Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Life is like a big drama, and everyone has their own role.
In a relationship, no matter how much a woman loves someone, she must also learn to manage herself well and live out her highlight moments.
Don't be willing to play a supporting role all the time because of love, family or children, leaving many regrets in your life.
Women, you leave a way out for yourself, but men don't dare to snub you and love you more.
02. Do your best to run your own business
I have a cousin who lost 20 pounds after her divorce, and she didn't get out of the shadow of divorce for half a year.
Later, she saw a psychiatrist, and with the encouragement of friends and family, she picked herself up and began to run her business with heart.
She is patient and meticulous, and the handicrafts she makes are very beautiful and sell very well.
After that, she founded a company, took in apprentices, and lived a busy life every day, but she also felt happy.
Now, she has remarried, and she has not given up her career and relied on her husband like in her last marriage.
Instead, she runs her own business with her heart, and her husband appreciates her and shares the housework as much as possible to support her career.
The life of the two of them is also very happy.
Turgenev said: "Self-esteem and self-love, as a driving force for perfection, are the source of all great undertakings. ”
Whether a woman can get her husband's love or not, she must have a means to earn a living and something she likes to do.
In the process of running a business, you can make a lot of friends, show your talents, be recognized by more people, and also make more money.
Career is the confidence of a person's life.
Women run their careers well, and men will not divorce you at will, nor will they snub you at will. Rather, it will respect you more and take care of you.
03, love him, only love seven points; Love yourself with ten
Gu Jia in "Thirty Only", at first, she took out twelve points of strength to love her husband.
Whenever there was an emergency in the company, she would run for his business and break her heart. Caring about his body in life, knowing that he has fatty liver, paying extra attention to his diet.
Gu Jia takes care of the family properly, and takes care of the cultivation of children on herself. doesn't let her husband do anything, Gu Jia has always been taking care of him.
But her husband did not feel relaxed, on the contrary, he felt that his life was very stressful.
He felt that he was not needed, that he was worthless, and that the love that Gu Jia gave him was a constraint. Later, he betrayed her.
Women, in a relationship, don't love too much.
Don't lose yourself because you love someone; Don't reinvent yourself because of love; Don't just wronged yourself because of love.
There is a sentence in "Human Disqualification": "No matter who you are too enthusiastic about, it increases the probability of not being cherished." ”
If you love him too much, a man may not have the opportunity to express his love, he does not know what he should give you and what he can give you.
Learn to manage yourself, so that men can learn to love you and learn to give. The better you are, the more men will chase you and love you more.
04. Let yourself have a life circle and keep your connections
Anthony · Robin said, "The greatest asset in life is connections, because it can open every door to the abilities you need to grow and contribute to society." ”
After a woman gets married, she should not focus on the family. Don't cut ties with friends at will, and don't stop interacting with people in your mother's family.
Instead, we must learn to manage our own life circle and our own network well.
Expand your circle more, when you know more people, listen to their opinions and ideas, you will enlighten your own mind, you can improve your level.
When your marriage fails, there will be people who will sincerely help you, be willing to comfort you, and take you out of the predicament.
There is not only love in the relationship, but also friendship and family affection.
Cherish those who are genuinely good to you, and there will be more people who will give you more warmth and comfort when you fall into a low point.
Don't give up your network because of your family, connect with people who love you, and don't put your feelings on hold. To improve their comprehensive strength, life will be more colorful.
05. Summary
I saw a sentence on the Internet: "You can give before you have, you can cross yourself first, and then cross others, this is the unified law of the operation of all things in the world." ”
Love yourself before you love others.
Learn to run your own business, let yourself have friends who make friends in life and death, and have your own circle. If you manage your life well, men will love you more.
Love is mutual, it goes both ways.
People who know how to love themselves tend to give men more mature and rational love, so that each other can get more happiness.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.