If you can, you must not let grandma take the baby, these reasons show the "truth in the world"

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2024-08-09 09:50Posted in Guangdong Parenting Creators

Written by: Xiaowen

Before discussing this topic, I would like to ask you a question, who will take care of your children? And who brought the child up? There was a poll on the news network, and among the 3,565 people who participated, 44.1% chose "grandma with you", which shows that grandma has become an important force with a baby. Why did grandma become the main force with a baby?

In the past, it seemed customary for grandparents to take their grandchildren, but now this situation is changing, and grandma is gradually becoming the protagonist for the following reasons.

Bao Ma leans towards grandma to help

Many mothers said they would prefer their mothers to take their babies. In terms of living habits, mothers are familiar with their daughter's preferences and can arrange a life that is more in line with their daughter's wishes. As far as emotional communication is concerned, in the face of her mother-in-law, her mother often has concerns for fear of causing misunderstandings. But for his mother, even if he says the wrong thing or does the wrong thing, he is easy to be forgiven.

The mother felt sorry for her daughter and took the initiative to help

Just like shown in the documentary "Grandma", most of the grandmothers are worried about their daughters and are worried that their daughters will not be able to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and consume themselves, so they volunteer to take on the responsibility of taking care of the baby.

There are special circumstances for grandparents.

For example, if you are not retired, you have to take care of other grandchildren, you are not in good health or you need to take care of the elders in the family, etc., and you can't help with the baby, so grandma has become a choice. However, although grandma with a baby has many benefits to the mother, there are also mothers who say "If you can, don't let grandma take the baby", why is this?

Grandma often had to leave home

When I went to my daughter's house that I didn't know, I faced a huge change in my living habits and social circle. Like some grandmothers, who have never been far away in their lives, are introverted, and not only have to endure the rush, but also adapt to the new environment. They have become cautious in dressing and eating, and have lost their previous freedom and casualness.

Bringing a baby is hard work

Children have different problems at each stage, and mothers and babies often feel tired, not to mention that grandmothers are older and their physical functions are not as good as those of young people. Long-term fatigue and worry can easily lead to health problems. In addition, it may also lead to family conflicts. For example, there is a grandmother who takes the baby without discussing with her son-in-law and the child's grandparents, and later the son-in-law is dissatisfied, which leads to tension in the family relationship.

Therefore, if mothers want to ask grandma to help take care of the baby, they must think carefully and be well prepared. Although grandma loves you and the child, the task of bringing the baby is arduous, and the child is also the treasure of the elderly on both sides. When making decisions, it is important to take into account the feelings of all parties and not let this love become a source of burden and contradiction.

Dear mothers, what considerations have you had in choosing someone to bring a baby? Feel free to share your experiences and thoughts.

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