Writer Zhang Ailing said:
"To get love, you can use any method, but to maintain love, you need a certain amount of wisdom."
In love, a woman is always insecure, she always wants to stick to each other and know what the other person is doing, so as to gain some kind of peace of mind.
But in fact, you can keep his person, you can't keep his heart, and what you need to keep love is wisdom and calmness, rather than pestering each other all the time.
Women want men to be inseparable from you, and love you to the bone, you can do "three don't ask"!
1. Don't ask about his whereabouts
Sometimes, women are always suspicious, and as soon as the other person returns a little later, they start to ask about the other person's whereabouts.
Maybe at first, the man will answer one by one to reassure you, but after a long time, he will feel bound and not free, and he will slowly perfunctory you.
What you have to learn is to give him enough respect and let him take the initiative to report his whereabouts, which will not only turn against the customer, but also make him strain the relationship with each other.
A few days ago, I listened to a podcast, Ma Weiwei talked about her relationship with her boyfriend, she said that she didn't ask much, what he did outside, it really didn't matter if he didn't want to report it.
But as for her boyfriend, as long as she goes out, he will send her a video, telling her where she is and who she is with, so that she has a bottom in her heart.
Every time, Ma Weiwei couldn't cry or laugh, and told him that this was not good, so many people were watching, and her boyfriend didn't care about this, he just wanted her to rest assured, and didn't care about anything else.
You see, this is what a smart woman does, when you give the other person space, he is not used to it, and wants to report his whereabouts.
Second, don't ask about his past
For a man, there are some things in the past that he doesn't want to mention, and if you keep asking the other person these questions, he will only find it annoying.
Maybe you will be entangled, since he loves me, why is he reluctant to talk about the past, am I not the person he loves the most?
In fact, this has nothing to do with whether you love or not, everyone has their own bottom line, and these past are his most secret things, so don't mention it.
Yan Mo in "I Only Like You", don't look at him as handsome and excellent, but his original family is very bad, his parents divorced very early, but they have been hiding it from him.
When Qiao Yi inadvertently learned the news, he didn't say anything, since the other party didn't want to mention it, then wait until he wanted to say it, you asked directly, but it was not polite.
It is precisely because of Qiao Yi's respect that Yan Mo is willing to tell her everything, and ask her to help to see what the situation is, so you have to learn to wait, don't ask about his past, be the companion, and believe that he will love you even more.
3. Don't ask about his money
Women should understand a truth, don't rely too much on men, especially when it comes to money, and don't feel that the other party's money should be yours.
If the other person doesn't want to hand in his salary card, or doesn't want to talk to you too much about money, then you should be a smart woman, don't ask, ignore it, and let him have absolute control.
My friend Xiaotu never asks about her boyfriend's salary, she has her own career and can earn enough money, she doesn't need to spend him at all, and there is no need to accommodate between the two.
But she knows that when she wants something, the other party will buy it for her, and she will play with her, and of course, she will buy it directly when she sees a gift that the other party likes.
From this relationship, it can also be seen that two people are equal, respect each other, and the relationship can be maintained for a long time.
Women, you still have to learn to be smarter, don't ask what you shouldn't ask, don't care about what you shouldn't care.
Only when you give him enough respect and leave enough space for him, will he be very grateful, meet you, and be willing to continue to love you.
If your relationship is unequal from the beginning, and after a long time, he will only feel too much pressure, which will affect your relationship in the end.
If you want a man to stay with you, you have to learn certain skills, don't put too much pressure on him, and don't let him lose his freedom.