Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Marriage is like a sugar cane, it is sweet at the beginning, and if you keep chewing it, you can't avoid becoming tasteless.
If a man changes his mind, he will not be at home, and if a woman changes his mind, his mind will not be spent on men.
She will become unrelenting, no longer serious about running the family, no longer caring about the man's feelings, and no longer having the same heart with him.
In marriage, after a woman changes her mind, there will be the following changes.
02. I no longer care about marriage
Some time ago, my brother said that his sister-in-law had changed her mind, although she was not found to be in a relationship with the opposite sex, and there was no substantial evidence, but he said a basis: she was very "forgetful".
My sister-in-law no longer remembers his birthday, no longer buys flowers for his wedding anniversary, and cooks a big table of dishes to celebrate.
She goes out early and returns late every day, and she looks very tired when she comes back.
She forgets what she promised him, buys him new clothes when the seasons change, and makes him breakfast in the morning.
And he, no matter how good he was to her, she always responded with indifference.
He didn't feel love, and he felt that his wife had drifted away from him.
After a woman changes her mind, she no longer cares about marriage, and she has no energy to run the family anymore.
A woman who has changed her mind has no sense of ritual with you and doesn't want to have more intersections with you. She won't listen carefully to what you say, and what you ask her to do, she will only perfunctory.
Once, when she loved you, she was considerate and gentle. And without love, you can clearly feel her indifference, her burnout with you.
03, to her husband, only cold words
In the TV series "Golden Wedding", Li Tianjiao, who pestered Tong Zhi and refused to let go, was married.
From an outsider's point of view, she has never been a qualified wife.
She and her husband often live separately. When I was with my husband, there was no response, no love, only cold words.
She herself once told Tong Zhi about the incident between her and her husband.
She said that she couldn't let go of her heart and accept a man she didn't love.
When her husband is close to her, she is very repulsed.
A woman has changed her mind and does not love her husband, even if she lives with her husband, she will be cold and will not want to say a word to him.
With him, she no longer has trust and is always on the defensive, unwilling to have intimate contact with him.
Moreover, she is becoming more and more impatient when talking to him, and she loses her temper when she can't say two sentences. I always feel that he is not good at anything, and the accusations against him are getting more and more.
A woman is no longer in love, no matter how gentle her husband is and how good he is to her, she can only respond indifferently.
04. At home, only put interests first
After a woman changes her mind, she no longer thinks about the future of the two people, but the interests of herself.
She wants to break up with you peacefully, and she doesn't want to lose too much of her benefits.
George Bernard Shaw said: "The relationship between husband and wife after marriage is not a one-sided request and give, but must be done to the best of their ability, each to the fullest." ”
Women no longer care if you are happy at work or not, but only care about how much money you can make.
She always thinks that you are not working hard enough and should spend more time and energy on your work, and urges you to pay more money to the family.
In her eyes, her own interests are the most important.
She changed her mind, and instead of thinking about the common interests of the two people, she thought about what else she could get.
I don't love it, in her eyes, there is no care or care for you.
Get along with her, and you will find that she only wants you to shelter her, and she is not willing to give anything for you.
No matter how hard you try, you can no longer satisfy her greed. She's no longer the one you're with.
05. Summary
Schopenhauer wrote in The Wisdom of Life: "In any case, we should not expect too much from others, or from ourselves." ”
Husband and wife, close to each other, get along well, they are partners who share weal and woe.
Two people are on the long road of life, and when they encounter problems, don't ignore them. If the problems and contradictions are not solved in time, the two people will become strangers.
As a husband and wife, we must know how to cherish together. If you can't stay together, you should also respect the blessing and walk the road ahead.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.