The literal meaning of this old saying is very simple, it means that even if there is a grave in front of one's house, there is nothing to worry about or fear. But if it's your own door facing your neighbor's door, that's not good.
This makes many people feel incomprehensible, if there is a cemetery in front of their house, isn't it very unlucky? Why would you rather have a cemetery in front of your door than your own door facing your neighbor's door? What's so bad about door-to-door?
In fact, this is not groundless, this sentence of the ancients seems simple, but it contains the deep thinking and experience summary of the living environment of the ancients. Let's take a look!
Let's take a look at the first half of the sentence first, this situation basically does not occur in the northern region, because most of the north is plain, and the land is vast and sparsely populated, so there is rarely a cemetery in front of the door.
However, in the southern region, because of the mountainous area, land resources are relatively tight, you will see some people's houses near the cemetery, and even some houses are opposite the cemetery.
When I was in Guangdong before, I saw that many villagers had cemeteries near their houses. In addition, the same is true in Xiaobian's hometown, some villagers' houses are not far from the cemetery, which is not unusual.
The old saying "not afraid of a grave in front of the door" expresses that people are not particularly afraid of having a grave in front of the door. In ancient times, due to limited land resources, it was not uncommon for people to live next to tombs.
There are also two main situations here, the first is that the cemetery in front of the door is the ancestral grave of one's own family, or the cemetery is someone else's, but there is a cemetery here, and then the house is built. Because the people who built the houses had no other homesteads, they had to build their houses on the land near the cemetery.
Moreover, the ancients had a special reverence for death and ancestors, and the grave was also regarded as the resting place of the ancestors to a certain extent.
Although having a grave in front of the door may cause some psychological discomfort, over the long course of life, people gradually get used to the environment and think that as long as they are in awe, there will be no big problem.
So why is "door-to-door" bad? In ancient times on the mainland, it was indeed very taboo to go door-to-door, especially the door of one's own house should not be facing the door of the neighbor's house. In the eyes of the ancients, such a pattern was very unfavorable.
First of all, from a feng shui point of view, door-to-door is prone to "door rushing". Feng Shui theory believes that when the air flow passes through the door, the flow of energy will be generated, and if the two doors are facing each other, the air flow will directly collide, thus disrupting the aura balance of the living environment.
For example, it is believed that this unbalanced aura may affect the fortune and health of the occupants. For example, it may lead to problems such as disharmony in family relationships, poor financial luck, and physical discomfort.
Secondly, from the perspective of practical life, door-to-door will also bring some inconvenience. On the one hand, door-to-door affects the privacy of the residence. When two doors are facing each other, the activities between neighbors are easy to be seen by each other, and there is a lack of privacy space. This can be uncomfortable, especially in situations where private space is needed.
On the other hand, door-to-door may increase noise interference. If neighbors come in and out frequently or there is a lot of movement, the sound will be transmitted directly to the opposite home, affecting the rest and quality of life of the occupants.
In addition, even if it is door-to-door, it will also cause some inconvenience in life and bring unnecessary trouble. Especially if one party loves hygiene and the other does not love hygiene, it is easy to cause discord in the neighborhood.
Like in the city now, this situation often happens, because many commercial houses in the city are door-to-door, and some will have disputes because the other party does not care about hygiene, or occupies public resources, such as putting shoes outside, etc.
In addition, door-to-door can also trigger some psychological stress. In the long run, people may unconsciously compare themselves with their neighbors on the other side, resulting in a sense of competition or stress. This state of mind may affect people's mood and attitude towards life, and even have a negative impact on interpersonal relationships.
It can be seen that there is still some truth in the words of the ancestors, and even today, there is some reference significance. After all, when building a house, if there is a graveyard near the house, this cannot be changed, but the direction of the door of the house, or the specific location, can be changed.
In short, the words of the ancients are still reminding us that when building a house, try to avoid the door-to-door pattern, which is also to avoid some unnecessary troubles.
As the old saying goes: neighbors should build high walls, relatives should have less contact, and keep some distance appropriately, which is more conducive to the relationship between each other, what do you say? #秋日生活打卡季#