Husband and wife form a family is a whole, after marriage, they must break away from the original family, to put their own small family first, must not put the cart before the horse.
Of course, family members can't stand idly by when they encounter difficulties, but they must be aware of how to help and not affect their own lives because they help others.
There is a story about a woman who wanted to give her husband's savings to her brother as a bride price, and when her husband heard this, he was very disappointed in her and said angrily: "Not everyone has a conscience."
The woman has had a good relationship with her younger brother since she was a child, which is inseparable from the education of her parents, from the day her younger brother was born, her mother told her that she must be good to her younger brother, because in the future, her younger brother will be her backer, if she is bullied in her in-law's house, her younger brother will support her.
When she was young, she didn't know what her in-laws were and what a backer was, she only remembered to be good to her younger brother, so from the time her younger brother was still breastfeeding, she held her younger brother in her arms, helped her parents take care of her younger brother, and let her parents have time to work in the fields.
She is eight years older than her brother, she knows how to take care of his brother, she has been with him the longest, and the first word he will say is "sister".
The younger brother has a good relationship with her when he grows up, and the sister and brother have one heart, and the younger brother will tell her as soon as he encounters anything and ask her for help.
When she got married, it was her brother who carried her on the float, and at that time she finally understood the meaning of the phrase that her brother would support her and that her brother was her backer.
From the day she got married, she and her husband emphasized the importance of her brother to her, and when her husband heard that his brother-in-law was so good to his wife, as a brother-in-law, he must set some example.
My younger brother stopped going to high school, and it was difficult to find a job due to his low education, so as a brother-in-law, he took the initiative to find a job for his brother-in-law, and he would try to help him in life.
The younger brother didn't get a job at first, and he didn't have much money, so he could only live in his sister's house temporarily, and the man would take him to the restaurant for a meal every day after work, and on weekends he would personally go to the vegetable market to buy vegetables and cook for him.
The woman saw her husband's enthusiasm in her eyes, and he cared so much about her brother, and the woman was very pleased, and her feelings for her husband became even stronger.
When my brother got a job, he moved to a dormitory provided by the company, but he also went to her house on weekends and stayed at her house for one night.
For the brother-in-law's many visits, the man never complained, he felt that the brother-in-law was his wife's own brother, and he also treated the brother-in-law as his own brother, usually entertained with good food and drink, sometimes the brother-in-law was tight, he would also take a help, and took the initiative to say that he did not need to return the brother-in-law.
He treated his brother-in-law with all his heart, and the brother-in-law naturally knew that he was good, so after their child was born, the brother-in-law returned all this kindness to the child, buying toys, daily necessities, and a lot of snacks for the child, just like his brother-in-law treated him at the beginning.
The brother-in-law is a person who knows how to repay his kindness, the man is very happy, his efforts are worth it, and his impression of the brother-in-law is better.
But unexpectedly, his wife became more and more abnormal, and he almost didn't know his wife.
On the way home that day, he saw someone selling pork on the side of the road, and he thought it was fresh, so he bought three catties of pork and went home, and when he got home, he began to prepare dumplings.
When his wife saw that he wanted to make dumplings, she cut all three catties of pork, and then said to him: Let's pack more, I'll send some to my brother, and by the way, take a little back to my parents.
He thought it was nothing, just some dumplings, but his wife was even more excessive, and he had to give his brother a copy of everything at home, even toilet paper.
He asked his wife why she did this, and she said as a matter of course: he wants to save money to marry a daughter-in-law, and if I send it to him, he won't have to spend money to buy it.
He felt that it was all a little money, and he gave it to him, but he didn't expect his wife to behave more excessively.
His wife earns 4,000 yuan a month, and usually puts 1,000 yuan into the family account, and he saves 5,000 yuan every month, but he finds that his wife has not saved money for half a year.
After asking, I learned that my wife would save 2,000 yuan for her younger brother every month, just to save money for her younger brother's bride price.
It turned out that the family arranged a blind date for the brother-in-law, and the two were very satisfied with each other, and soon they were engaged, and the wedding day was coming, and the wife regarded the marriage of her younger brother as very important, so she must save money for her younger brother.
The wife brought things to his younger brother, and he usually didn't say anything when he invited his younger brother to dinner, but this time he couldn't bear it anymore and asked angrily: You gave all the money to your younger brother, have you ever thought about our children?
The wife said lightly: Isn't that still you? Isn't it the right thing for me to prepare a bride price for my brother? If you can't marry a daughter-in-law because you don't have money, are you responsible?
He felt that his wife was really unreasonable, and walked away in anger.
I thought that it would be too much for his wife to do this, but I didn't expect it to be even more excessive, one day he suddenly received a message from the bank, and all the savings he had saved were withdrawn, and he suddenly became very nervous.
He took the bank card home and discussed countermeasures with his wife, and as soon as he entered the door, he asked his wife if she knew where the money on the bank card went, only to see his wife sitting calmly at the table, there were several stacks of pink banknotes on the table, and after hearing his voice, he said: I took them out? What's wrong?
Seeing that the money was all at home, he felt a little more steady, but he still asked angrily: Why don't you tell me when you take out the money? What to withdraw so much money?
His wife glanced at him and said indifferently: This money is our common property, and I also have the right to use it, I took it out and gave it to my brother as a bride price, you don't know, people want a bride price of 200,000 yuan, and the little money saved before is not enough at all.
Hearing his wife say this, he was so angry that he slammed the bank card on the table, and said to his wife angrily: This is the money we have saved with great difficulty for so many years, and you have to take it all to others? Didn't you think about me and the child? What will we do with our lives in the future?
The wife didn't know what was wrong, but she also got angry: Is my brother someone else? That's my dearest person, I don't care, I just want to use it for my brother.
The man was so angry that he said angrily: Sure enough, not everyone has a conscience, and you have discussed it with your family when you do this, right? I'm so good to your family and they're not satisfied, I really can't get along with you, we divorce.
After the man finished speaking, he turned around and left, making up his mind to divorce, and had no intention of turning back.
Author's point of view: A man treats his wife's family as his own relatives, as a son-in-law, in fact, he has done well enough, but his wife is still not satisfied, and he gives the things of the small family to his mother's family, and gives all the savings of the small family to his younger brother, which is not clear.
She has formed a new family, she should focus on her own small family, she is a mother, and she should put the growth and education of her children first, and she should not affect her family's life because of others.
She should listen to her husband's opinion, consider his feelings, and not make her own opinions, let alone empty her own house and subsidize others.