In a relationship, the easier it is to get, the less it will be cherished.
It's like, you send WeChat and phone calls to a man every day, thinking that in this way, you can make him love you more, but that's not the case.
The more you take the initiative, the more you will make the other party indifferent, and he will even feel that this is all your willingness, let alone keep his heart and let him belong to you forever.
If you want to conquer a man, then learn to "keep your distance"!
1. Contacting every day will make you seem cheap
Some women are easy to fall in love, especially when they meet someone they like, they often mess up, although this is a very normal thing, but if you want to have a good ending with each other, you still have to use the right method.
Even if you like him again, you have to control yourself and don't send him messages every day, it will only make you look cheap and he won't value you more.
Xiaomei used to be like this, she liked a person, she would like it to the extreme, send WeChat to each other every day, make phone calls, even if she was rejected, she still had to continue.
Sometimes, I feel that she is too humble, and I don't understand why she loves so deeply, and she can't live without this person?
But there is no way for a person who is in love, only she can experience it herself, and she will not know how to turn back when she hits the south wall, it is useless for you to persuade her, and she will not listen to you.
It is conceivable that Xiaomei's love ended without a problem, she was too cheap in this relationship, and naturally she only got cheap love, the other party just used her as a spare tire, and when she had a new object, she left.
Here is also a reminder to women: men are conquestful, the more you contact him every day, the more he will not cherish you, you might as well keep your distance from him, but you can activate him.
Second, no matter how much you like someone, don't be too proactive
Can a woman take the initiative in love?
In fact, it's not that you can't take the initiative, but don't take the initiative too much, which will only make the other party catch your weakness and make him no longer value you.
Feelings are like a game, the more you take the initiative, the more he will feel bored, anyway, you can't do without him, it doesn't matter if he doesn't take the initiative or not, then don't pay anymore.
Like, if you send him WeChat and call him every day, on the surface, it seems that you care about his performance, but in fact, it is because you are not confident enough that you will be afraid that he will leave you, and you will always find a sense of security by contacting him.
The moment you do this, it means that you have lost, and you have repeatedly contacted him, then you have lost the initiative, and it is his business whether to reply or not.
Qiu Yingying in "Ode to Joy" is a typical representative, every time she falls in love, she is the one who is too active, she is too eager to grasp every relationship, and finally ends up scarred.
After she sent a message to Ying Qin, she would always expect a reply from the other party, and when she couldn't wait for any news, she would run around with her mobile phone, thinking that there was no signal.
In fact, this is a direct expression of the other party's refusal, he doesn't want to reply to you, he doesn't want to love you anymore, so naturally he doesn't want to contact you.
So, don't take the initiative to contact the other person too much, even if you really love him, take a step back and see his attitude before making a decision.
3. Keep your distance from him and make him feel free
You may feel that you like him and will contact him every day, and you do this just to let him know how much you love him.
But what you don't understand is that the more you send him messages every day, the more annoying he feels, and he will feel that you are pestering him, and now he is bound in love, and he will not be free in the future.
In a relationship, it is still necessary to keep a proper distance, which does not prevent you from liking each other, but to make each other have a sense of space and make each other feel unbound.
Writer Su Qin once said:
"The best way to love someone is to manage yourself well and give each other a high-quality lover."
If you are always staring at each other, putting more energy into this relationship, and ignoring yourself, then in the end, you will not get anything, it is better to manage yourself from now on and live your own life first.
When you become better and better, you will naturally be able to give a better version of yourself to each other, and more importantly, you are no longer afraid of anyone leaving.