Writer Su Qin said:
"A really good love is effortless, there is no need to deliberately please, and the two people are already comfortable with nature."
Some women always try too hard, or even use a humble way to please, and the end result is that both of them are uncomfortable, and such a relationship cannot last long.
In a relationship, there is no uniform standard for how to capture a man's heart and let him stay by your side, but the most important point is not to love humbly.
It's actually very easy to get a man's heart to be attached to you, just use one means: don't take the initiative!
1. Don't take the initiative to contact him
The person who does not love you, whether you take the initiative or not, he is indifferent, it is not that the more you take the initiative, the more he will think about your good.
Even if you take the initiative again and again, it will make him feel bored, thinking that you are pestering him, and he will only decide to ignore you based on his mood, and reply when he is in a good mood, and if he is in a bad mood, he may not even want to say a word.
Jiujiu used to be like this, she likes a boy, and she will be the one who takes the initiative, whether it is sending WeChat or making an appointment, she proposes it.
But the more she did this, the more the other party felt that it was right, and the good things that had been promised would also temporarily release the pigeons, so that Jiujiu was very hurt and didn't know how to get along.
She was so tired that she ended such an initiative, and didn't want to continue to love humbly, but what she didn't expect was that the other party was not used to it and began to contact her frequently.
If you want to keep the other person's heart, what you have to do is not to contact too actively, let him discover your importance, and he will cherish your goodness.
2. Don't take the initiative to rely on him
In "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun chose to be a full-time wife after graduation, which means that she has to rely on Chen Junsheng.
Maybe at the beginning, Chen Junsheng's "I raise you" was also out of sincerity, but no relationship can compete with the years, and when the distance between the two people is getting farther and farther away, that promise will become invalid.
At this time, no matter how dependent you are on him, you will only completely surrender yourself, and you will accept what he gives you, and there is not much security in life.
It's like Chen Junsheng finally left her, so she didn't know what to do for a while, she lived under Chen Junsheng's protection for a long time, and now she doesn't know where to go.
If you want a man to be inseparable from you, you must not take the initiative to rely on him, you can only rely on yourself, only if you become stronger, he will appreciate you like this.
Rather than regretting your choice at the end, you should have autonomy from the start, and you won't be in a hurry when things change in your life.
3. Do not take the initiative to ask him for peace
When two people quarrel, it's best not to be the one who takes the initiative to make peace, which will only tell the other party that you can't do without him, and no matter what he does, you can forgive.
If you have been wronged like this, it will only make him gain an inch, and the next time he quarrels, he will be like this, and even worsen, without taking into account your mood.
Just like in "Predecessor 3", Lin Jia is like this to Meng Yun, they often quarrel with each other, Lin Jia will be the one who bows his head because he loves him, but every time he does this, it is not suitable.
At the last moment, she stubbornly refused to bow her head, just made some movements, wanted the other party to keep her, and wanted him to understand through this quarrel that she could leave at any time.
Sometimes, you don't want to be too proactive, especially during the Cold War, you can wait for him to make peace, it's a matter of attitude, and it can also prove that he doesn't care about you at all.
In the relationship, the party who is too active is destined to lose badly.
If you will only humble and flatter, he will tolerate everything, and he will forgive everything he does, then you can only wait to be wronged, and such a woman is often not cherished.
If you want him to be attached to you, then you must first love yourself well and make yourself stronger, only if you make him feel that he will leave at any time, he will value your existence.