Why do some people feel powerful just by saying a few words?
Because in a person's speech, his cultivation and wisdom are hidden.
Lin Yufeng's underworld friend Zhou Jianhua in "The Way of Heaven" is such a person.
Zhou Jianhua only appeared once in the play, but he left a deep impression on the audience, and was considered by everyone to be a hidden master.
This side of sincerity is obvious to everyone, and I will not repeat it in this article, but I will only focus on explaining how Zhou Jianhua rejected Lin Yufeng's request with high emotional intelligence.
Zhou Jianhua is Lin Yufeng's fellow countryman, has rich social experience, is level-headed, runs hotels and nightclubs, and has a certain influence in the underworld.
When Lin Yufeng went to find Zhou Jianhua, the lawsuit between Le Sheng and Ge Lushi was in a uproar.
Under normal circumstances, Lin Yufeng had no time to care about anything else at this time, so his sudden visit was obviously due to something.
As for what it is, Zhou Jianhua has a rough idea based on Lin Yufeng's recent situation and the places he can use for Lin Yufeng.
And the things that need to be done by people like him are usually things that can't be solved by normal means, such as using hands and feet to cause a safety accident in Gregory and the like.
But smart people pay attention to seeing through and not saying it, one is respect for the other party, the other is to leave room for themselves, and then guessing is speculation after all, and uncertain things should not be said rashly.
And more importantly, "If you don't say any word, you are the owner of that sentence." When you say it, you are a slave to that word. "Once the words are spoken, it doesn't end well.
Therefore, after Lin Yufeng's visit, Zhou Jianhua greeted warmly and skillfully:
"Yufeng, why are you idle?"
This question not only expressed his welcome to the other party, but also quietly positioned Lin Yufeng's visit as a small talk, creating more room for himself to turn around.
Just imagine, if Zhou Jianhua asks, why are you free? The other party's next sentence may be to say, looking for you to have something, or encounter some trouble, and want to ask you for a favor or something.
But when Zhou Jianhua said this, Lin Yufeng could only answer according to Zhou Jianhua's thinking:
"Production and sales have stopped, it's okay to be idle, let's talk to you."
The meaning of Lin Yufeng's words was actually obvious, he came when he had something to worry about.
Zhou Jianhua obviously didn't want to wade into this troubled water, so he didn't ask anything, just followed Lin Yufeng's literal meaning, pulled out a casual posture, and asked Lin Yufeng to comment on his new show:
"I've got a new trick here...... You appreciate music better than I do, and you're here today to give me some pointers. ”
Lin Yufeng was very anxious, and after coping with it, he didn't wait for Zhou Jianhua to speak, and directly introduced the topic:
"Zhao Qing told me a few days ago that a few of you criticized me at the wine table of the Jinhai Hotel."
Zhou Jianhua saw the move and said bluntly:
“…… We feel that you have been a little inappropriate in handling the issue of the other side's request for peace, and you are not killing people too much, so why bother to help reporters shake and shake others? It's all over the city, you are a figure in the audio industry, you have to pay attention to your demeanor. ”
In fact, I just make my position clear: I don't agree with your way of doing things.
Lin Yufeng should also regret it, but he has no choice now:
"It's not a matter of grace or deity now...... Gregory is actually a poverty alleviation company...... Losing the case is almost a foregone conclusion. ”
Speaking of which, Zhou Jianhua couldn't keep avoiding, he figured out Lin Yufeng's intentions, and asked tentatively:
"Your big words (jumping off the building if you lose the lawsuit) have been fried by the media, if you really want to lose the lawsuit, how will it end?"
Lin Yufeng replied that even if there was no big talk, he would still have no way to survive if he lost the lawsuit, and at this point, he couldn't help but pay attention to Mr. Ding behind the scenes.
At this point, Lin Yufeng's intention was already very clear, that is, he wanted Zhou Jianhua to help solve Ding Yuanying.
Zhou Jianhua led him to his office and tried to dispel Lin Yufeng's thoughts:
"Yufeng, with all due respect, sooner or later, your character will be planted with his heels, even if there is no Gleam incident, you will be planted with other things...... With the car that Han Chufeng gave him, this character is definitely not simple. ”
Zhou Jianhua's implication is that the problem is mainly with you Lin Yufeng himself, who leaves no room for doing things and takes it lightly, and he can't complain about others, and this person can't be provoked.
