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The relationship between the family and the family is a special relationship of kinship, which is based on the marriage relationship of the children, and if the marriage of the children is maintained, then the two families are the in-laws.
Between the in-laws, you need to get along well, and if the relationship is handled well, the children's marriage will be smooth and life will be prosperous.
If the relationship between the in-laws and the family is not good, not only will the two families get awkward, but the lives of the children will also be affected.
No matter who you are in-laws with, you can't avoid getting along with your in-laws.
Therefore, it is enough to get along with the family and visit the door to do these three points, which is the basic etiquette and very important!
One
Don't compare with your in-laws.
Get along with the in-laws, visit the door, go to the other party's home, see the situation in the other party's home, even if you feel that the other party's house is not big enough, not luxurious enough, not good enough for your own home, don't compare, just say that the conditions of the other party's home are very poor, and then say that your home is several times better than your in-laws' home.
Since you have become an in-law, you must learn to accept the true situation of the other family. Even if the other party's family background is not as good as your own, then don't compare it anymore, and think about your children, respect your in-laws, and be decent as a person.
People often say that if you are looking for an in-law, you have to be the right person, but the child's choice, parents should also respect the child, and complete the child's marriage, as long as the child likes it and lives happily.
As for the conditions of the in-laws, don't worry so much, young people have their own ability, and in the future, they will rely on themselves and live their own lives.
When you go to your in-laws' home, no matter what your in-laws' family background is, don't compare, because comparison is very cheap and will only affect the relationship between the two families.
Two
Do not judge the family affairs of the in-laws.
When you get along with your family, when you visit each other, you see some things in the other party's house, and it's best not to judge.
Every family has a difficult scripture to read, right and wrong, it is someone else's housework, as an in-law, even if you happen to encounter a conflict in your in-law's family, don't get involved casually, don't interfere too much, and don't make accusations.
If you criticize the behavior of your in-laws in person, your attitude is very excited, and it will only make your in-laws unable to come to the stage, even if your in-laws dare not say it, but things may be in a bad mood, which will naturally embarrass the child.
The most decent way is to see through it and not say it, you can persuade your in-laws, but don't blame too much, in order to reduce the contradictions.
If you visit your in-laws and the atmosphere at home is not very good, then you will find an excuse to go back early, don't stay at your in-laws' house to watch the excitement.
Three
Do not file a complaint with your in-laws.
It is a good thing to get along with the family and visit the door, and getting along well can make the relationship between the two families more harmonious.
But pay attention, in front of the in-laws, do not complain to the other party about the child, even if the child does some things wrong, some living habits are not in line with you, some concepts are different, or there is a misunderstanding in getting along, then there is no need to complain to the in-laws that the other party's child is impolite.
I remembered that when I went back to the village before, I met a misunderstanding between the second aunt and her daughter-in-law, and the second aunt bought fish and came back that day to make fish soup, but she didn't expect to be taken away by the cat.
So there was no food that night, and the second aunt told her daughter-in-law in the group that there were not many dishes tonight, and asked her to have dinner in the unit and come back.
The daughter-in-law thought that her mother-in-law did not let her come back to the house for dinner, so she told her husband if she did not pay her living expenses every month, so she told herself not to come back for dinner.
After the second aunt knew that her daughter-in-law thought of her like this, she was so angry that she couldn't sleep all night, but she didn't call her in-laws to tell her about it, so she silently digested it herself.
If you really call your in-laws when you encounter something, or sue in front of your in-laws, then the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will easily break down, and even the marriage will be directly affected.
Get along with each other, be more tolerant and understanding, don't care so much, and know how to leave dignity for each other, which is the basic etiquette.
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