnosed with advanced cancer. The family has been subjected to changes, leaving Huang Xuan immersed in sadness and pain.
He didn't have the heart to take care of the love of the wind and snow moon anymore. The girlfriend thought: Huang Xuan has experienced so many things at a young age, and his heart will become more vicissitudes. She became less and less confident in the future, so she decided to break up with Huang Xuan.
In the following two years, Huang Xuan's grandparents passed away one after another. His career has also hit a wall one after another, and he has frequently been rejected to recommend dramas to the crew. The blow of lost love and the grief of bereavement made Huang Xuan particularly negative. He often went to the small restaurant alone to drink, and cried when he drank.
Several times, Huang Xuan went to the rental house with drunkenness, only to fall drunk in the shade of a tree and wake up more than two hours later.
Huang Xuan's negativity stung her mother's heart, and she said to her son, "Your father and grandparents have always been proud of you, and they are watching you in heaven." Are you worthy of them in this state? ”
Huang Xuan's aunt Huang Rui
Huang Xuan's aunt Huang Rui is the host and has always been concerned about the growth of her nephew. She also called from Lanzhou, hoping that Huang Xuan would cheer up: "The more low life is, the stronger you have to be." God is fair, and letting you endure so much pain in advance is a test and a test for you. ”
Under the warmth of family affection, Huang Xuan woke up from the confusion: Yes, he even has a problem with survival now, and he does not even have depressed capital, why do he dream of death all day long? Why not dry your tears and fight to flush?
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Huang Xuan stood up completely mentally. Ignoring the blank stares and ridicule of others, he went to a family drama crew to recommend a play. After all, the appearance, temperament, and acting skills are outstanding, and Huang Xuan gradually pushed open this heavy door of acting.
Li Qian
In 2010, Huang Xuan met young actress Li Qian at a party. She is 1 year older than Huang Xuan and a native of Changsha, Hunan. Like Huang Xuan, she also studied dance and graduated from the Chen Ailian Dance School in Beijing.
Huang Xuan did not hide love and made many public appearances with Li Qian. Many fans left messages on Huang Xuan's personal social platform, hoping that he and Li Qian would marry soon.
In 2012, Li Qian turned 28 and had the idea of getting married. Huang Xuan, who grew up in a single-parent family, has a deep fear of marriage and does not dare to enter marriage.
He told the truth about his concerns: "You also know my family background, which has a great influence on me. I thought maybe by the age of 40, I would have the courage to get married. This was unacceptable to Li Qian, and she had to endure the pain of breaking up with Huang Xuan.
Stills from Huang Xuan's "The Legend of Mi Yue"
Since 2014, Huang Xuan has become popular across the country for starring in film and television dramas such as "Golden Age", "Tuina" and "The Legend of Mi Yue". The media and fans are very concerned about his emotional problems and seize the opportunity to ask him if he has a girlfriend? When to get married?
Huang Xuan's mother also began to urge marriage, and she said to her son: "I didn't give you a complete family, and I have always felt very guilty." For so many years, you have not enjoyed the warmth of the family, and your mother hopes that you can get married and have children as soon as possible, and have a warm family and life. I'm still young and will help you bring up your baby. As long as you can be happy, I am willing to give everything. ”
When my aunt saw Huang Xuan, she urged her once: "Your father and grandparents are gone, and now I am the closest person in your Huang family, and my aunt hopes to see you get married and start a family as soon as possible." It was not easy for you to grow up, and your aunt hoped that you would live a normal life. ”
The outside world and the media urged marriage, so that Huang Xuan was under great pressure. He longed for love, but did not dare to enter marriage. Huang Xuan thinks like this: Now that the divorce rate is so high, if he can't keep his marriage in the future, he will bring deep pain to himself, the other party and his children. It is precisely because he has tasted the bitterness of single parents that Huang Xuan does not want his children to repeat his own tragedy.
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Only love and not marriage, even if you are excellent, few girls can accept it. Huang Xuan was left day by day. In fact, he is lonely and lonely inside, longing for a stable small family. But the deep fear of marriage made Huang Xuan discouraged.
He often asked himself in his heart: Do those happy and loving couples around him really love each other, or pretend to be happy?
Huang Xuan stills
In 2019, Huang Xuan browsed several articles online, written by several children who grew up in single-parent families. The spiritual monologue of one of the 48-year-old sisters made him cry with heartache. Affected by the divorce of her parents, this eldest sister is still unmarried, has no husband, and has no children. Now that her parents have also passed away, she is alone, and she is accompanied only by loneliness and loneliness.
Once she had a cold and fever to 39 degrees, could not get out of bed, and lay at home for two days. In the end, I had to call my cousin, who rushed over by long bus and took her to the hospital.
From this eldest sister, Huang Xuan seemed to see his future self, and complex tears flowed from his eyes.
In 2021, Huang Xuan is 36 years old and still unmarried and single. He doesn't know when he will get rid of the fear of marriage and enter marriage with courage and longing?
Huang Xuan and Yuan Ziyun
In response to Huang Xuan's deep fear of marriage, "Old Entertainment" got in touch with a well-known marriage expert in Beijing. The other party objectively pointed out that Huang Xuan's fear of marriage is very common among single-parent children. Many ordinary single-parent children also have this kind of psychology. Now the marriage rate is so low, which is one of the reasons.
Parental divorce can bring a negative view of marriage and love to children, affecting future happiness and family. Many people are afraid of marriage and choose to be single. Even if some people are married, they will lack reverence and responsibility for marriage, and even divorce like their parents.
How to reduce the psychological trauma of single-parent children and cultivate their positive and sunny concept of marriage and love is an important topic. This is not only parents and relatives, but also to give more love and care to single-parent children, so as to minimize the harm of divorce. All aspects of society should also create a harmonious and warm soil for their growth, help single-parent children establish a correct concept of marriage and love, and let them enter marriage with a mature mentality at the marriageable age!
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