But Lin Yufeng couldn't listen to it, and he felt that Ding Yuanying was calculating him and wanted to take such a breath.
Seeing Lin Yufeng's attitude, Zhou Jianhua still needed to know how far Lin Yufeng wanted to do this, so he asked tentatively:
"Do you threaten him or get rid of him?"
Lin Yufeng didn't think about what to do, or rather, he also wanted to test Zhou Jianhua's attitude and how far he could help him, so he directly threw the question to the other party:
"What would you do with this if it were the way you behave?"
This sentence has actually shown that Lin Yufeng wants to get rid of Ding Yuanying, otherwise he would not be entangled, and he would not ask so.
Zhou Jianhua was silent for a while, no matter what choice he made, Lin Yufeng would ask him for help, which was what he expected. If Lin Yufeng just wanted to threaten Ding Yuanying, maybe he would still consider it; But obviously, Lin Yufeng wanted him to kill people, which was beyond his bottom line.
Zhou Jianhua was very embarrassed, but he cleverly made the third choice and persuaded Lin Yufeng to give up:
"Yufeng, forget it! Let's stop playing with audio, the ebb and flow of the tide is a common thing, so don't take it too seriously. You come to me, you want to do it alone, I'll help you make a mess, if you want to be lively, let's just stir it up in a pot......"
This is actually a refusal, I can't do it, but he also gave a solution, I can support you to start a new business.
Because of the foreshadowing, coupled with the reasonableness of what he said, and the sincerity of thinking about the other party, it seems very sincere.
This is a very good way to refuse to be embarrassed, I can't help you with this, but I can help you solve it in other ways.
Of course, what Zhou Jianhua said was also polite, Lin Yufeng would not take it seriously, and it was not the result he wanted, so he was disappointed and unwilling to say:
"There are so many chairs on the dining table of Chinese audio, Lin Yufeng?"
It's also equivalent to asking, you really can't help me?
Zhou Jianhua realistically gave Lin Yufeng three reasons:
1. It is not difficult to kill people, it is difficult to kill people without leaving trouble, killers and insiders are hidden dangers for your life;
2. There is no benefit to killing Ding Yuanying, but it will ruin his image and make the company faster;
3. Killing Ding Yuanying is equivalent to digging a grave for yourself.
put on a high hat for Lin Yufeng again:
"You, Lin Yufeng, are also a meritorious person for Chinese Hi-Fi speakers, and you are a hero in the hearts of audiophiles...... Whether lying or standing, you should be a good man. ”
In short, these words are not only analyzing the pros and cons for Lin Yufeng and persuading him not to do that, but also reminding Lin Yufeng that this is embarrassing him Zhou Jianhua, because Lin Yufeng can't do well in doing this, and he Zhou Jianhua can't do well either.
When it comes to this, what should be said must be said clearly and in place to avoid pulling and misunderstanding, so Zhou Jianhua directly picked it out and said:
"Brother, brother, I'm not a good person, I'm a bad person who came over, I really regarded you as a friend and said a few words...... The underworld is not omnipotent, the way is the rule, and if you have what you can, you must have something you can't. Those who fight fiercely are not called underworlds, but ruffians and hooligans. ”
In addition to further persuading Lin Yufeng to do this unruly, he was also telling Lin Yufeng that I had washed my hands in a golden basin, and I finally lived a normal life, don't drag me into the water.
Then Zhou Jianhua gave Lin Yufeng a gun and asked Lin Yufeng to solve it himself. This is not only to completely block his own road to prevent Lin Yufeng from speaking again or finding the door again, but also to provoke Lin Yufeng and pull him back.
Because, knowing that someone else killed an individual and killing someone with their own hands must be a completely different feeling, and that kind of psychological pressure is not something that ordinary people bear. What's more, you can't live if you kill others, this is another layer of pressure, and ants are still stealing life, let alone people.
In this case, anyone should weigh carefully when making a decision.
It's just that Zhou Jianhua didn't expect Lin Yufeng to be so fragile and would choose to commit suicide.
It's hard to say no to friends, especially if you're in trouble.
Therefore, when encountering a more difficult request, it is not good for us to refuse directly, it is better to learn from Zhou Jianhua, refuse first and then give an alternative solution, but we must be sincere.
In addition, when asking for help, you must be measured, consider the situation of others, and don't let people do something particularly difficult, so as not to hurt feelings if things can't be done.
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