#寻找热爱表达的你#
Yesterday, I watched a self-media and said that men have no love, don't say love and gratitude to men.
I don't agree with that. In fact, there is love in the world, but some people have different cognitive abilities, so they can't see love, and they won't know how to love.
The essence of everything in the world is the fluctuation of a pair of forces, and love is actually a fluctuation of a pair of forces.
Love is the resonance of two souls' hearts. This is the original meaning of love. In fact, love is also the nourishment and carving of two souls.
Love is divided into two directions, one direction is the direction that follows, including respect, care, care, love, protection, support, encouragement, etc.
The other direction is to supervise education and manage criticism. Moisture is the direction of the force. Carving is against the direction of movement of the soul.
In fact, love should be careful not to hurt the soul when it goes against the direction of the soul, and should be based on understanding human nature and understanding people's hearts, sometimes related to the other party's problems, and should be done on the basis of respecting the other party's human rights.
And our traditional love, on the one hand, either dotes on the other person and fulfills his wishes with whatever he wants. On the one hand, they don't know how to respect, interfere too much with each other, and sometimes do things that hurt each other against their will.
Love should be based on understanding the other person's heart, if you don't understand what the other person really wants, often put the cart before the horse, and do things that cause the other person's dissatisfaction and resentment.
Love should be built on the basis of wisdom, that is to say, love should not only understand the other person's heart, but also understand the right and wrong of the other party's actions. Only by knowing how to reflect on oneself at all times, and being able to correct oneself can the other party be willing to accept education and management.
And when your cognitive ability and analytical judgment ability are very strong, you can lead others on the right path, otherwise when you don't have the ability to judge correctly, you can't educate your children well, and you won't win the respect of others.
Know how to love, understand your own insignificance and ignorance, and understand that you will also make wrong judgments because of cognitive limitations. Therefore, when we educate children, we should educate them with an open mind, so that children can learn to find answers on their own, and they are constantly learning and improving, and they are constantly thinking and improving.
Love learns to respect the other person's wishes and not do things that hurt the other person's mind and body.
Sometimes our language is too sharp and sharp, and it can hurt others, so love is to know the other person's preferences and not say things that hurt the other person. Love is also a kind of spiritual care.
And when educating and managing and criticizing, sometimes don't think that only ugly words will be remembered by the other party, in fact, when we say that the image is vivid and interesting, others can accept it.
This requires improving the vocabulary of the language and constantly scrutinizing the meaning of the words, so that others can both memorize and realize mistakes.
And sometimes there are people who can't be educated well because they have problems with their vision and perspective, and we sometimes disconnect appropriately, or ignore such people.
Sometimes if some people know how to love, they will know that those who love are good. And some people are going in the opposite direction no matter what you say, so it's good for us to choose to leave such people.
And sometimes love also needs to let go, and the other party needs to make their own choices.
Love is a very precious energy, which is not only limited to caring for the material basis such as food, clothing, housing and transportation, but also the needs and satisfaction of the soul. When the other person is experiencing difficulties or illnesses and other low feelings, be careful. And after the other party has achieved results, they should also send blessings.
Being able to give just the right amount of love to a loved one is the greatest wisdom in life. Love is connected to wisdom, and love is love without harm.
I hope that each of us can meet the right people and take care of themselves. I hope that each of us will feel warmth and happiness in love.
Recognize beauty, explore beauty,
Discover beauty and love beauty
Follow the footsteps of beauty
Live a beautiful life
Liwen Yuexin,
In beautiful words
Delight the mind.
Editor: Ru Liwen,
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He likes literature and poetry
May life and poetry always accompany each other,
May time and beauty always depend on each other!
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